Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
Building a Stronger Spiritual Life: 21 Research-Based Practices…
In our fast-paced, materialistic world, nurturing the soul can be a challenge…
For my clients preoccupied with such concerns, here are 21 practical suggestions for building a stronger spiritual life, backed by research and designed to be inclusive of all faith backgrounds…
Understanding Cognitive Dissonance: A Classic Social Psychology Experiment
Imagine you're an undergrad at Stanford in 1954, clueless about the groundbreaking experiment you're about to be a part of.
Festinger and Carlsmith's study on cognitive dissonance is about to turn your perception of boredom and deception on its head…
You agree to participate in a two-hour experiment on 'measures of performance,' thinking it's just another requirement for your course. Little do you know, this experiment will become a cornerstone in social psychology…
What is a Monotropic Spiral?
Monotropism suggests that some neurodiverse humans focus intensely on one or a few interests or stimuli at a time rather than spreading their attention across multiple stimuli as neurotypical individuals might.
I discuss these ideas with Mona Kay on the first episode of my new podcast.
Is There a Romeo and Juliet effect in couples therapy?
Is there a Romeo and Juliet Effect in couples therapy?
In 1972, a paper published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology suggested that there was a “Romeo and Juliet effect” in early-stage relationships.
The study concluded that the more parents try to interfere, the stronger that bond of young love becomes.
We now know that study is utter bullsh*t…
Adult ADHD and marital conflict
Adult ADHD is a type of neurodiversity that goes undiagnosed about 90% of the time.
Here are some things to think about if attention deficit disorder is hurting your marriage.
Assume that everyone is fighting a hard battle…
Imagine a world where sharing our deepest struggles was not just accepted, but encouraged.
In this parallel universe, a public sense of empathy reigns supreme.
What would it look like if we all revealed our secret battles?
3 Essential ideas for raising grateful kids in an entitled world…
Research suggests that parents who let their children take the lead in easy or moderately difficult tasks help them develop self-regulation skills and independence, contributing to their success later in life.
As Stanford University professor Jelena Obradović explains, "Too much direct engagement can come at a cost to kids' abilities to control their own attention, behavior, and emotions."
Problem-solving and ASD…
Valerie L. Gaus, in her book "Living Well on the Spectrum," introduces a therapeutic intervention called "problem-solving" tailored for folks with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD).
This approach empowers them to navigate challenges and improve their quality of life.
Let's discuss into the essence of Gaus's problem-solving intervention and how it can benefit those with ASD…
ASD and eye contact…
In her book "Living on the Spectrum," Valerie L. Gaus introduces the concept of "eye punctuation," which refers to the various ways in which humans use eye contact to convey meaning in social interactions.
But for folks with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), understanding and interpreting these cues can be challenging…
However, with practice and training, humans with ASD can learn to decipher the nuances of eye contact and improve their social communication skills.
Why self-compassion is essential for emotional resilience…
New research underscores the profound impact of self-compassion on emotional healing and well-being.
According to Professor Mark R. Leary, the lead author of a study on this subject, self-compassion helps humans cope with life's challenges without becoming defensive.
He stated, “Self-compassion helps to eliminate a lot of the anger, depression and pain we experience when things go badly for us.”
The Power of Words… How Language Reflects and Shapes Our Health
Recent research highlights the profound connection between the words we use and our mental and physical well-being.
According to Dr. Vera Vine, the lead author of a study on this topic, our language reflects our comfort and familiarity with different emotional states…
Does new research suggest that our brains are connected to the cosmos at a quantum level?… yup….
Recent discoveries regarding quantum vibrations inside neurons in the brain have reignited interest in a controversial theory of consciousness.
This theory suggests that the brain is connected to the universe at a quantum level, a concept first proposed in the 1990s but heavily criticized at the time.
One of the main criticisms was that the brain was considered too "warm, wet, and noisy" for coherent quantum processes.
But apparently.. evidence is growing that human consciousness is connected to the universe at a quantum level… and this might change everything…