A recent study reveals that it’s the accumulation of countless daily negatives that can quietly erode the foundation of love and connection rather than the absence of grand gestures or intense positives.

This notion resonates deeply with the observations made by renowned relationship expert Dr. John Gottman, who introduced the concept of the "golden ratio" of 5:1, suggesting that for every negative interaction, there should be at least five positive ones to maintain a healthy relationship…

Let's tackle this with humor, imagining you and your partner facing the dire consequences of missing trash day!

As a couples therapist, missing trash day can actually be an opportunity for growth and understanding within a relationship.

Here's how you might approach it…

The question "Why is my wife always mad at me?" echoes through the minds of many husbands, a poignant plea for understanding and resolution.

As a seasoned couples therapist, I recognize the gravity of this question and the layers of complexity it unveils within intimate relationships.

Let’s explore the reasons behind a wife's persistent anger and irritation, drawing upon empirical research, renowned thought leaders, and therapeutic methodologies…

As much as we'd like to believe our personal and professional lives exist in separate universes, they're more intertwined than a plate of spaghetti.

When work is smooth sailing but home life resembles a shipwreck, or vice versa, things can get pretty dicey…

Weaponized kindness refers to the strategic and deliberate use of acts of kindness or generosity to achieve certain goals or outcomes, often in situations where one might not expect such tactics to be employed.

It typically involves using benevolent gestures or behaviors to persuade, manipulate, or influence.

While marital conflict is unavoidable, emotional flooding, toxic fighting, and escalation are entirely preventable.

Here are 2 powerful ideas for what to do instead of fighting with your partner…

Some of the most useful stuff in science-based couples therapy helps us to be kinder and more regulated…

It is when we really are so pissed, that we don’t give a sh*t, that we are the most epically unkind…

Here’s how to do better…

Some humans are unlucky.

They never experienced a family of origin that confirmed their self-worth… Unfortunately, they refrain from complaining when they should…

There is a lot of talk these days about Relational Ambivalence. How does Perel’s idea of Relational Ambivalence relate to our ongoing epidemic of family estrangement?