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Do Men Spend More on Their Mistresses Than Their Wives? The Surprising Truth About Gift-Giving in Relationships
The image of the unfaithful man splurging on lavish gifts for his mistress while neglecting his wife is a tale as old as time—or at least as old as Hollywood.
Think Love Actually, where the affair partner gets the expensive necklace, leaving the wife with… well, not much.
But what if this stereotype isn’t true?
According to new research published in Evolutionary Behavioral Sciences, men don’t actually spend more on gifts for their affair partners.
In fact, both men and women invest more in their long-term relationships, reserving fewer resources for extramarital or casual connections.
This revelation turns a common trope upside down and offers fascinating insights into how we show love and commitment.
Cheating in the Digital Age: How Boomers, Gen X, Millennials, and Gen Z Handle Infidelity in Unique Ways
Cheating may be one of the oldest relationship dilemmas, but the way people define, experience, and meme about it has evolved significantly over time.
Each generation, from Boomers to Gen Z, has shaped its own narrative around loyalty, trust, and boundaries, often reflecting broader social and technological shifts.
For a couples therapist, understanding these generational views can provide insight into how couples today approach fidelity and navigate its potential breaches.
Let’s take a closer look at how Boomers, Gen X, Millennials, and Gen Z approach infidelity, both online and offline.
How Infidelity Changes Both Partners: Understanding the Emotional Impact on Couples and Their Children
Infidelity can create seismic shifts in relationships, altering both partners' emotional landscapes and rippling out to affect the entire family system.
While betrayal causes pain and can undermine trust, it also forces both partners—and sometimes their children—into a new phase of self-reflection and relational change.
As Esther Perel, a leading voice on modern relationships, states, “Affairs are way less about sex and a lot more about desire: desire for attention, desire to feel special, desire to feel important.”
Understanding how infidelity changes both partners involves exploring the intricate ways it reshapes their self-perceptions, communication, and the family dynamics they inhabit.
The Flirting Paradox: Why Anothers’ Attention to Your Partner Can Cool Your Desire
Choosing a partner is one of life’s most consequential decisions, profoundly impacting one’s future trajectory and quality of life.
The search itself presents numerous challenges, from the time investment required to the risk of deception or misjudgment.
So, it’s no wonder humans have developed strategies to help identify good potential partners while minimizing effort and risk.
One common approach is to observe how others respond to a potential mate.
Have you ever found someone more attractive after seeing them receive positive attention? This phenomenon, known as “mate choice copying,” occurs in both humans and animals.
It’s a shortcut we use to identify desirable partners.
How Narcissistic and Borderline Personality Traits Shape Reactions to Infidelity: A New Study
New research from the International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health offers fresh insights into how narcissistic and borderline personality traits can intensify emotional reactions to infidelity.
The study shows just how these traits shape the emotional fallout from cheating, especially when the relational lines get blurred.
Pssst… if you or your partner have these traits, infidelity is one heck of an emotional minefield.
7 Warning Signs of Infidelity: What to Look for When Something Feels Off With Him
If you're reading this, you might have that uncomfortable feeling in your gut that something’s not quite right in your relationship.
Trust is one of the pillars of any partnership, but when infidelity creeps in, it often doesn't come without warning.
While it’s painful to think about, being aware of the signs can help you decide whether you need to have an honest conversation or even seek help.
Here are seven warning signs that men often give before cheating—and some insights from research on why these behaviors occur.
The Lasting Health Impacts of Infidelity: How Betrayal Can Affect Your Body and Mind
Infidelity can feel like a gut-wrenching betrayal, leaving deep emotional scars that can take years to heal. While the psychological effects—such as anxiety, depression, and loss of self-esteem—are well-documented, new research reveals that the pain of being cheated on might go even deeper, extending to chronic health issues.
According to a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, the consequences of infidelity can linger long after the relationship ends, potentially leading to lasting health problems that persist even when folks move on to supportive partnerships.
Oh no, you got caught cheating…now what?
Welcome to the purgatory of merciless self-examination.
You got caught cheating. Infidelity is an ancient weakness. It’s a sin that takes up 20% of the 10 commandments: one commandment against doing it, and the other commandment against just even thinking about doing it.
You’ll come to experience true remorse, but right now you just regret getting in trouble.
I’ll tell you that you’ve got a lot of arduous work ahead of you. Your old marriage is dead, and, because you both want to heal, you might have a chance at redemption.
Why Women Cheat 2024
Ever wondered why some women stray from their relationships? Spoiler alert: it’s not all about bad boys and revenge.
A recent study published in Evolution and Human Behavior offers some intriguing insights into the complex motivations behind female infidelity.
And as a couples therapist, I can’t resist diving into this fascinating mix of evolutionary psychology and relationship drama.
Navigating the "Work Husband/Work Wife" Meme: A Dual Perspective from the Worlds of Labor and Love
As a science-based couples therapist with a background in labor studies, I’ve seen how deeply our work lives intersect with our personal lives.
This intersection is particularly evident in the "Work Husband/Work Wife" meme—a concept that highlights the unique and often intimate relationships that form between colleagues.
While these relationships can provide essential support and camaraderie, they also raise important questions about boundaries, emotional fidelity, and the increasingly blurred lines between work and home life.
Sexism and Cheating: Why Even "Nice Guys" Might Stray
A new study, recently published in The Journal of Sex Research, sheds light on the surprising connection between different forms of sexism and infidelity among men.
The research reveals that both hostile sexism—blatant negative attitudes towards women—and benevolent sexism—those seemingly well-intentioned but ultimately condescending views—are both strong predictors of cheating.
What's more, many women don't seem to realize that those charming "nice guys" who insist on holding doors and paying for everything might be just as likely to stray as the openly misogynistic types.
Resilience in Relationships Post-Infidelity: Rebuilding Trust and Moving Forward
When Sarah discovered that her husband, James, had been unfaithful, her world came crashing down.
The trust she had placed in him seemed irreparably shattered, and the future of their marriage hung in the balance.
Yet, against the odds, they both chose to stay and work through the aftermath. This wasn’t just about surviving the crisis; it was about finding resilience—strengthening their bond and rebuilding their relationship into something stronger than before.