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"Exes at the Wedding": A Celebration of Queer Relational Fluidity

In many LGBTQ+ communities, weddings often look less like a Hallmark scene and more like a joyful reunion of chosen family.

It’s not uncommon for ex-partners to play central roles: officiating, giving toasts, or simply sharing in the celebration.

This cultural phenomenon isn’t just a quirky detail—it reflects a deeply rooted set of values about community, connection, and the ability to redefine relationships.

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The Role of the Gay Uncle: Beyond Memes to Meaningful Connections

When we think of family dynamics, the "gay uncle" often appears as the fun-loving, wise, and endlessly entertaining relative who brings both humor and heart to family gatherings.

While pop culture and social media have popularized the term, there’s more to the "gay uncle" identity than meets the eye.

From evolutionary psychology to cultural sociology, this phenomenon provides a fascinating glimpse into how LGBTQ+ individuals enrich family systems in unique and impactful ways.

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Navigating Post-Election Family Dynamics: How Therapists Can Prepare for a Season of Tensions and Truces

With another election season behind us, therapists everywhere may be gearing up for a busy post-election holiday season.

Political divides can run deep, and family gatherings in these times are rarely immune to the pressures of differing opinions and generational clashes.

Yet, the season also holds the potential for understanding, empathy, and—perhaps—a family truce.

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Coping with Aging Parents: How to Navigate Caregiving Without Losing Your Relationship

As middle-aged couples move into the next phase of life, caregiving for aging parents can become a central and emotionally complex responsibility.

Whether it's managing daily care, juggling medical appointments, or handling the emotional weight of seeing a loved one in decline, the caregiving experience can take a toll on even the strongest marriages.

The stress of balancing these demands can lead to burnout, conflict, and even resentment, making it vital for couples to work together as a team.

Research shows that caregiving can strain mental and physical health, with many caregivers experiencing increased levels of depression, anxiety, and physical ailments.

According to Dr. Richard Schulz, a leading expert in caregiving research, “Caregivers often report feeling isolated and unsupported, which can worsen the strain they already feel” (Schulz & Sherwood, 2008). Navigating this challenging life stage while preserving the health of your marriage requires a combination of open communication, mutual support, and strategic planning.

In this post, we’ll explore how middle-aged couples can navigate the caregiving journey, maintain their relationship, and avoid falling into the caregiving trap of overextension and burnout.

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Grandparenting as a Team: How to Balance Being Supportive Without Overstepping

Becoming a grandparent is one of life’s sweetest rewards, a time to shower little ones with love without the responsibilities of daily parenting.

But it also comes with challenges, especially when you’re navigating this new role as a middle-aged couple, learning to balance support with maintaining healthy boundaries.

As exciting as grandparenthood is, it’s easy to find yourselves walking the tightrope between being helpful and accidentally overstepping.

The key is to approach grandparenting as a team, creating a unified approach to support your children and grandchildren while preserving your own relationship and respecting boundaries.

Let’s dive deeper into how you and your partner can enjoy grandparenting, offer meaningful help, and still protect the independence of your adult children.

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Surviving Election Season with Your Sanity (and Relationships) Intact: A Therapist’s Guide to Navigating Political Anxiety

The Election is Coming—So is the Emotional Rollercoaster.

As the election looms on the horizon, it’s not just campaign ads and debates that are heating up—it’s the emotional temperature of many households.

Whether it’s your friends, your family, or even your partner, navigating political conversations during this time can feel like diffusing a bomb while riding a rollercoaster.

Election anxiety is real, and it’s hitting harder than ever.

In the era of 24/7 news cycles and politically charged social media, many of us are experiencing what I like to call “Emotional Election Burnout.”

But here’s the good news: you can reclaim your sanity (and your relationships) during the election season with a few therapeutic strategies.

This post might help guide you through the chaos. I’ll try to offer tips grounded in social science research and humor to help you survive election season intact.

Because if there’s one thing more exhausting than political debates, it’s political debates with your loved ones. Let’s save those relationships, shall we?

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The ‘Uno Reverse’ Principle: How Family Dynamics Mirror a Wild Card Game

Family life can feel like an unpredictable game at times.

One moment, things are flowing smoothly, and the next, everything shifts with a single move. It’s not too different from playing a game of Uno—where strategy, unpredictability, and a few well-placed cards can change everything.

In family therapy, these shifts in dynamics, power, and communication patterns are common, and they often mirror the emotional “wild cards” we encounter in our relationships.

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The Power of Grandpa's Workouts: How Exercise Can Shape Future Generations' Minds

We’ve all heard about how hitting the gym can do wonders for our bodies and minds—but what if I told you that your workouts could make your grandkids smarter?

No, it’s not some quirky family myth or a new grandparenting hack. In fact, new research suggests that the cognitive benefits of exercise can be passed down through generations, even if those future grandkids never break a sweat!

Intrigued?

Let's dive into the fascinating study that found a link between grandfathers’ treadmill routines and their grandsons’ improved brainpower—well, at least in mice.

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The Role of Extended Family: Support Systems Beyond the Nuclear Family

Nowadays, the importance of extended family in a child’s emotional development is often overlooked. While the nuclear family (parents and children) typically receives the most attention in conversations about child-rearing, extended family members—grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins—play an equally crucial role.

Their involvement provides additional layers of emotional support, different relationship models, and a safety net when things get tough within the immediate family.

Extended family can offer children emotional resources that supplement those provided by their parents. In many cases, they act as buffers or emotional safety valves when the nuclear family dynamics are strained.

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Political Echo Chambers at the Dinner Table: Navigating Family Dynamics in the Upcoming Election

As the upcoming election looms, a new dynamic is quietly emerging in families across the nation—political echo chambers at the dinner table.

There is, for many, a growing polarization within their families, where political discussions that once fostered healthy debate now create tension and division.

The impact of these echo chambers is particularly concerning in the context of couples and family therapy, as it highlights the challenges families face in maintaining unity amid rising political tensions.

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Surviving the Emotional Rollercoaster: Life as the Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

Growing up is supposed to be about gaining wisdom, independence, and a sense of identity. But what if your parents never quite got the memo?

For many adult children of emotionally immature parents, life feels less like a Hallmark movie and more like a never-ending episode of Survivor—with fewer immunity idols and more emotional booby traps.

Emotionally immature parents might seem like they’re stuck in a perpetual state of adolescence, even if they’re rocking AARP memberships.

These parents often struggle with basic emotional regulation, exhibit impulsive behavior, and possess a worldview that can be charitably described as self-centered.

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So, What’s the Deal with Your Cousin’s Kid Anyway?

Ever found yourself tangled in the web of family tree branches, scratching your head and wondering, "What exactly is my cousin’s kid to me?"

It’s like trying to figure out if the person at your family reunion is a third cousin twice removed or just someone who wandered in for free potato salad.

But fear not gently reader! We’re here to help you decode these family connections with a sprinkle of humor and a dash of clarity.

Let’s dive into the family funhouse and demystify what your cousin’s child really is to you.

Because, let’s face it, knowing this might just save you from some awkward conversations at the next family gathering.

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