Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
How being empathetic to 3 specific emotions can help your partner to change…
Sometimes the hardest discussion to have with a spouse is when you seek to influence them to make a lifestyle change.
What 3 emotions must you manage with skill?
How just 1 bad night of poor sleep can impact your relationship…
Sleep deprivation is being identified as a persistent source of relational stress. This research suggests that relational stressors emerge after only a single night of disturbed sleep.
Here’s what you need to know…
Why does a hot and heavy start to a relationship tend toward eventual disappointment, and divorce?
It a curious truth, that the couples who are ardently touchy-feely in the early stage of their relationships tend to experience profound disappointment over time… why?
4 Quaint ideas for a happy marriage that have merit
New research has discovered 4 quaint ideas about marriage and family life that can magnify human happiness , and minimize suffering.
What are they?
How did the US government save marriages with pictures of puppies?
Military Families deal with great stress around deployment.
So how did the Defense Department use pictures of puppies to heal marriages?
Is there such a thing as the “worst” attachment style for infidelity?
Researchers suggest that one attachment style, more than others, presents a greater risk for infidelity.
Is this way of looking at infidelity a good idea?
What are the most useless jobs in society?
Is there such a thing as a socially useless job?
Why do a number of humans in sales, finance, and other endeavors, maintain that there job is bullsh*t?
Rejection sensitivity is linked with low relationship satisfaction…the drag of a partner with anxious attachment…
Rejection sensitivity is the meaningless suffering of poor differentiation. Research shows that the very efforts to soothe sometimes lay siege to the relationship.
Here’s what to do instead.
Does depression stifle intuition?
Does clinical depression stifle your intuition?
The first research to ask that question says …yes.
Has Augmented Depression Therapy (ADepT) eclipsed CBT as the new gold standard for treating depression?
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) has been the gold standard for treating depression… but a new approach has blown away CBT in a pilot study.. what is ADepT therapy?
The one thing you must know about supporting and validating your spouse…
New research from 2020 confirms what we already knew. When we validate our partner’s experience, we soothe their nervous system...
Ideal self vs. Real self?… who do you trust?
Who should trust more… your real self?
Or your idealized self?
The answer may surprise you…