Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
Is a systematic, analytical focus the best approach to enhance empathy?
Occupational Psychologists at Harvard think that a systematic approach to promoting empathy is superior to a “gut-feeling” approach…
Here’s why they’re wrong…
Intense World Theory of Autism…
The Intense World Theory of Autism posits that, instead of autistic, neurodivergent humans being viewed as having differently wired minds, they should be seen as having more wiring with a sort of Big Brain Energy (sorry, couldn’t resist…) which is also ‘supercharged’.
Sinatra & the Stoics do Group Therapy…
Research finds that the Stoics, and Sinatra were right!
Accepting and adapting to circumstances that can not be changed is linked to fewer negative emotions.
Monotropism, Flow States, and Gottman Method Couples Therapy
When working with neurodiverse couples, integrating the concept of monotropism allows therapists to tailor interventions to align with each partner’s cognitive style.
But what is Monotropism?
Are you feeling alone, old, and afraid of losing you wits…even though you’re married? Read this, please…
An intimate relationship protects against cognitive decline and Alzheimer’s Disorder.
How’s the state of your marriage right now?..
Yeah, maybe, I can help with that…
What is Neurodivergent Burnout?
Neurodivergent burnout is a complex state that arises from the cumulative impact of stressors related to sensory overload, social demands, and the effort required to navigate an oppressively neurotypical world.
Milton’s Neurodiverse Double Empathy Problem
Recognizing the Double Empathy Problem with neurodiverse couples has significant implications for fostering effective communication and promoting inclusivity in their couples therapy.
Here’s why…
Nerodivergent Masking
Neurodivergent Masking.. what is it?
And why is it something we need to talk about so urgently?
The math of loneliness…
Therapists habitually rail against loneliness as a sign of our social atomization…
But a new 2023 study offers some hard math on loneliness, and some surprising findings…
What’s a neurotype?
If we could ever keep clinically apace with the consistent stream of discovery coming from neuroscience, then we’d eventually get up to speed in helping neurodiverse couples with an enhanced, and richer couples therapy experience.
Unfortunately… we’re not there yet.
Why the archetype of the grumpy old man is bullsh*t
Many of us will change much more than we imagine over the coming decades.
For example, as we get older, many of us become more emotionally stable, more agreeable and even more conscientious!
Patience, personality disorders, and the meaning of life…
Axel was right!… We all need a little patience.
A fascinating study from China discusses patience, personality disorders, and the meaning of life…