In the aftermath of the disclosure or discovery of an affair, most couples are overwhelmed by pain, rage, and guilt. It’s typical for clients to contact me in the early days of affair disclosure.

“My husband cheated on me… now what?" is a question I often hear…

A “mid life crisis” is a Bullsh*t cultural trope that is remarkably robust.

Why are we so convinced that mid-life is fraught with peril…and why does research say otherwise?

What Are Emotional Affairs?

An Emotional Affair is more than just a close friendship; it involves a deep emotional connection that crosses the boundaries of a platonic relationship.

These affairs often begin innocently but can escalate into something significantly impacting a primary relationship.

Emotional affairs are a common issue addressed in intensive couples therapy retreats.

How do Emotional Affairs begin?

What is affair recovery? Is it possible to recover from infidelity? How do you begin to address such a profound breach of trust?

Healing from infidelity is possible.

But it requires an emotional, spiritual, and mental determination to recover into a fully-functional restored intimacy stubbornly. Here’s a roadmap…

Our culture values fidelity. When parents break it, they break their vow not only to each other but also to their children.

Children of infidelity want to be part of a loving family… but once they’re adults… can they truly trust their intimate partner?

If you’re recovering from infidelity, you’re doing certain things right every day…

Are you rebuilding trust with your partner after a messy affair? If that’s the case, good for you!

Here are 9 ways to know you’re on track…

Getting over an affair partner is an uphill battle.

You want to return to your marriage, but you also need to know how to get over your affair partner.

The grief of the "unfaithful" involved partner is one of the most delicate issues in couples therapy.

What is limerence? Limerence is an emotional and mental state of deep, obsessive attachment to another person.

It often feels involuntary and is marked by an intense craving for reciprocity.

Why can limerence symptoms become so problematic that a limerence cure is necessary?

Because women are always “checking the thermostat” of their relational bond, they are less likely to endure circumstances that are severely and chronically unsatisfactory.

This fundamental difference between unfaithful men and women creates complications in couples therapy.

Women are far more likely to engage in exit affairs to cushion the collapse of their marriage…here’s why…

Rhonda Balzarini and her researchers discovered (as they had expected), that the polyamorous relationship cohort reported experiencing more “nurturance” from their primary than from their secondary partners.

They also told her researchers that their secondary relationships were more “erotic.”

What is the relationship between getting nurtured and getting nookie?

Dr. Vagdevi Meunier, a prominent thought leader in couples therapy, is my guest for the first video episode of my new Better Relationships through Research Podcast.

Dr. Meunier emphasizes acknowledging and validating each partner's diverse cultural backgrounds and experiences.

In this episode, we’ll discuss the best practices for treating infidelity with multi-racial and bi-racial couples, recognizing the unique dynamics and challenges that can arise within these relationships…