Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
Teens, Technology, and Anxiety: What the Brain Tells Us About Digital Habits and Emotional Well-Being
Adolescence is an exhilarating yet vulnerable stage of life—a time when teens are figuring out who they are, how they relate to others, and how to navigate the complexities of their emotions.
But for many teens, this journey is increasingly mediated by glowing screens and instant notifications, raising important questions about how digital habits might shape their emotional and mental health.
New research published in Affective Science delves into the nuanced relationship between teens' preference for digital communication and social anxiety symptoms.
This study, led by Sarah Myruski and her colleagues at Pennsylvania State University, uncovers how brain activity provides clues to why some teens may feel more anxious when they rely heavily on digital media over face-to-face interactions.
Rather than simply pointing fingers at technology as the "villain," (frankly, as I am inclined to do) this study invites us to approach the topic with empathy and curiosity.
It reveals that the connection between teens’ digital preferences and their emotional well-being is neither black nor white—it’s as complex as the teens themselves.
The Frozen Politics of Postmodernism: How Political Authoritarianism Emerged from the Academy’s Coolest Trend
Once upon a time, postmodernism was the rebellious philosopher at the intellectual party. When I was getting my second degree at Antioch, postmodernism was all the rage.
It questioned objective truths, smashed oppressive structures, and declared that everything—from science to art—was shaped by subjective experiences.
Fast-forward to today, and postmodernism, once the darling of radical thought, is being implicated in something few could have foreseen: the rise of left-wing authoritarianism (LWA).
A new study published in Applied Cognitive Psychology found that folks with strong liberal postmodern beliefs—those who reject universal truths in favor of subjective perspectives—are more likely to support authoritarian measures, such as censorship and revolutionary justice.
Even more surprising, these authoritarian tendencies flourish when psychological distress is low.
Yes, you read that right: happy, stable people can sometimes make the most rigid ideologues. What’s going on here? Let’s dive in.
Chill Out to Level Up: How Cold-Water Immersion Can Boost Your Brain and Help You Sleep Like a Baby
Ready to take the plunge into the icy waters of mental clarity and sweet dreams?
A new study published in Physiology & Behavior suggests that regular cold-water immersion might just be the frosty miracle you never knew you needed. By dunking themselves in chilly 10°C water three times a week for four weeks, participants experienced improved cognitive function, better sleep, and even a little less worrying. Yes, we're talking about willingly jumping into what most of us would classify as "nope" territory.
But let’s face it—cold-water immersion has been a rising trend, with influencers, athletes, and your neighbor who swears by "polar plunges" singing its praises.
While most people associate it with physical recovery, researchers are now diving deeper (pun very much intended) into its effects on the brain and overall well-being. And guess what? It turns out there might be some icy truth to the hype.
Exploring Adverse Childhood Experiences and Defensive Gun Use
As a marriage and family therapist who has navigated my own history of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), I often see firsthand how early trauma can shape the way people perceive safety and respond to threats.
A recent study in the Journal of Psychiatric Research delves into this connection, revealing how ACEs—such as abuse, neglect, and household dysfunction—may increase the likelihood of defensive gun use (DGU) among adults with heightened threat sensitivity.
These findings add valuable insight into the lasting impact of trauma and how it influences behaviors like firearm use for self-protection.
Love in the Time of Instagram: How Unmet Needs in Relationships Fuel Social Media Addiction and Phubbing
You know that moment when your partner is scrolling Instagram while you’re pouring your heart out about your day?
That’s phubbing—the soul-crushing act of snubbing someone in favor of your smartphone. A new study published in Frontiers in Psychology suggests that this all-too-common behavior isn’t just an annoying quirk of modern life; it’s deeply connected to unmet psychological needs in relationships.
And here’s the kicker: it’s creating a vicious cycle that’s dragging intimate relationships straight into the digital abyss.
Let’s break it down, shall we?
Cracking the Code of Learning: How Autistic Adults Process the World Differently
Ever feel like your brain is juggling flaming pins during a task that’s second nature to someone else?
