Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist with an international practice.
I write about what happens to desire, attachment, and meaning once the early myths stop working.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that. I’m accepting new clients, and this blog is for the benefit of all my gentle readers.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships.
And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you. Let’s explore the scope of work you’d like to do together.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
The Moral Chemistry of Oxytocin: How the 'Love Hormone' Shapes Our Sense of Right and Wrong
What if the key to a more ethical world was already nestled inside our brains? A new study published in Molecular Psychiatry suggests that oxytocin—often called the "love hormone"—may play a significant role in our moral compass.
Researchers found that administering oxytocin via a nasal spray increased feelings of guilt and shame, making folks less willing to harm others, even when such harm could lead to greater benefits.
This stands in stark contrast to vasopressin, another neuropeptide involved in social behavior, which showed no such effects.
These findings suggest that oxytocin could influence not just our social interactions but our fundamental moral decisions, potentially offering new pathways for understanding psychiatric conditions that involve deficits in moral reasoning.
The Mind-Body Connection to Mind-Blowing Orgasms: Why Women Who Listen to Their Bodies Enjoy More Pleasure
A new study published in Brain Sciences finds that women with heightened interoceptive awareness—the ability to tune into their internal bodily sensations—report more frequent and satisfying orgasms.
Yes, ladies, mindfulness isn't just for yoga; it turns out your ability to sense your own heartbeat or notice a stomach grumble might also be the secret sauce to better orgasms.
Let’s break it down: the study found that different aspects of interoception influence both how often women climax and how good those orgasms feel—whether solo or with a partner.
Women who were better at noticing their bodily sensations tended to orgasm more frequently, while those who could regulate their attention to internal signals found their solo sessions especially satisfying.
Parenting Stress and Sexual Intimacy: How Attachment Styles Shape Desire After Kids
Ever wonder why some couples stay connected after having kids while others struggle to maintain intimacy?
Parenthood brings a whirlwind of changes—sleep deprivation, endless responsibilities, and an ever-growing to-do list. While the love for your children deepens, the time and energy for romance often shrink.
A recent study published in The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality explores how parenting stress interacts with attachment styles to shape sexual satisfaction in couples—and the findings might surprise you.
The Promise and Pitfalls of Digital Mental Health Interventions: Navigating the Challenges of Engagement and Effectiveness
Nowadays, because mental health services struggle to keep pace with demand, digital mental health interventions have emerged as a hopeful solution.
However, a new review published in JMIR Mental Health takes a deep dive into the effectiveness of these interventions, particularly for individuals on psychotherapy waiting lists.
The findings, however, raise critical questions: Are these tools genuinely transformative, or are they merely placeholders in a system straining under the weight of demand?
Are Babies Born Moral? A Landmark Study Challenges Our Understanding of Infant Ethics
For centuries, philosophers and psychologists have pondered the nature of morality. Are we born with an intrinsic sense of right and wrong, or do we learn it through experience?
A groundbreaking study in 2007 by Kiley Hamlin and her colleagues seemed to tilt the scales toward the idea that even infants possess a moral compass.
However, a massive new replication effort by the ManyBabies consortium has cast doubt on this cherished notion. Could it be that babies are, after all, moral blank slates?
Science Confirms: Yes, There’s a Butt Crack Bias
In the ever-evolving quest to understand human attraction, a new study published in Aesthetic Plastic Surgery has confirmed what many have long suspected: when people look at a female butt, their eyes are magnetically drawn to one place first—the intergluteal cleft, better known as the infamous butt crack.
Because this research is so vital for understanding the course of human destiny, researchers, (using eye-tracking technology), analyzed the subconscious visual habits of men and women when presented with images of female buttocks.
The findings? No matter the gender, people just can’t help but take a peek at the crack.
However, men and women have slightly different preferences when it comes to other rear-end details.
