Welcome to my Blog

Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.

Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.

Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.

Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.

Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel

P.S.

Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.

 

Marriage and Mental Health Daniel Dashnaw Marriage and Mental Health Daniel Dashnaw

Navigating Relationship Burnout Post-Pandemic: Insights from Reddit and Social Science

The COVID-19 pandemic forced many couples into uncharted territory, leading to emotional strain and burnout. As we begin to emerge from this unprecedented period, many couples are looking for ways to reconnect and rekindle their relationships.

On Reddit, users frequently express the exhaustion they feel from prolonged togetherness and share stories of navigating relationship burnout. Rebuilding intimacy, communication, and personal space are common challenges that post-pandemic couples face.

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How Different Types of Early-Life Adversity Shape Brain Development: Insights from New Research

Recent research published in Biological Psychiatry reveals intriguing insights into how different types of early-life adversity can lead to unique patterns of brain development.

The study found that children who experience emotional neglect tend to have younger-looking brains.

In contrast, children exposed to more severe adversities, such as caregiver mental illness or socioeconomic hardship, often show signs of older-looking brains. These findings shed light on how diverse early-life experiences shape the brain in distinct ways.

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Mother Brain: How Neuroscience Is Rewriting the Story of Parenthood, by Chelsea Conaboy

Good morning gentle reader! Here’s a review of the book Mother Brain by Chelsea Conaboy: How Neuroscience is Rewriting Parenthood.

In Mother Brain: How Neuroscience Is Rewriting the Story of Parenthood, health journalist Chelsea Conaboy explores how caregiving reshapes the brain.

With her background in science and health reporting for outlets like Mother Jones and The Boston Globe, Conaboy bridges the gap between cutting-edge neuroscience and the everyday experience of parents.

Her work is especially valuable for debunking the cultural myth of "maternal instinct" by showing how caregiving behaviors emerge through brain plasticity and adaptation.

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Parenting Wins!

Parenting is a journey filled with ups and downs, moments of sheer joy, and times of overwhelming exhaustion.

In the whirlwind of raising children, it’s easy to focus on the challenges—sleepless nights, tantrums in the grocery store, or the seemingly endless messes.

But amid the chaos, there are those precious moments of success that remind us we’re doing something right. These parenting wins, no matter how small, deserve to be celebrated.

What Are Parenting Wins?

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The Compelling Allure of Quiet Hope: Navigating Cultural Narcissism and Empathy in a Post-Trump World

In an era characterized by Cultural Narcissism, where self-promotion and the relentless pursuit of personal validation often overshadow collective well-being, the notion of quiet hope emerges as a powerful antidote.

This concept, subtle yet profound, speaks to the resilience found in everyday moments, the belief in gradual change, and the deep-seated trust in the possibility of a better future.

As we navigate the complexities of a post-Trump world, marked by division and disillusionment, the role of marriage and family therapists becomes increasingly crucial.

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Hyposexual Desire Disorder: Understanding a Common but Often Overlooked Issue

Hyposexual Desire Disorder (HSDD) might sound like a mouthful, but at its core, it's about something many people can relate to—a persistent lack of interest in sex.

It’s not just about having an “off week” or feeling stressed; it’s when this lack of desire becomes a pattern that causes personal distress or strains a relationship.

HSDD can affect anyone, though it’s more often reported by women. It’s recognized as a legitimate medical condition and is something worth talking about openly.

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Hypersexuality Test Self-Assessment: A Serious Inquiry into Your Sexual Health

Hypersexuality, often referred to as compulsive sexual behavior, is a condition where an individual experiences intense and recurring sexual thoughts, urges, or behaviors that can interfere with their daily life.

It's essential to recognize the signs early to seek appropriate help and avoid potential negative consequences.

This self-assessment is designed to help you reflect on your sexual behaviors and thoughts to determine if they may be indicative of hypersexuality.

While this test is not a diagnostic tool, it can guide you toward better understanding your sexual health. If you score high, consider consulting with a mental health professional for a more comprehensive evaluation.

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ADHD and Hypersexuality: Is There A Connection?

ADHD and Hypersexuality: Navigating the Challenges with Compassion

Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is often associated with symptoms like inattention, impulsivity, and hyperactivity.

However, a lesser-known aspect of ADHD is its potential link to hypersexuality, a condition characterized by excessive or uncontrollable sexual behavior.

Understanding this connection is crucial for individuals and couples navigating the challenges that ADHD can bring to relationships and personal well-being.

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Book Review: “Mothers and Others” by Sarah Blaffer Hrdy

Sarah Blaffer Hrdy’s Mothers and Others: The Evolutionary Origins of Mutual Understanding is a beautifully written and deeply insightful exploration of the evolutionary forces that have shaped human empathy, cooperation, and social intelligence.

Hrdy, a distinguished anthropologist and primatologist, takes us on a journey through time, revealing how the unique challenges of raising our vulnerable, dependent infants have left an indelible mark on what it means to be human.

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“Raising Your Spirited Child, Third Edition: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic” by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka

Mary Sheedy Kurcinka’s Raising Your Spirited Child remains a seminal guide for parents grappling with the challenges and rewards of raising children who are more intense, sensitive, perceptive, persistent, and energetic.

The third edition of this influential book not only revisits these characteristics with updated research but also delves into how these traits intersect with neurodiversity and the concept of the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) as a diagnostic framework.

By integrating these elements, Kurcinka offers a comprehensive approach to understanding and nurturing spirited children.

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Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans

Michaeleen Doucleff’s Hunt, Gather, Parent is a fascinating exploration of parenting practices rooted in ancient traditions, offering a compelling critique of modern Western approaches to child-rearing.

By weaving together personal anecdotes, anthropological insights, and scientific research, Doucleff presents a powerful argument for rethinking how we raise children.

This review delves deeper into the book's themes, bringing in additional research that either supports or refines Doucleff’s findings, and aims to provide a comprehensive understanding of the ancient parenting philosophies she explores.

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Book Review: The Danish Way of Parenting: What the Happiest People in the World Know About Raising Confident, Capable Kids

The Danish Way of Parenting provides an insightful exploration into why Denmark consistently ranks among the happiest countries in the world.

Jessica Joelle Alexander, a cultural researcher, and Iben Dissing Sandahl, a Danish psychotherapist, present a parenting philosophy rooted in fostering happiness, resilience, and confidence in children.

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