Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
5 Signs her emotional affair is far from over…
Sometimes lonely wives find emotional meaning with a co-worker… here are signs that your wife is struggling with her emotional affair.
4 Ways to screw up saying “I understand”
I see many clients sink into communication quicksand when they try to say… “ I understand.”
Here are 4 ways we humans screw this up…
Did researchers explain the meaning of life in 4 bullet points… 20 years ago?
Having nothing better to do this Friday afternoon, let me briefly explain the meaning of life…
Slagging, the Dozens game, and the cultural utility of teasing…
Sometimes cultures evolve adaptive behavior which can be either easily misunderstood, or exploited by a troubled partner. Do these cultural adaptations foster mental toughness?
In praise of Dr. Howard Markman and his decades of relationship science…
Relationship science helps us understand how intimate relationships can thrive in challenging times.
Dr. Markman’s research team reveals how…
Glamping anyone? …Can you strengthen your relationship with a couple vacation?
In a recent study, 42% of the respondents said that they fell in love all over again with their life partner while on a vacation!
Why is a couple vacation such a potentially powerful reset?
Alexithymia, emotional awareness, and alienation
Processing emotions effectively is the essential challenge in neurodiverse relationships.
How does the use of metaphor and differences in emotional processing gum up the works for these couples?
New research from Greece: My 12 big, fat, beautiful relationship challenges…
New research from Greece tries to answer the question what are the top 12 challenges to enduring intimacy?
Attachment, Differentiation, and Estrangement
It was Dr. Murray Bowen (1913-1990) who first suggested that every human being is governed by the interplay of two counter weighing factors… the drive toward togetherness, attachment, and enmeshment… and the countervailing force toward individuality and differentiation.
66 Traits that might indicate your life partner is neurodiverse…
What if powerful differences in how you and your partner think might be the actual source of your unhappiness?
What if your husband isn’t an asshole after all?
Here are 66 traits that suggest that your partner might be neuro-diverse. ..
8 Indications that your husband doesn’t respect you. Or is he, perhaps…neurodiverse?
When asshole behavior arises in an intimate relationship… we need a explanatory narrative. And that’s when some neurodiverse couples often self-identify…
Circular conflict patterns in couples and the merits of systemic thinking
Systemic thinking is the basis of effective family therapy, and can help couples escape from linear, he-said, she-said thinking…