Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
The controlling partner…4 losing strategies in marriage
Some controlling partner often struggle in couples therapy…if they deign to attend at all.
On the other hand, some controlling partners are eager to change their controlling behaviors and work hard to do so. How can we tell the difference?
Best treatments for insomnia… period…
The best treatment strategy for insomnia involves a combination of cognitive and behavioral components delivered in person by a therapist, according to a review of the research.
The review involved a comprehensive analysis of 241 studies involving over 30,000 adults.
The power of pro-social spending…
Most people think spending money on themselves will make them happier than spending it on others.
This is not a radical idea that will blow your mind with its incredible newness.
Far from it.
But, because it’s advice that sometimes goes against our natural instinct… it’s worth repeating.
Happy couples focus on these fights
Dr. John Gottman’s 30+ years of research has consistently focused on what happy couples do differently than couples who unhappily struggle.
He used to call these couples the “Masters of Marriage.” Now, (I imagine in an effort to de-stigmatize cohabitating couples).
These happy couples are now called the “Masters of Relationships.” What can they teach us?
Why can’t I forgive my partner after an emotional affair?
“The epidemic of emotional affairs coincides with a tendency that we have noticed for people in long-term relationships to defend themselves psychologically…that is, ironically protect themselves from anxiety-provoking aspects of love.” Psychologist Mark Borg
I swear I can help your marriage
You are in couples therapy to describe your feelings and hopefully, be heard and understood.
For many couples, my therapy office may be the only place where they can engage in authentic conversations.
I make it clear to couples at the outset that I am a fan of strong fu*king language … but only if they are so inclined…
The healing power of couples holding hands, hugs and kisses
Can Hugs and Kisses and Holding Hands heal our nervous system?
A recent study says yes, and our attachment styles play an unexpected role…
Stop workplace emotional affairs
Stop fooling yourselves into believing that you can have intimate relationships at work and still have a great relationship with your committed partner.
If you want to experience intimacy, passion, and connection…you’ll want to enjoy that relationship for the rest of your life; you’ll have to keep that emotional depth inside your marriage…
5 ways you’ll know you’re ready to start couples counseling
Couples therapy can be expensive, exhausting, educational, and exhilarating. you might even want to prepare for it.
If you’ve been kicking around the idea …how do you know if you’re actually ready to start couples counseling?
Here are 5 ways…
10 Toxic behaviors that will gradually become bigger marital issues
Research is now uncovering a distinct set of behaviors that chip away at trust and confidence in gradual and subtle ways.
These behaviors slowly become looming marital issues…here’s what they are…
Is the best way to boost your memory to tell other folks to remember more?
A fascinating study reveals that sharing information can significantly enhance memory retention.
Researchers found that humans who immediately relayed information to others were able to remember it more effectively and for a longer duration!
Is the Flow State a gateway to mental wellness and physical health?
Researchers have unearthed a profound correlation between the elusive "flow" state and mental and physical well-being in a groundbreaking study.
This state, characterized by intense engagement and deep enjoyment in an activity, has been linked to many benefits for those naturally inclined to experience it, known as folks with high "flow proneness."
The study reveals that folks with high flow proneness are significantly less susceptible to mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, and stress disorders.