Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist with an international practice.
I write about what happens to desire, attachment, and meaning once the early myths stop working.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that. I’m accepting new clients, and this blog is for the benefit of all my gentle readers.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships.
And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you. Let’s explore the scope of work you’d like to do together.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
Grandmacore Aesthetic! Why Teens Are Picking Up Needles, Loaves, and Houseplants!
The Rise of “Grandma Hobbies”: Why Teens Are Picking Up Needles, Loaves, and Houseplants
There’s a curious movement knitting its way into the hearts of today’s teens: the resurgence of “grandma hobbies.”
Once relegated to retirement communities and family reunions, activities like knitting, gardening, baking, and embroidery are finding new life in Gen Z’s bedrooms and social media feeds.
Dubbed “grandmacore,” this aesthetic embraces slow living, nostalgia, and the kind of tactile joy that’s hard to come by in our digital age.
But why are teens—the supposed digital natives—reaching for crochet hooks and sourdough starters?
ADHD and Life Expectancy: Why This Overlooked Condition is Taking Years Off Lives
A landmark study from University College London (UCL) has uncovered a stark and unsettling reality: adults diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) may have a significantly reduced life expectancy compared to their peers.
Published in The British Journal of Psychiatry, this research is the first of its kind to estimate life expectancy in UK adults with ADHD.
The findings demand a closer look at the systemic failures in diagnosing, treating, and supporting folks with this condition.
Gut Instincts: How the Microbiome Influences Impulsivity in Female Inmates
Gut Instincts: How the Microbiome Influences Impulsivity in Female Inmates
Can gut bacteria determine whether someone acts impulsively?
Recent research suggests the microbes in our intestines might play a surprising role in shaping behavior, including impulsivity.
A new study published in Neuropsychobiology dives deep into the microbiota-gut-brain axis, comparing impulsively violent female inmates with their non-impulsive counterparts.
The findings? A microbial twist that could change how we understand—and possibly address—behavioral issues behind bars.
Generativity: The Secret Sauce for Aging Well (and Happily)
If the thought of aging conjures images of rocking chairs and watching the paint dry, it's time to update your mental picture.
New research is flipping the script on later life, proving that growing older can be less about decline and more about shine.
At the heart of this revelation is a little gem called generativity—the concern for nurturing and guiding future generations. And it turns out, the more generativity you’ve got, the better your life tends to be.
According to a study published in The Journals of Gerontology: Series B, generativity is a psychological powerhouse, linked to greater well-being and purpose.
Researchers like Mohsen Joshanloo—academic extraordinaire and breaker of ageist stereotypes—are digging into what makes some older adults more generative than others.
What Is Generativity, Anyway?
Can Music Heal Your Emotional Baggage? Turns Out, It Just Might
Have you ever been hit by a wave of nostalgia from a song?
Maybe it was that one hit wonder from your awkward teenage years (hello, middle school dance), or the tune blasting…and found yourself in the middle of nowhere, but somehow it was magical.
Music has this uncanny ability to grab us by the heartstrings, dust off old memories, and make us feel all the feels.
But what if I told you that music can do more than just transport you to the past? It can actually help reshape how you feel about those memories—yes, even the awkward ones.
Teens, Technology, and Anxiety: What the Brain Tells Us About Digital Habits and Emotional Well-Being
Adolescence is an exhilarating yet vulnerable stage of life—a time when teens are figuring out who they are, how they relate to others, and how to navigate the complexities of their emotions.
But for many teens, this journey is increasingly mediated by glowing screens and instant notifications, raising important questions about how digital habits might shape their emotional and mental health.
New research published in Affective Science delves into the nuanced relationship between teens' preference for digital communication and social anxiety symptoms.
This study, led by Sarah Myruski and her colleagues at Pennsylvania State University, uncovers how brain activity provides clues to why some teens may feel more anxious when they rely heavily on digital media over face-to-face interactions.
Rather than simply pointing fingers at technology as the "villain," (frankly, as I am inclined to do) this study invites us to approach the topic with empathy and curiosity.
It reveals that the connection between teens’ digital preferences and their emotional well-being is neither black nor white—it’s as complex as the teens themselves.
