How to Get Over a Breakup

Breaking up is hard to do.

Whether you’re the dumper or the dumpee, the end of a relationship can leave you feeling like you’ve been hit by a truck, followed by a parade of elephants, and maybe a rogue rhinoceros for good measure.

But fear not, gentle reader.

I'm here to help you navigate the tumultuous seas of heartache with compassion and some solid advice from thought leaders.

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When Two Narcissists Fall in Love: a match made in mirror heaven

Imagine a world where mirrors are worshipped, selfies are a form of currency, and admiration is the ultimate aphrodisiac.

Now, step into the realm of romance between two narcissists.

Yes, it's a thing, and it's as fascinating as it is complex.

As a couples therapist, I've seen the dizzying highs and tumultuous lows of such relationships. Let's dive into this dazzling dance of love, ego, and self-adoration.

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Is eloping making a comeback?

Eloping, the act of running away to get married, has long been cloaked in an air of romance and rebellion.

For centuries, couples have chosen this path for various reasons, ranging from escaping familial opposition to seeking a more intimate and differentiated ceremony.

As a couples therapist with a keen interest in the social sciences, exploring the history and psychological underpinnings of elopement offers valuable insights into its enduring appeal and evolving role in modern relationships.

Is eloping making a comeback?

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What does it mean to be Boysober?

"Boysober" is not just a trend; it might be a cultural shift.

Originating from the witty brain of Brooklyn-based comedian Hope Woodard, the term refers to a self-imposed hiatus from romantic and sexual relationships.

This break allows folks to detox from the emotional and psychological hangovers caused by toxic dating patterns and to re-center themselves.

Think of it as a romantic reset button, a chance to turn off the notifications from dating apps and tune into the rhythm of your own life.

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Why young men and women are drifting apart

The drift between young men and women is a multifaceted issue, influenced by various social, economic, and cultural factors.

Let’s consider some recent research and the insights of prominent thinkers like Richard Reeves to explore why young men and women are increasingly drifting apart.

By understanding these dynamics, we can better address the challenges and foster healthier relationships between the sexes.

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Narcissism and gift-giving

Gift-giving is often perceived as a selfless act, a way to show love, appreciation, or gratitude.

However, when it comes to narcissists, this seemingly altruistic behavior takes on a whole new meaning.

Let's discuss the fascinating world of narcissism and gift-giving.

We will explore how narcissists use gifts as tools for manipulation, control, and ego inflation.

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Power struggles in relationships and the importance of influence

Power struggles in relationships are typically shaped by gendered behavior.

Research tells us that over 80% of conflictual marital discussions are initiated by wives, while husbands typically dodge and deflect these overtures.

A couples therapist needs to normalize this dynamic; we’re not talking about dysfunctional marriages here. We’re talking about happy marriages as well…

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Are some breakups thwarted by altruism? The surprising truth about staying in unhappy relationships

Have you ever stayed in a relationship just because you thought your partner couldn’t handle a breakup? Turns out, you’re not alone—and there’s scientific research to back you up!

According to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, people often stay in unhappy relationships when they believe their partner might crumble without them.

Yes, it sounds like a plot twist in a romantic comedy, but it’s true!

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