Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
Why Feeling Appreciated by Your Family is the Real Superpower (And How to Harness It)
In the chaotic world of parenting, we often focus on showing appreciation—whether it’s thanking your spouse for doing the dishes or giving your kids a high five for not turning the living room into a disaster zone.
But have you ever stopped to think about how much being appreciated in return matters?
A new study published in The Journal of Positive Psychology suggests that feeling valued by your family isn’t just a nice bonus—it’s a game changer for your mental health and overall family happiness.
The Taylor Swift Effect: How a Pop Icon is Shaping Body Image in the Social Media Age
Taylor Swift, one of the most influential figures in contemporary music, has emerged not just as a pop sensation but also as a powerful voice in the ongoing conversation about body image and disordered eating.
Her openness about these struggles is influencing millions of fans, particularly young women, in ways that are both inspiring and complex.
The Gut-Brain Axis: A Pathway to Resilience and Relationship Harmony
In the field of couples therapy, resilience is often the cornerstone of a thriving relationship. It’s the ability to navigate conflicts, adapt to changes, and support one another through life’s inevitable challenges.
Recent research from the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA) has illuminated a fascinating and previously underexplored aspect of resilience: the gut-brain connection.
This emerging body of research suggests that our gut health not only influences our physical well-being but also plays a critical role in our psychological resilience—a key factor in the success and longevity of relationships.
Symbio-sexuality: A New Approach To Advancing Compersion?
The article “Symbiosexuality: New Study Validates Attraction to Established Couples as a Real Phenomenon” by Eric W. Dolan presents the findings of a study conducted by Sally W. Johnston, which explores a concept referred to as “symbiosexuality.”
The study proposes that some folks experience attraction not just to individuals, but to the dynamic energy between people in a relationship.
While the research claims to break new ground in understanding human desire, a closer examination reveals several weaknesses in its conceptual framework, methodology, and broader implications.
The Silent Apologies You’ll Never Hear from a Covert Narcissist: A Therapist’s Journey with a Discarded Husband
Divorce is rarely straightforward, but when it involves a covert narcissist, the emotional fallout can be especially disorienting.
Covert narcissists are adept at subtle manipulation, often leaving their partners questioning their own reality long after the relationship has ended.
In this post, we explore a fictional therapy journey with John, a husband who was abruptly discarded by his covert narcissist wife, Emily.
Through their sessions, we’ll uncover the unspoken apologies John craves but will likely never receive, and how understanding this reality can aid in his healing process.
The Ethical Dilemma of Truth-Telling in Terminal Prognoses: A Couples Therapy Perspective
The question of whether a family member deserves to know the truth about a terminal prognosis, especially when the remaining time is expected to be of low quality, presents a profound ethical and emotional dilemma.
This issue is particularly complex within the context of couples therapy, where the relational dynamics between partners can deeply influence the decision to disclose or withhold such information.
Is Bed-Sharing Safe? The Surprising Truth About Co-Sleeping and Your Baby's Emotional Development
The debate over bed-sharing with infants is as old as parenting itself. Should you let your baby sleep in your bed, or is it better to keep them in their crib?
Concerns range from safety issues like Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) to fears about long-term emotional and behavioral problems.
But what does the research actually say? Is bed-sharing a nurturing practice, or are you setting your baby up for emotional turmoil?
Let’s explore the science behind bed-sharing and its impact on your child’s development.
The Secret Sauce of Childhood Popularity: Being Fun!
Ever wondered what makes some kids the talk of the playground while others blend into the background?
Is it their trendy sneakers, impressive jungle gym skills, or perhaps their uncanny ability to memorize every dinosaur name?
According to recent research, the real magic ingredient is much simpler and way more enjoyable—being fun!
Pornography Addiction: Is There Hope? Yes, But We Start By Changing how we talk about it
In the digital age, the accessibility of pornography has skyrocketed, making it essential for mental health professionals to understand its potential impact on individuals and relationships.
While some people use pornography without adverse effects, others may develop problematic patterns that can disrupt their daily lives, relationships, and mental health.
To help identify when pornography consumption becomes problematic, researchers have developed the Problematic Pornography Consumption Scale (PPCS).
The Invisible Burden: Uncovering Family Anxiety Through a Powerful Meme
Memes are more than just amusing internet phenomena; they are cultural artifacts that capture shared human experiences in powerful, relatable ways.
One meme that is emerging but still remains largely under the radar is “the invisible burden.”
This meme poignantly encapsulates the unspoken emotional and mental load carried by many family members, particularly primary caregivers.
This burden is often a significant source of family anxiety, and understanding its roots and implications is crucial for addressing the mental health challenges it creates.
In this post, we will explore how the invisible burden has become such a pervasive issue, discuss its historical and social origins, and consider how we might begin to alleviate this silent weight.
Is Boredom Dangerous? How Our Modern Lives Fuel a Hidden Psychological Crisis
As a family therapist, I observe the impact of this boredom-driven behavior in relationships and communities.
The rise of boredom in the digital age has far-reaching consequences, from interpersonal conflicts to broader societal issues, such as the appeal of populism and radical ideologies.
Understanding the role of boredom is crucial in addressing these challenges and helping individuals find more fulfilling and meaningful ways to engage with the world around them.
Cuffing Season: Why We All Suddenly Want to Snuggle Up When It Gets Cold
Cuffing Season. That magical time of year when the air gets crisp, the days get shorter, and suddenly everyone’s on the hunt for someone to share a blanket—and maybe a Netflix password—with.
If you’ve noticed that your inbox starts buzzing with “Hey, stranger…” texts as soon as the leaves begin to fall, congratulations—you’ve officially entered cuffing season.
While the memes about cuffing season might make you chuckle, a lot is happening behind the scenes. So, grab your pumpkin spice latte, and let’s dive into what makes cuffing season such a big deal.