The Hidden Cost of Wildfires: How Smoke Exposure Increases Dementia Risk
As wildfires become more frequent and severe due to climate change, a new and alarming consequence is coming to light: exposure to wildfire smoke may significantly increase the risk of dementia.
A recent study published in JAMA Neurology found that folks exposed to wildfire-generated fine particulate matter (PM2.5) faced an 18% higher risk of developing dementia—far greater than the risk posed by other air pollutants (Elser et al., 2024).
This finding raises serious concerns about how environmental factors, particularly air quality, shape long-term brain health.
It also underscores the disproportionate burden of pollution-related health risks on vulnerable communities, making it an urgent issue for public health, environmental justice, and dementia prevention.
Stimulant medications lower depression risk in children with ADHD
A meta-analysis of studies on children and adolescents with ADHD found that they are at an increased risk of depression and anxiety disorders.
However, taking stimulant medication for ADHD was associated with a reduced risk of depression.
The paper was published in the Journal of Psychiatric Research.
Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental condition that affects attention, impulsivity, and activity levels.
Kids with ADHD tend to struggle with staying focused, following instructions, or controlling impulses. It is commonly diagnosed in childhood (usually at the start of school) but can continue into well into adulthood.
The Psychology of Love: What Science Says About Why We Love
Love is often considered the foundation of a happy and lasting relationship, but have you ever wondered why we love in the first place?
What purpose does love serve in our lives, and is it truly as universal as we believe?
A fascinating new study published in Human Nature sheds light on these questions, offering compelling evidence that romantic love is not just a cultural preference but a deeply ingrained part of human connection across the globe.
What is an HSP? The Highly Sensitive Person and the Neurodiversity Spectrum
We seem to be living in an age in which resilience is championed and emotional toughness is often equated with success.
In such world, high sensitivity can feel like a liability.
But for an estimated 15–20% of the population, sensitivity is not just a temperament—it’s a neurobiological reality (Aron, 1997). These individuals, known as Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), experience the world more intensely than their peers, processing sensory input, emotions, and social cues at a much deeper level.
But what exactly makes an HSP different? Is high sensitivity a disorder, an advantage, or simply a variation of normal human neurobiology? And how does this trait intersect with other forms of neurodiversity, such as autism, ADHD, and giftedness?
This post will take a deep, research-backed dive into the world of HSPs, exploring their biological underpinnings, their connection to other forms of neurodivergence, the challenges they face, and the ways they can harness their unique strengths to thrive.
Neurodivergent Sleep: Rethinking Insomnia, Circadian Rhythms, and Sensory-Friendly Rest
They involve delayed sleep phase syndrome (DSPS), hyperactivity-driven nighttime energy, sensory processing struggles, and the inability to “shut off” the brain when the world gets quiet.
If you've ever felt fully awake at 2 AM, struggled with morning grogginess no matter how much sleep you get, or felt trapped between exhaustion and restlessness, this post is for you.
We’ll go deep into why sleep issues happen in neurodivergent minds, how different conditions affect sleep cycles, and practical strategies to optimize rest based on how your brain actually works.
Neurodivergent Task Management: Overcoming Procrastination, Task Paralysis, and Energy Crashes
For many neurodivergent people, task management isn’t just about “getting things done”—it’s about navigating executive dysfunction, time blindness, rejection-sensitive dysphoria (RSD), and sensory needs in a world that assumes productivity is one-size-fits-all.
The struggle isn’t laziness or lack of discipline—it’s a mismatch between traditional productivity systems and how neurodivergent brains actually work.
ADHD brains might crave dopamine-driven motivation but get stuck in task paralysis. Autistic brains might experience black-and-white thinking, making tasks feel either all-consuming or completely inaccessible.
Sensory sensitivities, emotional dysregulation, and decision fatigue further complicate the process.
Instead of forcing neurodivergent minds into neurotypical models, this guide dives deeper into why procrastination happens, how task paralysis forms, and how to create a task system built for neurodivergent cognitive styles—not against them.