Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
Empathizing-Systemizing (E-S) Theory of couple communication difficulties…
The interplay between empathizing and systematizing tendencies often surfaces during conflicts.
Empathizing humans may prioritize emotional expression, seeking understanding and validation, while systematizing individuals may lean towards logical problem-solving.
How not to face into emotion…
Yale found that humans were far more accurate in discerning the emotions of others more accurately without looking at their facial expressions.
But how?
More breaking research narratives about why we need not fear the internet…
A prestigious new study has 23 billion reasons why you should not fear the internet…
Why I live in the Berkshires….
A torrent of research over decades has consistently confirmed a salient point:
Living in the woods is good for you…
4 Traits for a happy marriage…
Why are researchers continuing to dump on Anxious Attachment?
The findings in this 2019 involve genetic markers, but also a Scarlet Letter for Anxious Attachment…
Weak Central Coherence Theory… and the Bridge over the River Kwai…
Sometimes the best way to discuss a complicated idea such as the difference between a Weak and a Strong Central Coherence is to go to the movies…
7 Sweet things to say to your husband in a rough patch
Here are 7 carefully chosen things to say to your husband in your otherwise good marriage that has hit a somewhat cranky time.
They’re different from the kinds of things you’re saying now.
Hopefully, they’ll help revive your friendship at this stressful time. I’ll try to explain my thinking behind each idea…
How rituals can alleviate loneliness…
Rituals for one human, can and do matter.
But you make it happen, the “product” may be either a variable, or a constant because ritual is driven by your direct, personal sense of meaning.
When do the brightest humans tend to go to bed?
Why do the smartest humans have a specific sleep pattern?
Some would say it’s evolutionary…
4 Pillars of well-being…
A fairly new study suggests that there are 4 pillars of psychological well-being.
Awareness, connection, insight and purpose are the best antidotes we have for cultural gridlock.
A renewed cultural focus on these load-bearing pillars can help all struggling humans to improve their emotional well-being…
11 Critical tools for surviving the holidays with marital trouble…
Here’s another post I wrote in 2019 that can currently be found on the Couples Therapy Inc. website.
I’ve asked them so many times to return my work product… but they refuse.
They choose instead, to use it for themselves and are daring me to do something about it.
They did not ask my permission, and they attributed the authorship to a “Former Staff Writer.” instead of treating with courtesy and respect, by using my name.
Holiday rules for a happier marriage…
Couples Therapy Inc. recently posted not 1, not 2, but 3 blog posts written by me years ago.
They are… right now…. presenting my content on their website as written by their “Former Staff Writer.”
They did this to needle a 70 year-old man during the holidays….