Welcome to my Blog

Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist with an international practice.

I write about what happens to desire, attachment, and meaning once the early myths stop working.

Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that. I’m accepting new clients, and this blog is for the benefit of all my gentle readers.

Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.

Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships.

And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you. Let’s explore the scope of work you’d like to do together.

Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel

P.S.

Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.

 

What Happy Couples Know Daniel Dashnaw What Happy Couples Know Daniel Dashnaw

The Science of The Post-Coital Buzz—And What the Research Really Says

Scientists, those tireless chroniclers of our messy human desires, have concluded that yes, sex leaves a glow brighter than a neon sign on a rainy night (Meltzer et al., 2017).

This “sexual afterglow” lasts for at least 24 hours, sometimes longer—science’s version of a warm-and-fuzzy fortune cookie (Dolan, 2025).

But here’s where it gets deliciously complicated. Mutual initiation—when both partners say, “Let’s dance”—yields the longest, brightest afterglow.

Read More
What Happy Couples Know Daniel Dashnaw What Happy Couples Know Daniel Dashnaw

What Makes Women Thrive in Romantic Relationships?

Let's talk about love, shall we?

It turns out that romantic relationships are more than just candlelit dinners and cute texts; they might hold the key to a woman’s psychological well-being.

A recent study from Behavioral Sciences set out to crack the code on what really makes women feel good in their romantic partnerships.

The researchers behind this study, Elif Yöyen, Süreyya Çalık, and Tülay Güneri Barış, weren’t content with surface-level answers.

They wanted the whole messy, beautiful picture. Their mission? To figure out how empathy, sexual satisfaction, relationship stability, intimacy, and even having kids influence women’s mental well-being.

Read More
Social Media and Relationships Daniel Dashnaw Social Media and Relationships Daniel Dashnaw

Hookup Apps, Boredom, and Risky Behavior

College students, armed with smartphones and hormones, have turned to dating apps like Tinder and Bumble with the fervor of prospectors panning for gold—except the gold here is more ephemeral and often comes with a disclaimer.

A recent study published in Computers in Human Behavior finds that college students using these apps are more likely to engage in risky sexual behavior.

The twist? Boredom appears to be a key motivator for women seeking connections, while both men and women share an appetite for excitement.

This revelation paints hookup apps not just as matchmakers, but as modern boredom busters—with consequences.

Read More
Extramarital Affairs Daniel Dashnaw Extramarital Affairs Daniel Dashnaw

A Critique of Esther Perel’s Position on Transparency in Infidelity

In one of her books, Esther Perel writes:

'It was a momentary lapse in judgment – I was drunk and I deeply regret it,' says Lina, who’d been engaged only a few months when a night of partying after her college reunion ended in an ex’s bed. 'If I tell my fiancé, I know it will destroy him. His first wife left with his best friend, and he always said if I cheated on him, it was over.'

Perel muses:

Yes, she should have thought of that before. But should her slip-up derail their whole life?

Perel’s framing of infidelity and secrecy as complex moral terrain deserves careful examination.

Read More
Social Media and Relationships Daniel Dashnaw Social Media and Relationships Daniel Dashnaw

Gen Z's Evolving Views on Marriage: A Decline in Romance in Favor of Commitment?

Gen Z’s evolving views on marriage highlight a significant shift—one where romance is increasingly detached from commitment.

Economic realities, digital culture, and a preference for authenticity over idealism drive their approach to relationships.

For Gen Z, love is often secondary to partnership.

According to Pew Research (2024), 79% of respondents value marriage as a tool for financial and emotional stability rather than a romantic ideal.

Rising costs and job precarity mean that relationships are often evaluated through a practical lens.

Read More
Social Media and Relationships Daniel Dashnaw Social Media and Relationships Daniel Dashnaw

What Lavender Marriage Means to Gen Z: Is a Once-Hidden Arrangement Reappearing as an Economic Strategy?

Historically, lavender marriages—unions between a man and a woman designed to conceal one partner’s sexual orientation—emerged during an era when societal norms rigidly defined love and family.

Popularized in Hollywood’s golden age, these arrangements were pragmatic solutions to moral scrutiny and career protection.

