Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
4 Primitive defense mechanisms that can screw up your relationship
We all are defensive from time to time, but what are the most primitive defense mechanisms that can really screw up a relationship?
5 Reasons you have a sexless marriage
It’s been estimated that about 20% of American couples find themselves in the distressing situation of a sexless marriage.
3 things you must know about how friendships impact our nervous system
If you’re picky, and choose your friends wisely, and now there’s some new research indicating that doing so can boost your well-being.
Not just friends…an appreciation…
20 years ago Dr. Shirley Glass researched affairs in the workplace. What have we learned over 2 decades?
Helping Alice tell Steve…
Some things hurt so bad, you hesitate to burden your partner…intimacy is about the hard things too…
The motivational importance of family
This is an emerging cross-cultural fact.
It doesn’t matter who you ask or where you look, long-term enduring family bonds are more important than preserving your health, finding a significant other, achieving status, or even self-preservation…
But why?
The Sound Relationship House Revisited
What is the Gottman Sound Relationship House? It seems that you can’t find a Gottman trained blogger or Gottman “informed” therapist website, that doesn’t rhapsodize about it. They all seem to approach it similarly.
I thought that in this post, I might meander a path to the side door instead of taking the usual six-lane superhighway to the front door of the Sound Relationship House.
7 ways your depressed husband shows up in couples therapy
Here is an interesting idea.
Could it be possible that your depressed husband and your couples therapist, (regardless of gender) are naturally at odds with one another?
Dealing with a self-absorbed parent
A self-absorbed parent is annoyed with the provisioning requirements that a child needs to thrive.
This ultimately results in the range of emotional and psychological difficulties for my now adult clients as they navigate their awareness of a toxic parental legacy :
dubious self-esteem, conflict avoidance, porous boundaries, and emotional guardrails made out of jello…