Welcome to my Blog

Most people don’t arrive here because something dramatic has happened.

They arrive because something feels… different.

The relationship still works. Conversations still happen. Life continues.

But something important is no longer organizing it the way it used to.

This space is where I write about that shift.

Not just what breaks relationships—but what quietly changes them:

  • how desire adapts.

  • how attention moves.

  • how meaning erodes or deepens over time.

These patterns are not random.
They tend to unfold in a predictable sequence.

If you’re here, you’re likely in one of those moments:

  • trying to understand what changed.

  • trying to decide whether it matters.

  • trying to figure out what to do next.

Start anywhere.

But if something here feels familiar, don’t treat it as abstract.

It usually isn’t.

Where to Begin

If you’re not sure what you’re looking for, these are a few good entry points:

If You’re Looking for More Than Insight

Understanding is useful.

But at a certain point, most couples realize they can explain their relationship clearly—and still not change it.

That’s where focused work becomes effective.

I offer structured, high-impact couples intensives designed to produce meaningful movement in a compressed period of time.

Before We Decide Anything

A brief consultation helps determine:

  • whether this is what you’re dealing with.

  • whether this format fits.

  • and whether we should move forward.

Get a Clear Read on Your Relationship

Take your time reading.

But if something here lands in a way that feels specific—pay attention to that.

That’s usually where this work begins.

Continue Exploring

If you prefer to browse more broadly, you can explore posts by topic below.

But most people don’t find what they need by browsing.

They find it when something they read feels uncomfortably accurate.

Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~ Daniel

 

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10 Questions to ask your unfaithful spouse

Infidelity can shatter the foundation of a relationship, leaving partners grappling with intense emotions and deep-seated questions.

In this post, we explore ten profound questions to ask your unfaithful spouse, drawing from the wisdom of renowned relationship expert Esther Perel.

These questions are designed to help you understand the betrayal and foster healing, growth, and a renewed connection.

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Bipolar Disorder and Infidelity: understanding the complex connection

Infidelity is a challenging and often painful issue in any relationship.

When intertwined with bipolar disorder, the dynamics can become even more complex.

Let’s explore the intricate relationship between infidelity and bipolar disorder, reviewing academic research to provide insights to help those affected navigate this difficult terrain.

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Infidelity and Forgiveness: navigating the complex terrain of betrayal

Infidelity is one of the most challenging issues a relationship can face.

When a partner strays, the breach of trust can be profound and deeply painful.

However, understanding infidelity and forgiveness can help couples navigate this tumultuous terrain.

Let’s explore the psychological, social, and emotional aspects of infidelity, such as forgiveness, cultural narcissism, acceptance, forbearance, and the concept of inconsolability as described by John Gottman.

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PTSD and Infidelity: Understanding the connection and implications

Infidelity is a challenging topic in any relationship, but when coupled with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), the complexities deepen.

PTSD, a mental health condition triggered by experiencing or witnessing a traumatic event, can significantly impact relationships, often leading to emotional and behavioral changes that contribute to infidelity.

Let’s explore the intricate relationship between PTSD and infidelity.

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Testosterone injections and infidelity

Testosterone, the primary male sex hormone, is often associated with virility, strength, and overall male vitality.

With the rise of testosterone replacement therapy (TRT), especially in the form of injections, there is increasing interest in understanding its broader impacts.

One area of concern is whether testosterone injections might influence behaviors related to infidelity.

Let’s discuss the research on testosterone injections and infidelity, examine the role of narcissism and body image, and see what we have got.

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The top 20 Movies about Infidelity

Infidelity is a plot device in storytelling that has been explored across cultures and eras. It reveals the complexities of human relationships.

Here’s my list of the top 20 movies about infidelity, each offering a unique perspective on this timeless issue.

I’ll briefly comment on each of these films. Plus, we'll see how cinema therapy might be a respected adjunct to traditional couples therapy.

Get your popcorn!

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The All-American Affair: How Cultural Narcissism fuels the infidelity industry

In the land of the free and the home of the brave, a rather unflattering trait has taken root: cultural narcissism.

This national self-obsession isn't just about Instagram selfies and TikTok dances—it's driving an entire industry dedicated to extramarital affairs.

Yes, you heard it right.

The infidelity industry is booming, catering to those whose narcissistic tendencies push them towards seeking validation outside their marriages. So, buckle up as we dive into the paradoxical world of American narcissism and its thriving infidelity business.

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How to end an affair with a married man

Ending an affair with a married man is a complex and emotionally charged process. It requires a deep understanding of personal boundaries, emotional resilience, and often, the support of professional guidance.

This post will discuss the essential steps to end such an affair, informed by social science research and expert insights on infidelity.

We will also explore the intricate dynamics when both parties in the affair are married and what recent research in the USA has revealed about such situations.

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What is a conflict avoidant couple affair?

A Conflict Avoidant couple affair, like all affairs, has a straying spouse (we'll call them the involved partner or IP), and a hurt partner, who we'll call the HP).

Conflict-Avoidant couples can have either partner in the role of the Involved Partner.

The essential characteristic of Conflict Avoidant couples is a smothering blanket of civility and regulated courtesy…

sound familiar? read on…

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Post-COVID infidelity patterns in America: a social science perspective

The COVID-19 pandemic profoundly affected various aspects of life, including intimate relationships.

Recent observations suggest that patterns of infidelity in America have experienced notable shifts in the post-COVID era.

This post explores these trends, providing insights from couples therapy thought leaders to enhance our understanding.

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