EP 7:
The Mental Load: How to Ask for Shared Responsibility Without Starting a War
Ever felt overwhelmed while your partner seems oblivious? You’re not alone. The mental load is real—and it’s quietly draining modern relationships. But can talking about it actually bring you closer?
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In this Monologue episode, marriage and family therapist Daniel Dashnaw explores one of the most emotionally charged topics in modern relationships: the invisible mental load. From meal planning and remembering birthdays to managing household logistics and emotional weather, many partners—often women—carry an unspoken weight that goes unacknowledged until it explodes. Daniel walks listeners through why this conversation so often triggers defensiveness and how to have it differently: with vulnerability, clarity, and a shared desire to rebalance the partnership.
You’ll learn:
Why the phrase “Why didn’t you just ask?” can be so triggering
How cultural patterns and relational dynamics shape the mental load
A 5-step framework for talking about shared responsibility without blame
What true mental co-ownership looks like—and how to invite it.
Whether you’re feeling burned out, unseen, or just ready for deeper teamwork, this episode offers a compassionate guide to preserving love before resentment takes root.