The Frozen Politics of Postmodernism: How Political Authoritarianism Emerged from the Academy’s Coolest Trend
Once upon a time, postmodernism was the rebellious philosopher at the intellectual party. When I was getting my second degree at Antioch, postmodernism was all the rage.
It questioned objective truths, smashed oppressive structures, and declared that everything—from science to art—was shaped by subjective experiences.
Fast-forward to today, and postmodernism, once the darling of radical thought, is being implicated in something few could have foreseen: the rise of left-wing authoritarianism (LWA).
A new study published in Applied Cognitive Psychology found that folks with strong liberal postmodern beliefs—those who reject universal truths in favor of subjective perspectives—are more likely to support authoritarian measures, such as censorship and revolutionary justice.
Even more surprising, these authoritarian tendencies flourish when psychological distress is low.
Yes, you read that right: happy, stable people can sometimes make the most rigid ideologues. What’s going on here? Let’s dive in.
Chill Out to Level Up: How Cold-Water Immersion Can Boost Your Brain and Help You Sleep Like a Baby
Ready to take the plunge into the icy waters of mental clarity and sweet dreams?
A new study published in Physiology & Behavior suggests that regular cold-water immersion might just be the frosty miracle you never knew you needed. By dunking themselves in chilly 10°C water three times a week for four weeks, participants experienced improved cognitive function, better sleep, and even a little less worrying. Yes, we're talking about willingly jumping into what most of us would classify as "nope" territory.
But let’s face it—cold-water immersion has been a rising trend, with influencers, athletes, and your neighbor who swears by "polar plunges" singing its praises.
While most people associate it with physical recovery, researchers are now diving deeper (pun very much intended) into its effects on the brain and overall well-being. And guess what? It turns out there might be some icy truth to the hype.
Exploring Adverse Childhood Experiences and Defensive Gun Use
As a marriage and family therapist who has navigated my own history of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), I often see firsthand how early trauma can shape the way people perceive safety and respond to threats.
A recent study in the Journal of Psychiatric Research delves into this connection, revealing how ACEs—such as abuse, neglect, and household dysfunction—may increase the likelihood of defensive gun use (DGU) among adults with heightened threat sensitivity.
These findings add valuable insight into the lasting impact of trauma and how it influences behaviors like firearm use for self-protection.
Love in the Time of Instagram: How Unmet Needs in Relationships Fuel Social Media Addiction and Phubbing
You know that moment when your partner is scrolling Instagram while you’re pouring your heart out about your day?
That’s phubbing—the soul-crushing act of snubbing someone in favor of your smartphone. A new study published in Frontiers in Psychology suggests that this all-too-common behavior isn’t just an annoying quirk of modern life; it’s deeply connected to unmet psychological needs in relationships.
And here’s the kicker: it’s creating a vicious cycle that’s dragging intimate relationships straight into the digital abyss.
Let’s break it down, shall we?
Cracking the Code of Learning: How Autistic Adults Process the World Differently
Ever feel like your brain is juggling flaming pins during a task that’s second nature to someone else?
Well, new neuroscience research suggests that for adults with autism, this might actually describe their unique approach to learning and generalizing information.
The study, published in Autism Research, uncovers fascinating insights into how autistic adults process visual categories—and it’s not just different for the sake of being different. These distinctions could influence how we think about therapy, education, and beyond.
Escaping Reality: Understanding Maladaptive Daydreaming in Neurodivergent Adults
Our world is teeming with challenges, but daydreaming offers a fleeting escape—a moment of solace where the mind can wander freely.
However, for some, these dreams become a consuming habit that disrupts daily life.
Maladaptive daydreaming, a behavior characterized by excessive, immersive fantasies, is not just a curious phenomenon—it’s a coping mechanism, particularly for neurodivergent folks facing emotional and social struggles.
A recent study published in the Journal of Attention Disorders sheds light on the complex factors contributing to maladaptive daydreaming in adults with autism spectrum disorder (ASD), ADHD, and dual diagnoses (AuDHD). The findings reveal that emotional dysregulation, internalized stigma, escapism, and self-esteem are key predictors of this behavior, offering valuable insights into its roots and potential solutions.
What Is Maladaptive Daydreaming?