It turns out middle-aged men are the power users of dating apps—swiping more, using more platforms, and staying longer than women.

According to The International Journal of Clinical and Health Psychology, men aren’t just chasing flings—they’re navigating a complex digital social ecosystem.

Let's unravel the whole saga, complete with science, psychology, and a bit of existential humor.

An interesting recent study published in Current Psychology forces us to confront a disquieting reality: certain personality traits—namely, narcissism and psychopathy—can fuel antisemitic beliefs.

Researchers Ann Krispenz and Alex Bertrams from the University of Bern identify these beliefs as 'dark-ego vehicles,' meaning they serve as outlets for self-centered needs like dominance, aggression, and moral posturing.

Ladies and Gentlemen, Children of the Algorithm, gather 'round!

Did you enjoy your Super Bowl? The touchdowns, the beers, the commercials selling your greatest insecurities back to you?

Well, let's talk about the real MVP—breasts.

Novartis, our friendly pharmaceutical overlord, brought you a bouncing, cantaloupe-colored PSA: 'Get screened for breast cancer, you degenerates! You stare at boobs all day anyway!'

An excellent cause, yes.

But the delivery? Pure Cinemax After Dark, raising the question: how does blending a health message with softcore aesthetics affect public trust?

When health campaigns become indistinguishable from soft porn, is the message amplified—or trivialized?

You've survived couples therapy—hooray!

Now comes the sequel: navigating life without backsliding into old patterns.

Research assures us that couples who maintain their hard-won progress are less likely to sheepishly return to their therapist whispering, “We, uh… backslid” (Doss et al., 2019).

Let’s explore the science of relationship maintenance.

You signed up for couples therapy, sat on the couch, nodded at all the right moments, and yet… nothing is changing.

Maybe you’re still having the same arguments about laundry. Maybe one of you talks too much in sessions, or worse—one of you doesn’t talk at all.

Maybe the therapist seems more interested in their notepad than your marriage. Welcome to the frustrating world of therapy that isn’t working.

Good news: You are not alone.

Research suggests that around 30% of couples drop out of therapy before seeing meaningful progress (Snyder et al., 2018).

The bad news?

If you do nothing, those unresolved issues will continue to eat away at your relationship.

So, what now?

Nothing shatters the dream of a perfect family quite like the moment you and your partner realize you have completely different ideas about how to raise a child.

One of you is convinced the kid needs strict discipline; the other wants to build a Montessori utopia in the living room.

One thinks screen time is evil, the other is Googling “best YouTube channels for toddlers.” Welcome to parenting conflict—where good intentions collide, and resentment simmers like an unattended pot on the stove.

Good news: Couples therapy helps.

Research shows that couples who attend therapy to manage parenting disagreements experience better marital satisfaction, reduced conflict, and improved co-parenting dynamics (Halford et al., 2017).

The bad news? You and your partner have to get on the same page first.

Convincing your partner to try couples therapy can feel like selling kale to a kid—it’s good for them, but they’re not buying it.

The good news?

Research says therapy works (Doss et al., 2009).

The bad news? Your partner might think it’s a trap.

So, how do you make the pitch without starting another argument?

Surviving a year of science-based couples therapy deserves a trophy—or at least fewer arguments about who loads the dishwasher wrong.

But here’s the real question: How often should you return for a tune-up? There’s no one-size-fits-all answer, but research offers some solid guardrails.

Think of couples therapy like car maintenance—ignore it, and you’ll be on the side of the Emotional Breakdown Highway.

According to Doss et al. (2020), couples who had regular check-ins were 40% less likely to hit crisis mode.

Meanwhile, Stanley et al. (2021) found that annual sessions work like relationship physicals—preventative, not reactive.

On the battlefield of love, how you fire the first shot matters.

Let’s discuss soft start-ups, a tool from the gospel of Dr. John Gottman.

They're the difference between a grenade and a peace offering.

According to Gottman, 96% of conversations that start soft end well. Hard start-ups? They’re the verbal equivalent of friendly fire—painful, avoidable, and, frankly, dumb.

Simone Weil, the philosopher, mystic, and social activist, offers profound insights that, when applied to family therapy, create a value system centered on radical attention, humility, truth, and the sacredness of human relationships.

It’s not for the faint of heart.

Weil’s thought challenges modern notions of power and self-interest, replacing them with a call to self-emptying love (décréation) and an intense, non-possessive regard for others.

What emerges is a family therapy philosophy that prioritizes attention over control, truth over comfort, and suffering as a site of meaning rather than pathology.

Simone Weil (1909–1943) was a human tuning fork, a highly sensitive person, highly neurodivergent, vibrating with every sorrow of the world.

She lived like a woman who read the Gospels and said, "Alright, let's see if this works," and then decided to find out the hard way.

Was she a philosopher, a mystic, or a secular saint?

All three. Or maybe none.

Titles didn’t interest her. Only truth did. Simone lived her 34 years with a saintly, almost asinine integrity.

Because I was one of the founders of what is perhaps the largest science-based couples therapy practice in the world, I enjoy many scientists and researchers as clients. Many have entered therapy to manage their social anxiety.

Why? So, it turns out some people hate scientists.

Not just the kind of hate where you roll your eyes at some nerd in a lab coat, but the kind of hate that gets scientists harassed, threatened, and, in at least one case, nearly mobbed in Amsterdam.

Why? Because of science cynicism, which is just a fancy way of saying, "I don’t trust those guys because they seem smart and therefore must be up to something."