Today, lavender marriages are experiencing an unexpected revival, but for different reasons. Gen Z, navigating a world of skyrocketing housing costs, student debt, and fragile job markets, is reimagining these unions as practical partnerships for survival.

Marriage, for many, has evolved into a strategic social contract rather than a purely romantic pursuit.

Read More
Social Media and Relationships Daniel Dashnaw Social Media and Relationships Daniel Dashnaw

Middle-Aged Men on Dating Apps: Swiping Through a Midlife Odyssey

It turns out middle-aged men are the power users of dating apps—swiping more, using more platforms, and staying longer than women.

According to The International Journal of Clinical and Health Psychology, men aren’t just chasing flings—they’re navigating a complex digital social ecosystem.

Let's unravel the whole saga, complete with science, psychology, and a bit of existential humor.

Read More
Signs of Trouble Daniel Dashnaw Signs of Trouble Daniel Dashnaw

A Look at the Dark-Ego Link Between Psychopathy, Narcissism, and Antisemitism

An interesting recent study published in Current Psychology forces us to confront a disquieting reality: certain personality traits—namely, narcissism and psychopathy—can fuel antisemitic beliefs.

Researchers Ann Krispenz and Alex Bertrams from the University of Bern identify these beliefs as 'dark-ego vehicles,' meaning they serve as outlets for self-centered needs like dominance, aggression, and moral posturing.

Read More
Signs of Trouble Daniel Dashnaw Signs of Trouble Daniel Dashnaw

Boobs, Brands, and Banality: How Everything Super Bowl Became Softcore

Ladies and Gentlemen, Children of the Algorithm, gather 'round!

Did you enjoy your Super Bowl? The touchdowns, the beers, the commercials selling your greatest insecurities back to you?

Well, let's talk about the real MVP—breasts.

Novartis, our friendly pharmaceutical overlord, brought you a bouncing, cantaloupe-colored PSA: 'Get screened for breast cancer, you degenerates! You stare at boobs all day anyway!'

An excellent cause, yes.

But the delivery? Pure Cinemax After Dark, raising the question: how does blending a health message with softcore aesthetics affect public trust?

When health campaigns become indistinguishable from soft porn, is the message amplified—or trivialized?

Read More
Couples Therapy Daniel Dashnaw Couples Therapy Daniel Dashnaw

Maintaining Progress After Couples Therapy

You've survived couples therapy—hooray!

Now comes the sequel: navigating life without backsliding into old patterns.

Research assures us that couples who maintain their hard-won progress are less likely to sheepishly return to their therapist whispering, “We, uh… backslid” (Doss et al., 2019).

Let’s explore the science of relationship maintenance.

Read More
Couples Therapy Daniel Dashnaw Couples Therapy Daniel Dashnaw

What to Do If Couples Therapy Isn’t Working

You signed up for couples therapy, sat on the couch, nodded at all the right moments, and yet… nothing is changing.

Maybe you’re still having the same arguments about laundry. Maybe one of you talks too much in sessions, or worse—one of you doesn’t talk at all.

Maybe the therapist seems more interested in their notepad than your marriage. Welcome to the frustrating world of therapy that isn’t working.

Good news: You are not alone.

Research suggests that around 30% of couples drop out of therapy before seeing meaningful progress (Snyder et al., 2018).

The bad news?

If you do nothing, those unresolved issues will continue to eat away at your relationship.

So, what now?

Read More
Family Life and Parenting Daniel Dashnaw Family Life and Parenting Daniel Dashnaw

Couples Therapy for Dealing with Parenting Conflicts

Nothing shatters the dream of a perfect family quite like the moment you and your partner realize you have completely different ideas about how to raise a child.

One of you is convinced the kid needs strict discipline; the other wants to build a Montessori utopia in the living room.

One thinks screen time is evil, the other is Googling “best YouTube channels for toddlers.” Welcome to parenting conflict—where good intentions collide, and resentment simmers like an unattended pot on the stove.

Good news: Couples therapy helps.

Research shows that couples who attend therapy to manage parenting disagreements experience better marital satisfaction, reduced conflict, and improved co-parenting dynamics (Halford et al., 2017).

The bad news? You and your partner have to get on the same page first.

Read More