Well, new neuroscience research suggests that for adults with autism, this might actually describe their unique approach to learning and generalizing information.
The study, published in Autism Research, uncovers fascinating insights into how autistic adults process visual categories—and it’s not just different for the sake of being different. These distinctions could influence how we think about therapy, education, and beyond.
Escaping Reality: Understanding Maladaptive Daydreaming in Neurodivergent Adults
Our world is teeming with challenges, but daydreaming offers a fleeting escape—a moment of solace where the mind can wander freely.
However, for some, these dreams become a consuming habit that disrupts daily life.
Maladaptive daydreaming, a behavior characterized by excessive, immersive fantasies, is not just a curious phenomenon—it’s a coping mechanism, particularly for neurodivergent folks facing emotional and social struggles.
A recent study published in the Journal of Attention Disorders sheds light on the complex factors contributing to maladaptive daydreaming in adults with autism spectrum disorder (ASD), ADHD, and dual diagnoses (AuDHD). The findings reveal that emotional dysregulation, internalized stigma, escapism, and self-esteem are key predictors of this behavior, offering valuable insights into its roots and potential solutions.
What Is Maladaptive Daydreaming?
Emotional Regulation in Preschool: The Early Predictor of ADHD and Conduct Problems
Picture this: a preschooler dissolves into tears because they didn’t get the red cup they wanted. At first glance, it’s a typical kid moment, right?
But what if those meltdowns keep happening, growing into bigger challenges over time? Emotional regulation—the ability to manage big feelings—plays a huge role in helping kids thrive.
When this skill doesn’t develop as expected, it can lead to struggles with ADHD, behavior issues, and even anxiety or depression.
A recent study in Development and Psychopathology shines a light on how early emotional regulation impacts kids’ mental health by age seven. Let’s unpack these findings with a mix of warmth, research, and practical insights.
What Is Emotional Regulation, and Why Does It Matter?
Sleepless but Not Hopeless: The ADHD and Sleep Disorder Connection
If you’ve ever laid awake at 3 a.m. wondering if counting sheep would help—or debating the ethics of waking your partner for company—you’re not alone.
For adults with ADHD, sleepless nights are all too common. A recent study in the Journal of Attention Disorders found that 60% of adults with ADHD report some type of sleep disorder. If you're one of them, you might feel like your brain has a "sleep switch" that’s perpetually stuck in the “on” position.
But why does ADHD seem to wreak havoc on sleep, and what can we do about it?
Let’s explore the fascinating (and sometimes frustrating) connection between ADHD and sleep problems, with a dose of empathy and humor to keep things light.
ADHD and Sleep: A Recipe for Restlessness?
Sip Smart: Unsweetened Coffee and Its Surprising Brain Boost
If your daily brew leans unsweetened, your brain might just thank you.
Recent research published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition suggests that unsweetened caffeinated coffee could be your secret weapon against Alzheimer’s disease, related dementias, and Parkinson’s disease.
Before you toss in that sugar packet, let’s unpack why your bittersweet cup might be the key to better brain health.
Coffee and Neuroprotection: What’s Brewing?
Why Reading Brains Are Different – And Why It Matters for Humanity
Have you ever wondered how reading reshapes your brain?
In a world dominated by scrolling and streaming, reading books might feel like a lost art.
But recent research reveals something fascinating: good readers actually have distinct brain structures.
This insight is more than just a fun fact—it carries profound implications for our individual lives and society.
Understanding CPS vs. PMT: Two Approaches for Parenting 2E Kids
Parenting an autistic twice-exceptional child is both a unique challenge and a profound opportunity. Every child, including those on the autism spectrum, brings their own personality, strengths, and areas where they need support.
When behavioral challenges arise, it can be overwhelming to determine the best approach.
Two evidence-based parenting models often recommended are CPS (Collaborative & Proactive Solutions) and PMT (Parent Management Training).
Each offers distinct methods and philosophies, and understanding them fully can help parents choose—or blend—what works best for their family.