Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
The art and science of generative conversations in couples therapy
As a couples therapist, I often emphasize the transformative power of Generative Conversations.
One particularly impactful method is the Anatol Rapoport Intervention, an integral part of Gottman Theory.
This intervention, rooted in the work of Russian mathematical genius Anatol Rapoport, offers profound insights into improving communication between partners.
Who Was Anatol Rapoport?
Help! weekly in-person couples therapy is not working!
Weekly in-person couples therapy may be fading in popularity.
Let’s face it.
Couples have more stuff to do than they have time to do it in.
Recent research shows that couples are experiencing significant stress and attempting to find time to do anything else that matters to them. Here’s what to do instead…
Looking for change in marriage? How 10 reasons not to change can promote…change
For a relationship to be balanced, partners must be able to depend on one another and feel that they are needed and appreciated for the support they give.
Trying to find change in marriage by only focusing on changing your partner can prevent you from influencing each other and achieving a deeper intimacy. Let’s jump in!
How do people create change in their relationship?
Ever feel like you’re banging your head against a wall trying to change your partner's annoying habits?
Breaking 2024 research tells us that many popular methods for changing behavior don’t work as well as we'd like.
But don't lose hope just yet—science has some answers!
The Gottman relationship checkup and other relationship questions
Couples Therapists are often uncomfortable when discussing power…their own power, that is.
That’s why who you choose to work with is so critical.
The Gottman Relationship Checklist and similar assessment tools will help keep your therapist in their own lane…
Hopeful spouse…couples therapy for one
Unlike the sh*t show of “value-neutral” and “growth-focused” individual therapy, new studies now show that spouses who receive critical relationship-skills training in Hopeful Spouse Coaching will see just as much improvement in their relationships as if they both were in couples therapy.
Yeah.. there is such a thing as “couples therapy for one.”
How to Stay Stuck in Couples Therapy: A Guide for the Hopelessly Unyielding
You want to run the clock in couples therapy but you don’t know how?
Let’s face it. Couples Therapy is just a giant irritation.
Your partner, the therapist, flat-out expects way too much from you and refuses to accept the fact that you are already doing the best you can.
You can never make them happy anyway …so what’s the use?
Will couples therapy work for you?
Science-based couples therapy stresses the need to develop skills for managing conflict and accepting perpetual problems that can be managed, but not solved.
Both of these cognitive-behavioral methods show wide success with most couples.
What’s the difference between couples therapy and marriage counseling? Here Are 4 questions to ask instead…
Many people want to know, “What’s the difference between couples therapy and marriage counseling?”
And because inquiring minds want to know, several therapy websites have presented misleading information, pretending to answer this question with clarity.
Shame on them….
Marriage counseling questions you both need to ponder beforehand
If you’re considering starting couples therapy, you might benefit from having a frank and open conversation with your partner about the scope of your relationship problems.
An important primary question is are you ready to start couples counseling?
Why is marriage counseling on weekends becoming so popular?
An increasing number of couples therapy thought leaders are singing the praises of “intensive” marriage counseling on weekends.
Not only that, some describe the standard weekly hour-long couples therapy session as “inherently flawed.” Let’s learn why…
20 couples therapy interventions based on Autobiographical Memory Activation…
In couples therapy, exploring autobiographical memories can offer valuable insights into a relationship's dynamics, helping partners understand each other's perspectives and navigate challenges more effectively.
Here are 20 interventions you can try at home…