Welcome to my Blog

Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist with an international practice.

I write about what happens to desire, attachment, and meaning once the early myths stop working.

Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that. I’m accepting new clients, and this blog is for the benefit of all my gentle readers.

Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.

Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships.

And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you. Let’s explore the scope of work you’d like to do together.

Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel

P.S.

Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.

 

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How Dogs and Owners Share Hearts: New Research Unveils a Remarkable Connection

The bond between dogs and their owners has long been celebrated, and new research has uncovered yet another layer to this profound relationship.

A study published in Scientific Reports has found that dogs’ heart rate variability adapts to their owners’ during interactions, revealing a physiological connection that mirrors the emotional bond shared by the two.

This discovery sheds light on how deeply intertwined the lives of humans and their canine companions are, offering evidence that emotional states can be shared not only through behavior but also at a physiological level.

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Differentiation, Other-Validated Intimacy, and the Roots of Cultural Narcissism

Our relationships are shaped not only by our individual histories but also by the culture we inhabit.

In an age of likes, shares, and follows, the pervasive need for external validation—what therapists call other-validated intimacy—extends far beyond personal relationships into the very fabric of our cultural identity.

To understand how this dynamic influences modern love, we need to explore the interplay between differentiation, other-validated intimacy, and Cultural Narcissism.

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Esther Perel and the American Psyche: Narcissism, Death, and the Paradoxes of Modern Love

Esther Perel has become a towering figure in the modern discourse on relationships, celebrated for her incisive take on intimacy, desire, and betrayal.

Her ideas, presented in works like Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, resonate deeply with an American audience caught between the competing demands of individuality and connection.

Yet, as her ideas have penetrated the cultural psyche, they invite a robust critique that explores what her theories illuminate—and what they overlook—about the unique relational dynamics in America.

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How Maternal Depression Shapes Emotional Health in Children

Depression’s impact goes far beyond the individual, often affecting the delicate bonds between mother and child.

Research published in Development and Psychopathology highlights how maternal depressive symptoms may influence toddlers’ emotional well-being through early interactions.

This study prompts us to consider how cultural norms, caregiving practices, and access to mental health resources affect the transmission of depressive tendencies across generations.

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Do Dark Personality Traits Predict Who’s Single—and Can Love Civilize the Dark Side?

Love. The eternal human quest for connection, meaning, and someone to argue with over what’s for dinner.

While love styles and personality quirks can make romance feel like a comedy of errors, new research reveals just how much our “dark side” might shape our relationship status—and whether love has the power to smooth those rough edges.

Published in Heliyon, the study explores the interplay between the so-called “Dark Triad” personality traits—Machiavellianism, narcissism, and psychopathy—and love styles, offering a fresh look at why some people are happily coupled while others thrive solo.

It also begs the question: can love, especially from women, civilize even the most rogue among us?

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For Richer or Poorer: Surprising Truths About Money, Marriage, and Gender Roles Over Time

If love is a battlefield, money is the strategic map.

Long-term marriages often juggle shifting roles, economic changes, and surprise curveballs (hello, 2008 recession!) that challenge how couples share financial responsibilities.

A fascinating new study published in Research in Social Stratification and Mobility peels back the curtain on financial dynamics in marriages, revealing that money matters are more egalitarian—and complex—than we might think.

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Bedroom Boredom: Why Spicing It Up is the Key to Relationship Bliss

Ah, the age-old question: What keeps the flames of love alive after you’ve finished binging The Crown for the fifth time and can predict your partner’s snores like clockwork?

It’s not just those steamy glances across the dinner table—it’s keeping things spicy in the bedroom. And when things cool off there, it’s not lack of desire but an unexpected culprit—sexual boredom—that might be the ultimate relationship buzzkill.

A groundbreaking study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy tackles this head-on.

Researchers examined how sexual boredom, that sneaky feeling of "same old, same old," mediates the relationship between sexual desire (for your partner or that hot guy you passed on the street) and relationship satisfaction.

Their findings? It’s not the wandering eye but rather boredom that’s the real homewrecker.

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Laughter Is the Best Parenting Tool: Why Humor Can Be a Game-Changer for Families

Parenting can feel like an endless game of whack-a-mole—just when you think you’ve got one challenge under control, another pops up.

But what if the secret weapon to managing the chaos isn’t stricter rules or a new parenting book, but... humor?

Yes, the humble dad joke, the playful impersonation, or even a well-timed giggle might just be your ticket to stronger bonds and a smoother parenting journey.

Parenting Meets Comedy: The Study That’s Changing the Game

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Why You Can’t Stop Buying That Useless Stuff: The Science Behind Compulsive Shopping

Now that the holiday season has ended, and the credit cards bills start to arrive, let’s talk a little about shopping.

For some, it’s a delightful weekend pastime, a way to unwind and add a little sparkle to life.

For others, it’s a slippery slope into financial chaos and late-night existential crises over yet another online order of novelty socks.

If you’ve ever found yourself drowning in packages and wondering, Why am I like this?, science might have an answer: your executive functioning may be to blame.

A recent study published in Applied Neuropsychology: Adult found that compulsive shopping—aka shopping addiction—is closely tied to impaired executive functioning.

Simply put, those who can’t resist the siren call of “Add to Cart” might struggle with their brain’s ability to pump the brakes.

Let’s dive into what this means, why it happens, and how you can (maybe) stop buying another inflatable unicorn pool float you definitely don’t need.

What Is Compulsive Shopping?

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The Hidden Strength of Curiosity: What Autistic Traits Teach Us About Learning

What if the way we explore the world wasn’t just a quirk of personality, but a hidden strength lying quietly in the folds of our cognitive makeup?

A recent study published in PLOS Computational Biology has just given us one of those “mind blown” moments that makes you rethink what you thought you knew.

Researchers have uncovered an intriguing link between autistic traits and curiosity-driven behaviors, showing how persistence, predictability, and a thirst for learning can create extraordinary outcomes.

If you’re not already fascinated, hang tight — this is where science meets humanity in the most inspiring way possible.

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Amazon’s Five-Day Return-to-Office Policy: A Civil Rights Issue for Neurodiverse Employees?

On January 2, 2025, Amazon implemented a new return-to-office (RTO) policy requiring corporate employees to work in the office five days a week, replacing the previous three-day hybrid model.

While the policy aims to foster collaboration and innovation, it has sparked significant pushback.

For neurodiverse employees—particularly those on the autism spectrum—this mandate represents more than an inconvenience; it challenges the principles of workplace inclusivity and raises questions about civil rights.

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The Psychology of Sugar Dating: Transactional Love in a Culture of Narcissism

Sugar dating.

On the surface, it’s a relationship dynamic where financial support and companionship intermingle in a way that feels almost too fitting for our age of hyper-materialism.

But peel back the layers, and sugar arrangements reveal deeper, more troubling questions about power, agency, and the commodification of intimacy.

Recent research published in The Journal of Sex Research provides a closer look at sugar dating’s realities.

While it attempts to explore the motivations and nuances of these arrangements, it inadvertently shines a light on the unsettling cultural forces that normalize them.

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