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Are you ready for a Digital Detox Challenge?
In the span of a generation, society has shifted dramatically from using paper to relying on screens, marking a significant social transformation.
This change has led to an increasing amount of time spent looking at devices rather than engaging with the world around us.
Addiction Management: Best Practices?
It's not often that I dive into research and come away thinking, "Well, that was a major WTF moment..." But here we are.
When it comes to treating addiction long-term, success rates are depressingly modest.
This revelation comes from a massive meta-review of thousands of peer-reviewed addiction studies spanning several decades.
Love at first sight…finally some real science
A recent study showed that over 33% of singles reported experiencing love at first sight, and men are 10% more prone to the feeling.
However, managing the end of the honeymoon phase is often a challenge.
The French have a phrase…Coup de Foudre…A sudden, unexpected event, especially an emotional one; love at first sight….Here’s the science…
What is Affair Recovery?
What is affair recovery? Is it possible to recover from infidelity? How do you begin to address such a profound breach of trust?
Healing from infidelity is possible.
But it requires an emotional, spiritual, and mental determination to recover into a fully-functional restored intimacy stubbornly. Here’s a roadmap…
Startling differences between men and women
Research has shown repeatedly that in stressful situations, women typically become fearful, and are much more likely to react fearfully to that same situation in the future.
Women also experience far more fear over their lifetimes than men.. why?
3 ways to tell if you have a high IQ
Ever wonder if your brainpower extends beyond solving Sudoku puzzles? High personal intelligence might be your superpower.
Here are three ways to tell if you have what it takes…
Why don’t I feel understood?
What happens when you feel understood? Good question.
To feel understood, and to understand in return, requires an intentional communication process. Here’s how…
How to make a marriage work
One of the first things a Gottman-trained therapist wants to know is the quality of the couple's friendship.
It‘s a well-established fact that a robust friendship is the foundation for a successful relationship.
Friends want to understand each other; enemies only want to prevail…
Understanding the fundamentally decent but angry man
Science tells us that the angry man must learn that he will not get what he wants by the vehicle of expressing anger.
Attention wives and girlfriends. He’s gotta understand that anger is the wrong tool for the task of influencing you.
If you can show him how you can more readily accept his influence, when he is not being angry, you can help him (and you) to communicate more effectively. Here’s how…
Children of infidelity
Our culture values fidelity. When parents break it, they break their vow not only to each other but also to their children.
Children of infidelity want to be part of a loving family… but once they’re adults… can they truly trust their intimate partner?
How do women flirt? …. the science!
When it comes to flirting, women have a secret weapon that men can instantly recognize.
This isn't just an ordinary smile or a neutral expression—it's a special look that sparks interest and sets off relationship fireworks.
According to researchers, the most effective flirting expression includes a head turned to one side, tilted down slightly, accompanied by a slight smile and eye contact.
Selective Attention and ADHD
As a marriage and family therapist, understanding the intricacies of Selective Attention can provide profound insights into relational dynamics and communication patterns.
In psychological terms, Selective Attention is the process of focusing on one specific object or stimulus while ignoring others.
This mechanism, often described through the metaphor of an attentional spotlight, plays a critical role in how couples interact and perceive each other.