66 Traits that might indicate your life partner is neurodiverse…
7/6/23. It dawned on me that if I could be as concrete AF about Neurodiverse traits, it might be helpful to my new readers. As to what traits are most dominant? that can vary greatly…and your mileage may vary.
66 Traits that indicate your partner is possibly neurodiverse…
Difficulty Making Eye Contact.
A Face that is Mostly at Rest.
Trouble Reading Facial Expressions.
Sensory Sensitivities.
Social Anxiety.
Binary Thinking… a Ongoing Lack of Emotional Nuance.
Concrete as Fu*k …Literal Thinking (Not Getting Figurative Language).
Difficulty with Abstract Thinking (Understanding Time, Space, Power, Responsibility etc).
Trouble with Transitions - Moving from one Activity to Another, or One State of Being to Another.
Difficulty with Change and Especially Sudden, Unpredictable Change.
Deep Preference for Following a Predictable, Standard Routine.
Inability to read Social Situations With Skill (especially understanding non-verbal communication).
Difficulty with Initiating and Maintaining Small Talk.
Confusion with Sarcasm (Particularly When They’re On the Receiving End of Sarcasm).
Confusion Around the Dynamics of Humor (Challenge Understanding Word Play, Jokes, Puns).
Difficulty Relating to, or Identifying the Emotions of Others.
Occasional Difficulty with Maintaining Emotional Regulation.
Impulse Control Issues.
Special Interests, or Extreme Preoccupation with Certain Topics.
Difficulty Executive Functioning Unable to Think in Blocks of Time, or the Inability to Budget Time with Skill.
Difficulty Prioritizing a List of Preferences in Any Given Situation.
Challenges in Decisional Speed.
Difficulty with Problem Solving (Independent of Others).
Reluctance attempting to do two things at the same time ( There is No Such Thing as Multi-Tasking).
Difficulty Grasping the Reciprocity of Taking Turns.
Difficulty in Sharing Experiences In The Present Moment.
Difficulty joining In Shared Attention (I.e. Difficulty Focusing on the Same Thing as Someone Else when Required to do so in Social Situations)
Difficulty with Imaginary Play, Hypotheticals, or Role Playing.
Challenges with Understanding the Goal of Social Activities (Social Play for kids).
Difficulty with Cooperative Modes of Being, such as Playing with Children, or Collaborating with a Colleague.
Preferring to Work, Rest, Recover, or Play Alone.
Difficulty with Emotional and Cognitive Self Regulation.
Challenges With Present Moment Self Awareness.
Difficulty with Self Noticing.
Extended Time Required for Self-Reflection and Assessment.
Lack of Self-Esteem.
Self Advocacy Deficits.
Difficulty Following How Conversational Topics Change.
Difficulty Recognizing the Hierarchy of Emotional Significance in Conversations.
Discomfort Ending Conversations.
Difficulty with Body Language Struggling to Both Read Body Language, of Others and to Successfully use it Yourself)
Confusion About How to Use an Appropriate Tone for the Social Situation.
Discomfort With Vocal Inflection (i.e. Discomfort Varying Your Tone of Voice).
Problems with Vocal Volume Control (i.e. Speaking Either Too Loudly or Too Softly).
Problems with Vocal Pitch.
Difficulty with Intonation (Pitch or Vocal Speed).
Difficulty with Prosody (Using a Suitable Rhythm in Your Speech).
Occasional Difficulty with Articulation (Making Clear and Distinct Speech Sounds).
Difficulty with Vocabulary (i.e., For Some it may be a Limited Vocabulary, For Others, Perhaps a Difficulty in Retrieving the Words. (for Some, Idiosyncratic Definitions and Word Use).
Grammar Issues.
Challenges with Syntax (i.e. Understanding the Order and Sequence of Words in a Sentence)
Difficulty with Semantics (grasping the Meaning and Interpretation of Words and Phrases)
Echolalia - a Tendency to Repeat Words and Phrases You Have Heard Used by Others.
Difficulty Recognizing Faces.
Lacking Conversational Coherence ( i.e. Missing the Big Picture, or the larger Aim).
Sensory Seeking Behaviors (a tendency to Seek Out Sensory Experience). This May take the Form of Repetitive Self-Soothing Behaviors.
Hyposensitivity/Hypersensitivity (Less/more Sensitive to Certain Inputs).
Impaired Physical Coordination.
Sub Par Fine Motor Skills (i.e Lousy Handwriting, Sloppy Belt, Untied, or Poorly Tied Shoes).
Sub Par Gross Motor skills (Running, Jogging, Jumping)
Occasional Problems with Physical Balance.
Challenges with Proprioception (Spatial Awareness)
Lack of Flexibility in Physical Spaces, or Understand Their Social Constraints ( i.e. Insisting on Sitting Facing the Front Door in a Restaurant).
Difficulty with Making Sense of Visual Info.
Difficulty in Auditory Processing (Info That is Heard)
Difficulty with Tactile Processing (Hard to Process Tactile Information From a Sense of Touch).
