Welcome to my Blog
Most people don’t arrive here because something dramatic has happened.
They arrive because something feels… different.
The relationship still works. Conversations still happen. Life continues.
But something important is no longer organizing it the way it used to.
This space is where I write about that shift.
Not just what breaks relationships—but what quietly changes them:
how desire adapts.
how attention moves.
how meaning erodes or deepens over time.
These patterns are not random.
They tend to unfold in a predictable sequence.
If you’re here, you’re likely in one of those moments:
trying to understand what changed.
trying to decide whether it matters.
trying to figure out what to do next.
Start anywhere.
But if something here feels familiar, don’t treat it as abstract.
It usually isn’t.
Where to Begin
If you’re not sure what you’re looking for, these are a few good entry points:
Marriage Is Still Chosen — Even by Those Who Once Stood Outside It.
Epistemic Safety: What It Is and Why It Matters in Relationships.
The Relationship Consequences of Living in a Permanent News Cycle.
The Two Types of People Narcissists Avoid (And Why You Might Be One of Them).
When Narcissists Grieve: Why Their Mourning Looks Cold, Delayed, or Self-Centered
The 3-6-9 Dating Rule: Why Most Relationships Change at Month 3, 6, and 9.
The First Listener Shift: A Precise Relationship Diagnostic Most Couples Miss.
Why Curiosity Is Sacred in Relationships (And What Happens When It Disappears).
If You’re Looking for More Than Insight
Understanding is useful.
But at a certain point, most couples realize they can explain their relationship clearly—and still not change it.
That’s where focused work becomes effective.
I offer structured, high-impact couples intensives designed to produce meaningful movement in a compressed period of time.
Before We Decide Anything
A brief consultation helps determine:
whether this is what you’re dealing with.
whether this format fits.
and whether we should move forward.
Get a Clear Read on Your Relationship
Take your time reading.
But if something here lands in a way that feels specific—pay attention to that.
That’s usually where this work begins.
Continue Exploring
If you prefer to browse more broadly, you can explore posts by topic below.
But most people don’t find what they need by browsing.
They find it when something they read feels uncomfortably accurate.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~ Daniel
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
The science of awe… the most neglected emotion
It’s just awful how little we know about the emotion of awe…
New research shows how awe can protect our physical and mental wellbeing… That’s awesome!
2 Common relationship patterns that absolutely suck…
There are 2 relationship patterns that are both incredibly prevalent, and indescribably toxic.
What are they?
The problem with depression…
There’s a new sheriff in town in public mental health…AI.
AI wants us to know we’re dealing with twice the rate of Major Depressive Episodes than we previously thought…
Just sayin’. … WTF?
What are the most useless jobs in society?
Is there such a thing as a socially useless job?
Why do a number of humans in sales, finance, and other endeavors, maintain that there job is bullsh*t?
Rejection sensitivity is linked with low relationship satisfaction…the drag of a partner with anxious attachment…
Rejection sensitivity is the meaningless suffering of poor differentiation. Research shows that the very efforts to soothe sometimes lay siege to the relationship.
Here’s what to do instead.
Does depression stifle intuition?
Does clinical depression stifle your intuition?
The first research to ask that question says …yes.
Has Augmented Depression Therapy (ADepT) eclipsed CBT as the new gold standard for treating depression?
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) has been the gold standard for treating depression… but a new approach has blown away CBT in a pilot study.. what is ADepT therapy?
The single best personality trait for a 40+ year marriage…
Emotional stability is the bedrock of a successful marriage. Humans high in neuroticism tend to fail at married life.. why?
When Sh*t happens… can it change your personality?
It’s an enduring cultural myth that our personalities do not change. new research suggests otherwise.
What are the life experiences that drive us to change our personality?
Do you have the sleep pattern linked with chronic negativity?
Researchers have correlated a very specific sleep pattern with a more intense battle with intrusive negative thoughts…
If you have a genetic tendency toward depression, you’ll respond to social support faster than most…
Many humans endure a genetic predisposition toward depression. Breaking research suggests that it is these humans in particular who benefit from abiding social support…
The upside of being an asshole…
Assholes who link their negative behavior to a compensatory, corresponding virtue can actually exhibit more of the positive trait.
As a recovering asshole myself, I find this research curiously uplifting….