Welcome to my Blog

Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.

Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.

Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.

Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.

Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel

P.S.

Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.

 

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What Is De-Influencing? A Look at This Curious Relationship Shift

De-influencing is a growing movement that pushes back against the glossy, picture-perfect world of social media influencer culture.

Instead of urging people to buy the next trendy product or stage their lives for likes, de-influencing invites us to take a breath, embrace authenticity, and stop feeling like we have to perform our lives—or our relationships—online.

It’s not just about rejecting consumerism; it’s about rethinking what really matters, including how we connect with our partners. Let’s dive into how this trend started, why it’s catching on, and what it means for modern relationships.

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The Distracted Boyfriend: The History of a Meme and Its Cultural Significance

The “Distracted Boyfriend” meme is the internet’s cheeky way of turning a universal relationship fear—infidelity—into a visual metaphor.

If you’ve spent even five minutes online, you’ve probably seen the image: a man walking with his partner, sneaking a guilty glance at another woman while his girlfriend looks on in shock and dismay.

But this meme is more than just a funny image; it’s a modern cultural artifact that reflects societal anxieties, humor, and even deep truths about human relationships.

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What is Strategic Masculine Disinvestment?

Let’s face it: masculinity has always been a high-stakes game.

For generations, being “manly” meant adhering to a strict code of stoicism, assertiveness, and the occasional inability to ask for directions.

But as society rethinks gender norms, some men are strategically distancing themselves from traditional masculinity, a phenomenon dubbed “strategic masculine disinvestment.”

The catch? A recent study published in Sex Roles suggests this shift might not come without its own psychological growing pains.

What Exactly Is Strategic Masculine Disinvestment?

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How Wildfire Smoke Impacts Brain Health: What We Know So Far

As wildfires become more frequent and intense, the health implications of prolonged smoke exposure are under increasing scrutiny.

While the respiratory and cardiovascular risks of inhaling wildfire smoke are well-documented, emerging research suggests a lesser-known yet alarming impact: neuroinflammation triggered by exposure to wood smoke particles.

Could this be a wake-up call for communities exposed to chronic air pollution? Let’s explore the latest findings.

Unpacking the Research: How Wood Smoke Affects the Brain

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Humility: A Modern Take on the Ancient Roman Virtue of Modestia

Humility isn’t just a psychological tool for reducing anger—it’s a virtue with ancient roots in Roman culture.

Recent research led by Eddie Harmon-Jones and colleagues, published in Personality and Individual Differences, highlights how humility acts as a buffer against anger and hostility.

This modern finding resonates with the ancient Roman ideal of modestia, a virtue emphasizing self-restraint, self-awareness, and temperance.

In Roman society, modestia was more than personal discipline; it was a cornerstone of community cohesion.

It allowed folks to temper ambition and regulate emotions, ensuring that personal pride didn’t outweigh collective harmony. Today, humility serves a similar function, helping us navigate an increasingly polarized and conflict-prone world.

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The Rise of Platonic Life Partnerships: The Future of Love or Just Friendship 2.0?

Romantic love has long been considered the gold standard for meaningful relationships. It’s the stuff of Hollywood blockbusters, the centerpiece of countless wedding hashtags, and often treated as the key to “happily ever after.”

But what if life doesn’t have to revolve around romance?

Enter Platonic Life Partnerships (PLPs)—an emerging relationship trend where two people commit to building a life together but without romantic or sexual involvement.

These partnerships can involve anything from sharing finances to cohabitating to co-parenting, and they’re gaining traction as people seek new ways to fulfill their emotional and practical needs.

But is this really a revolution in how we define relationships, or just a new label for deep friendship?

Let’s explore the evidence, trends, and nuances of this movement, blending real-world data with a healthy dose of curiosity.

What Exactly Is a Platonic Life Partnership?

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The Cottagecore Decor: Why Gen Z is Escaping to the Countryside (At Least in Spirit)

Imagine a rustic cottage draped in ivy, a table set with freshly baked bread, and a soft breeze carrying the scent of wildflowers.

No, this isn’t the set of a Jane Austen adaptation—it’s the essence of cottagecore, the aesthetic that has captured the hearts (and Instagram feeds) of Gen Z.

But cottagecore is more than just a picturesque trend. It’s a cultural movement rooted in simplicity, self-sufficiency, and an intense desire to escape the chaos of modern life.

Let’s dig into the roots of this phenomenon and explore why it resonates so deeply.

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Grandmacore Aesthetic! Why Teens Are Picking Up Needles, Loaves, and Houseplants!

The Rise of “Grandma Hobbies”: Why Teens Are Picking Up Needles, Loaves, and Houseplants

There’s a curious movement knitting its way into the hearts of today’s teens: the resurgence of “grandma hobbies.”

Once relegated to retirement communities and family reunions, activities like knitting, gardening, baking, and embroidery are finding new life in Gen Z’s bedrooms and social media feeds.

Dubbed “grandmacore,” this aesthetic embraces slow living, nostalgia, and the kind of tactile joy that’s hard to come by in our digital age.

But why are teens—the supposed digital natives—reaching for crochet hooks and sourdough starters?

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ADHD and Life Expectancy: Why This Overlooked Condition is Taking Years Off Lives

A landmark study from University College London (UCL) has uncovered a stark and unsettling reality: adults diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) may have a significantly reduced life expectancy compared to their peers.

Published in The British Journal of Psychiatry, this research is the first of its kind to estimate life expectancy in UK adults with ADHD.

The findings demand a closer look at the systemic failures in diagnosing, treating, and supporting folks with this condition.

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Gut Instincts: How the Microbiome Influences Impulsivity in Female Inmates

Gut Instincts: How the Microbiome Influences Impulsivity in Female Inmates

Can gut bacteria determine whether someone acts impulsively?

Recent research suggests the microbes in our intestines might play a surprising role in shaping behavior, including impulsivity.

A new study published in Neuropsychobiology dives deep into the microbiota-gut-brain axis, comparing impulsively violent female inmates with their non-impulsive counterparts.

The findings? A microbial twist that could change how we understand—and possibly address—behavioral issues behind bars.

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Generativity: The Secret Sauce for Aging Well (and Happily)

If the thought of aging conjures images of rocking chairs and watching the paint dry, it's time to update your mental picture.

New research is flipping the script on later life, proving that growing older can be less about decline and more about shine.

At the heart of this revelation is a little gem called generativity—the concern for nurturing and guiding future generations. And it turns out, the more generativity you’ve got, the better your life tends to be.

According to a study published in The Journals of Gerontology: Series B, generativity is a psychological powerhouse, linked to greater well-being and purpose.

Researchers like Mohsen Joshanloo—academic extraordinaire and breaker of ageist stereotypes—are digging into what makes some older adults more generative than others.

What Is Generativity, Anyway?

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Can Music Heal Your Emotional Baggage? Turns Out, It Just Might

Have you ever been hit by a wave of nostalgia from a song?

Maybe it was that one hit wonder from your awkward teenage years (hello, middle school dance), or the tune blasting…and found yourself in the middle of nowhere, but somehow it was magical.

Music has this uncanny ability to grab us by the heartstrings, dust off old memories, and make us feel all the feels.

But what if I told you that music can do more than just transport you to the past? It can actually help reshape how you feel about those memories—yes, even the awkward ones.

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