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13 Signs that you have Anxious Attachment…
Anxious Attachment, one of the three main attachment styles identified in Attachment Theory, can significantly impact how humans approach and experience relationships.
If you find yourself constantly grappling with insecurity, fear, and a longing for closeness in your relationships, you might resonate with the signs of Anxious Attachment.
Here are 13 signs…
10 Signs that you have Secure Attachment…
Attachment theory provides valuable insights into how individuals form and maintain connections with others.
Here are 10 Signs of Secure Attachment: Insights from Attachment Science Experts… How Many Do You Have?
How many positive comments to cancel a negative?
A recent study reveals that it’s the accumulation of countless daily negatives that can quietly erode the foundation of love and connection rather than the absence of grand gestures or intense positives.
This notion resonates deeply with the observations made by renowned relationship expert Dr. John Gottman, who introduced the concept of the "golden ratio" of 5:1, suggesting that for every negative interaction, there should be at least five positive ones to maintain a healthy relationship…
Disorganized Attachment and Narcissism…
Disorganized Attachment and Narcissism are two complex psychological constructs that have garnered significant attention in both clinical psychology and attachment science.
While Disorganized Attachment pertains to inconsistent and often chaotic relational patterns stemming from early caregiver experiences, Narcissism involves an inflated sense of self-importance and a lack of empathy…
Why is grief so exhausting?
As a family therapist, I've witnessed how grief impacts not just individuals but also their relationships and family dynamics.
It does not encompass stages like denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. That is nonsense and pseudo-science. There are no “stages” of grief, per se.
Why do kids who were bullied have a lifelong struggle with intimacy?
In a recent study, it was discovered that bullying during adolescence can sow the seeds of suspicion, ultimately leading to significant mental health challenges in later life.
Why is balancing work, love, and life so hard?
I often work with highly successful “C level” executives and business owners, and I’m often asked to help them establish a better work-life balance.
This is because career stress is often transmitted from to spouses like a virus, impacting the emotional and physical well-being of both partners.
State-dependent learning…an often neglected idea in couples therapy
What is state dependent learning? Unlike other therapists, I ask my clients to tell me when they’re fighting so they can get them badly needed help while in the middle of a sh*t storm…
Is a Sense of Purpose Sexy?
Could a clear sense of direction in life make you more appealing to potential romantic partners?
A study of dating profiles finds that having a sense of purpose makes you more attractive to others.
It’s also true that people with a greater sense of purpose in life have more satisfying relationships, which they report being more committed to and invested in…. Let’s jump in…
How to deal with triggers from infidelity…10 essential tips
If you’re wondering how to deal with triggers from infidelity, here are 10 essential tips from neuroscience and science-based couples therapy that can abbreviate your suffering and accelerate your healing…
Personality change after heart surgery
Personality change after heart surgery is a thing. It’s been on the radar of mental health practitioners …even while doctors proved skeptical.
Here’s what you might want to know…
What is mate poaching?
Why do some humans seem to love so competitively?
If they set their sights on someone, they will openly compete to entice them away from their current relationship.
The term is “mate poaching” (Schmitt et al. 2004; Schmitt and Buss 2001).