Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
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Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
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- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
The Weekend Warrior Effect: Can “Good Enough” Exercise Be Better for Your Brain?
The Weekend Warrior Effect: Can “Good Enough” Exercise Be Better for Your Brain?
Is your fitness routine a bit, let’s say, aspirational?
Do you crush it on the weekends and then ghost your running shoes the rest of the week? Turns out, you might be onto something genius—not just for your heart, but for your brain.
A recent study published in Neurobiology of Learning and Memory suggests that the “weekend warrior” exercise pattern could provide lasting cognitive benefits, proving that sometimes “good enough” might actually be great.
Why Do Nightmares Haunt Some More Than Others? Psychological Traits Hold the Clues
Ever woken up from a nightmare so vivid that it felt like it dragged you through the emotional wringer?
You’re not alone.
While some of us snooze through the night like peaceful logs, others seem destined for nightly battles in the dream world.
So, what gives?
According to researchers, it boils down to two key psychological traits: thin mental boundaries and something intriguingly called nightmare proneness.
A recent study published in Dreaming delves into the mysterious mechanics behind frequent nightmares, and the findings are as fascinating as they are relatable.
The Nightmare Club: Who’s in It?
What Happens to the Placeless People? Rethinking Home and Belonging During the Holidays
While holiday songs like "I’ll Be Home for Christmas" and "White Christmas" evoke deep yearnings for home, they often leave one critical question unanswered: What about those who have no true home to return to?
For the unattached, the transient, or the emotionally estranged, the holidays may magnify a profound sense of placelessness.
If home is the heart of the holidays, what happens to those who exist without an anchor in the world?
The Dopamine-Serotonin Dance: Cultural Narcissism and Its Implications for Marriage and Family Therapy
The recent discovery of dopamine and serotonin’s opposing roles in shaping learning and decision-making, revealed by Stanford’s Wu Tsai Neurosciences Institute, is a breakthrough that goes beyond neuroscience.
It speaks to the heart of our collective struggles in relationships, families, and even society at large.
Against the backdrop of Cultural Narcissism—a phenomenon marked by excessive self-focus, impulsivity, and instant gratification—this research offers a profound lens to explore how neurobiology influences our relational and societal dynamics.
Is There a Bidirectional Relationship Between Loneliness and Post-Traumatic Stress in Teens?
Adolescence is a profoundly transformative stage of life, characterized by rich opportunities for growth and vital self-discovery, but it is often shadowed by significant emotional vulnerability. For many teenagers, feelings of loneliness and the effects of post-traumatic stress (PTS) are not only deep and profound challenges in themselves but also interconnected forces that tend to exacerbate one another in complex ways. A recent study published in the Journal of Affective Disorders sheds important light on this bidirectional relationship, offering critical insights into how these experiences unfold over time and significantly influence the overall well-being of adolescents during this crucial developmental period.
Sexual Satisfaction’s Surprising Glow-Up: How It Fuels Marital Happiness With Age
Is there a secret ingredient to marital bliss that grows stronger as we age? A new study suggests there is, and it might surprise you.
Sexual satisfaction—often thought to fizzle out like a dying sparkler with time—appears, for some. to gain importance as couples grow older.
So, if you’ve been worrying that your golden years will be all about prune juice and daytime TV, think again. This might be your moment to shine.
The Study That Had Us All Raising an Eyebrow
Feeling Connected to Nature: How Awe and Transcendence May Ease Grief
Grieving the loss of a loved one is one of life’s most profound challenges, often leaving us grappling with complex emotions that can threaten our mental well-being.
However, recent research suggests that connecting with nature and experiencing the emotion of awe can play a transformative role in mitigating the mental health impacts of complicated grief.
This insight connects deeply with notions of transcendence—a sense of being part of something larger than oneself—and aligns with the reflections of Christian mystics who saw nature as a pathway to divine communion.
A study published in the International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health delves into these connections, showing how nature’s ability to inspire awe may offer a lifeline for those navigating the labyrinth of loss.
What Makes a Company Christmas Party Good? A Guide for the Festively Bewildered
Karen from Accounting drinks too much eggnog, the IT guy busts out the robot on the dance floor, and someone inevitably asks, “Is this gluten-free?”
Welcome to the company Christmas party, a corporate ritual as sacred and unpredictable as a Secret Santa exchange gone rogue. But what really makes a company Christmas party “good”?
Researchers, perhaps as desperate as the rest of us to make sense of these events, have stepped in with answers. And yes, it involves more than free booze.
A study published in Scientific Reports by Hannes Zacher from Leipzig University unwrapped the key ingredients for a successful office holiday bash, and spoiler alert: it’s not just about dodging awkward encounters with your boss.
Why Are We Smitten by Villains and Antiheroes? A Study of Dark Traits and Fictional Fascination
You’re watching your favorite series, but instead of rooting for the squeaky-clean hero, you find yourself oddly captivated by the morally ambiguous antihero or even the downright evil villain.
Why? Are you secretly plotting world domination, or is there something deeper at play?
A study published in Psychology of Popular Media dives into this very question, suggesting that people with antagonistic personality traits—think Machiavellianism, narcissism, psychopathy, and everyday sadism—are more likely to admire and identify with these complex characters.
And before you panic: no, loving Loki doesn’t mean you’re about to go full supervillain.
Heroes, Villains, and Antiheroes: A Personality Mirror?
When Narcissism Meets Activism: The Surprising Role of Ego in LGBTQ and Gender Identity Advocacy
Activism is often seen as a beacon of altruism—a noble cause championed by individuals committed to making the world a better place.
But what happens when ego crashes the party?
Research published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior has unearthed some intriguing findings: narcissistic grandiosity, a hallmark of certain dark personality traits, appears to predict greater involvement in LGBTQ and gender identity activism.
Cue the raised eyebrows.
Before you panic-text your activist friend group or rethink your own involvement, let’s break this down with a mix of humor, warmth, and a splash of psychological nuance.
Enter the Dark-Ego-Vehicle Principle (DEVP)
Walking on LEGOs, Not Eggshells: Parenting in the Chaos of Young Kids
Parenting young children is a journey unlike any other. It’s messy, unpredictable, and occasionally painful—literally.
If you’ve ever stepped on a LEGO at 2 a.m., you understand the special kind of agony that comes with navigating life alongside toddlers. Forget "walking on eggshells."
With little ones, you’re walking on LEGOs: a minefield of plastic bricks and emotional curveballs.
This humorous and heartfelt reframe of the classic idiom captures the reality of parenting young kids. It’s chaotic, yes—but also beautiful, filled with moments of deep connection that make every misstep worthwhile.
Why “Walking on LEGOs” Is the Perfect Parenting Path to Meaningful Suffering
The Generational Apology: A Path to Healing and Breaking Cycles
Imagine sitting across from a parent or grandparent, and instead of the usual small talk, they pause and say, “I want to apologize. I know I made mistakes, and I see now how they affected you.” It’s not defensive. It’s not dismissive. It’s a moment of pure accountability—an offering of emotional connection and validation.
This is the heart of the Generational Apology, a concept gaining momentum in family therapy and popular culture.
It’s more than a meme; it’s a meaningful shift toward healing intergenerational wounds, breaking cycles of trauma, and fostering deeper understanding between generations.
What Is the Generational Apology?