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Do Narcissists Have Demons? An Exploration of Psychology, Theology, and Metaphor
The question, "Do narcissists have demons?" invites a complex dialogue bridging psychology, theology, and cultural metaphor.
While psychological frameworks describe narcissism as a diagnosable personality disorder, many religious traditions interpret similar traits—pride, grandiosity, and manipulation—as evidence of spiritual affliction or even demonic influence.
Let’s explore explore the idea from a balanced perspective, offering insights into how psychology and theology can converge and diverge in addressing this provocative question.
"Exes at the Wedding": A Celebration of Queer Relational Fluidity
In many LGBTQ+ communities, weddings often look less like a Hallmark scene and more like a joyful reunion of chosen family.
It’s not uncommon for ex-partners to play central roles: officiating, giving toasts, or simply sharing in the celebration.
This cultural phenomenon isn’t just a quirky detail—it reflects a deeply rooted set of values about community, connection, and the ability to redefine relationships.
Narcissistic Gift-Giving: Why It’s Not About You (and Never Was)
When the holidays roll around and that one friend or family member shows up with a gift that screams “Look at how amazing I am,” you might be dealing with a narcissist—but not just any narcissist.
Recent research published in the Journal of Personality reveals that the motivations behind narcissistic gift-giving are as complicated as the narcissists themselves.
Buckle up, because we’re diving into the wild world of narcissistic admiration, rivalry, and why some people just won’t bother to bring you a plant to your dinner party.
Do Men Spend More on Their Mistresses Than Their Wives? The Surprising Truth About Gift-Giving in Relationships
The image of the unfaithful man splurging on lavish gifts for his mistress while neglecting his wife is a tale as old as time—or at least as old as Hollywood.
Think Love Actually, where the affair partner gets the expensive necklace, leaving the wife with… well, not much.
But what if this stereotype isn’t true?
According to new research published in Evolutionary Behavioral Sciences, men don’t actually spend more on gifts for their affair partners.
In fact, both men and women invest more in their long-term relationships, reserving fewer resources for extramarital or casual connections.
This revelation turns a common trope upside down and offers fascinating insights into how we show love and commitment.
The Role of the Gay Uncle: Beyond Memes to Meaningful Connections
When we think of family dynamics, the "gay uncle" often appears as the fun-loving, wise, and endlessly entertaining relative who brings both humor and heart to family gatherings.
While pop culture and social media have popularized the term, there’s more to the "gay uncle" identity than meets the eye.
From evolutionary psychology to cultural sociology, this phenomenon provides a fascinating glimpse into how LGBTQ+ individuals enrich family systems in unique and impactful ways.
Weird Things Couples Do: More Delightful Oddities (Part 3)
Love, it turns out, is a never-ending parade of peculiarities.
As a couples therapist, I’ve seen it all—from synchronized sneezing contests to debates over imaginary scenarios. Here are 22 more examples of how couples let their quirky flags fly.
Weird Things Couples Do: More Reasons Love Is Delightfully Strange (Part 2)
If love is a circus, then weird couple habits are the main act.
As your friendly neighborhood couples therapist, I’ve cataloged a second set of quirks—proof that love is as much about playful absurdity as it is about intimacy.
And yes, science backs these up, so let’s celebrate the delightful oddities.
Weird Things Couples Do
As a couples therapist, I’ve witnessed the bizarre mating rituals of humanity up close and personal. If aliens ever wanted to study our species, I’d tell them to skip Area 51 and come to my office instead.
Because here’s the thing: love is weird. Delightfully, hilariously, heartwarmingly weird.
Every couple has quirks—some adorable, some… well, let’s just call them “special.”
But what’s fascinating is how these quirks are not random acts of oddity; they’re rooted in psychology, biology, and the strange beauty of love. Let me introduce you to some couples whose eccentricities are as endearing as they are research-backed.
Understanding the Narcissistic Personality Inventory (NPI-13): A Quick, Reliable, (non-clinical) Tool for Measuring Narcissism
Narcissism—a word that’s become synonymous with self-centeredness and entitlement in today’s world. But in psychology, narcissism represents a specific set of personality traits that researchers study to understand individual behavior and social dynamics.
The Narcissistic Personality Inventory (NPI) has been one of the most widely used tools for assessing these traits in a non-clinical setting. And now, the NPI-13 provides a faster yet reliable way to evaluate narcissism.
Burning Out with the Dark Triad: How the Nastiest Personality Traits Are Fueling Academic Exhaustion
There’s a new twist on why students (and professors!) are collapsing under the weight of academic burnout. A recent study published in Acta Psychologica has revealed an intriguing—if slightly chilling—insight: personality traits from the infamous “dark triad” (Machiavellianism, narcissism, and psychopathy) might be setting up certain students for a crash course in exhaustion, thanks to their intense focus on appearing flawless. Let’s unpack this twisted love triangle of burnout, manipulation, and academic life.
Gestalt Couples Therapy: Fostering Presence, Connection, and Growth
Gestalt Couples Therapy offers a refreshing approach for couples who want to build stronger, more authentic connections.
Developed from the pioneering work of Fritz Perls and further shaped by contemporary thought leaders, Gestalt therapy emphasizes the power of being present in the here-and-now and focuses on each person’s immediate thoughts, feelings, and reactions.
This model encourages each partner to understand and accept responsibility for their individual experience within the relationship, making it especially effective for couples who want a deeper, more genuine connection.
What is Gestalt Couples Therapy?
Letting Go of the Past: How the Sunk Cost Fallacy Affects Relationships
Part of human experience is investing our time, energy, and love into building a meaningful connection with our partner.
This investment is part of what makes long-term relationships so precious, but it can also create a trap known as the "Sunk Cost Fallacy."
This psychological concept explains why people sometimes stick with decisions, behaviors, or relationships simply because they’ve already put so much effort into them — even if they’re no longer beneficial.
In couples therapy, exploring the Sunk Cost Fallacy can help partners see when past investments might be preventing them from making positive changes.