Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
The Emergence of Infant Consciousness: Insights from Neuroscience…
Neuroscience continues the exploration of infant consciousness… and that exploration continues to lead us to ethically challenging territories.
Until the 1980s, medical practices routinely subjected newborns to surgeries without anesthesia, under the assumption of their lack of awareness.
Recent research challenges the prior, prevailing notion that consciousness only arises after birth or within the first year of life.
A meta-review of studies suggests that some form of consciousness may emerge even before birth, particularly towards the end of the third trimester…
When does couples therapy fail?
I admire courageous couples who might feel helpless or hopeless but deeply long to find a way to repair and reconnect once more.
If you’ve been in emotional gridlock and you want help, I might be the help you need…
But when will even a good couples therapist throw up their hands?
Sleepless in Recovery: The Surprising Post-COVID-19 Insomnia Trend…
The aftermath of COVID-19 is proving to be a real snooze fest for many, but not in the way you might think.
While we're all eager to put the pandemic behind us, some are having trouble catching those much-needed Zs.
According to a recent study, over 76% of folks recovering from mild COVID-19 are experiencing a noticeable degree of insomnia…
The Attention Chronicles: 10 Secrets for greater focus and productivity…
“Pay attention. It’s all about paying attention. Attention is vitality. It connects you with others. It makes you eager. Stay eager.” — Susan Sontag.
The Generational Gift of Empathy: How to Nurture It in Your Children…
Empathy, the ability to understand and share the feelings of others, isn't just a skill; it's a family legacy.
A groundbreaking 2024 study has discovered that empathic behavior is passed down from mothers to their children …and even to their grandchildren.
Moral Injury: Understanding, Healing, and Moving Forward with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy…
In recent years, the concept of moral injury has gained increasing attention in the field of marriage and family therapy.
Coined originally in the context of combat veterans, moral injury refers to the psychological, social, and spiritual harm that arises from actions, or the lack thereof, that transgress deeply held moral beliefs and expectations.
It can occur in various contexts beyond the military, such as in healthcare, law enforcement, and even within personal relationships...
Tea Time: Your Secret Weapon Against Diabetes…
If you're looking to sweeten the deal when it comes to your health, consider adding a cup of tea to your daily routine.
A recent study suggests that tea drinkers, particularly fans of the darker brews, could be lowering their risk of developing type 2 diabetes by up to half.
What is Cantril’s Ladder?
Forget what you've heard about Finland, Denmark, and Iceland.
Sure, they're ranked high on the happiness scale, but are they truly living their best lives?
It seems they're more about flaunting their wealth and status rather than basking in genuine happiness…
Undertaking the twin tasks of affair recovery
Little compares to the devastation people feel upon discovering that their spouses have been unfaithful. Some marriages end right away.
But many others hit agonizing impasses as couples struggle to get past the intense anger, sadness, and mistrust. [Over 60% of marriages survive an affair].
These hurtful interactions wreak emotional havoc on both spouses, and typically neither one has a clue how to help the marriage recover…
The problem with being defensive…
Defensiveness is marriage one of the most pervasive of Gottman’s four horsemen of the apocalypse.
The problem with being defensive is that when you’re feeling attacked, it keeps you stuck in your own head.
Many couples slide into conflictual conversations too casually, easily and quickly… do you?
Retired Husband Syndrome
Retired husband syndrome (主人在宅ストレス症候群 Shujin Zaitaku Sutoresu Shoukougun) is a significant stressor in contemporary Japanese marriages.
It makes me wonder how American men grapple with notions of honor and responsibility.
7 emotional intimacy hacks that are wicked hard to do…
intimacy hacks are applied neuroscience.
That is, you’re using your body as an intentional drug factory…