EP 8:
Why “Tough Love” Fails and What Actually Works
Burned-out teachers, ‘resistant’ clients, disconnected kids—what if the real problem isn’t them, but how we’re trying to reach them? Dr. Linda Metcalf offers a new way in…
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In this episode of Better Relationships Through Research, Daniel sits down with renowned educator, author, and therapist Dr. Linda Metcalf, PhD. With decades of experience in both clinical settings and public education, Linda brings a refreshing, compassionate lens to therapy and school systems alike.
Together, they explore:
The origin and power of Solution-Focused Narrative Therapy
How to engage neurodivergent clients and couples using postmodern approaches
The essential role of language, curiosity, and emotional safety in school settings
Why teacher burnout affects students—and how to rehumanize classrooms
Her work training entire schools to shift from punishment to curiosity and connection
What we can learn from the “throwaway kids” who thrive when given a voice
Her belief that resistance doesn’t exist—only the need for more flexible therapists
Whether you're a clinician, educator, parent, or simply someone curious about reshaping systems for better connection, this conversation is rich with heart, strategy, and hope.
