Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
Neurodiversity and Technology: Bridging the Accessibility Gap
Ever tried typing an email while someone blasts music in the background, your phone won’t stop buzzing, and the office lights flicker like a haunted house?
Now imagine that’s your brain, all the time. Welcome to the reality of many neurodivergent individuals, for whom the modern world can feel like an overstimulating, unaccommodating tech labyrinth.
But here’s the twist: technology, when designed thoughtfully, can also be the great equalizer.
The right tools can help neurodivergent individuals thrive—whether it’s speech-to-text software for dyslexic students, noise-canceling apps for autistic professionals, or AI-driven time management tools for those with ADHD. The challenge?
Much of today’s technology is still built for neurotypical brains, leaving a huge accessibility gap.
This post explores the intersection of neurodiversity and technology, highlights existing barriers, and showcases innovations that are making digital spaces more inclusive for all minds.
The Role of Neurodiversity in Mental Health: A Paradigm Shift
For years, the mental health field has treated neurodivergence like something to “fix.” ADHD?
Medicate it. Autism? Make it blend in. Dyslexia? Remediate it as quickly as possible. But what if we’ve been thinking about this all wrong?
The neurodiversity movement challenges the idea that brain differences are defects. Instead, it argues that conditions like autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and others are variations of human cognition—each with its strengths and challenges (Silberman, 2015).
This shift in perspective has huge implications for mental health: instead of forcing neurodivergent souls to conform, what if we designed mental health support systems that actually work for their unique brains?
This post seeks to explore the complex relationship between neurodiversity and mental health, highlighting both the challenges neurodivergent individuals face and the promising new approaches that embrace, rather than erase, their differences.
The Intersection of Neurodiversity and Employment: Fostering Inclusive Workplaces
Imagine walking into a job interview, and instead of dreading the dreaded "Tell me about yourself" question, you’re met with: “What’s the best environment for your brain to thrive?”
Sounds like a dream, right?
For many neurodivergent folks, this is far from reality. Instead, they often encounter rigid hiring processes, sensory-overloaded workspaces, and a whole lot of well-meaning but clueless supervisors.
Neurodiversity—the idea that neurological differences like autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and others are natural variations of the human brain—has been gaining traction in workplace discussions (Silberman, 2015).
But despite some progress, many neurodivergent employees still face barriers to employment and advancement.
This post explores those challenges, highlights the benefits of neurodiverse workplaces, and offers practical strategies for fostering a truly inclusive work environment.
Neurodiversity in Education: Creating Supportive Learning Environments
Imagine being a child who processes the world differently—maybe the hum of fluorescent lights feels like a jet engine, or reading a textbook feels like deciphering hieroglyphs.
Now imagine a school that expects you to thrive in an environment built for only one kind of brain. Frustrating, right?
For decades, traditional education has operated under the assumption that all children learn the same way.
Neurodivergent students—including those with autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and other learning differences—often struggle in classrooms designed for neurotypical learners (Armstrong, 2010).
But here’s the good news: schools are finally waking up to the need for inclusive, supportive learning environments.
This post explores the challenges neurodivergent students face, highlights innovative teaching strategies, and provides actionable steps to create classrooms where all minds can thrive.
9 Habits of Parents Who Raise Exceptionally Successful Kids (Without Losing Their Sanity)
Let’s be honest—every parent dreams of raising a wildly successful child.
You know, the kind who grows up to be a Nobel Prize-winning, emotionally stable, and well-adjusted adult who calls home just because.
But reality often looks more like negotiating bedtime with a tiny dictator or finding out your teen’s “homework” was actually a four-hour TikTok deep dive.
So what’s the secret sauce behind parents who manage to raise accomplished, happy, and resilient kids without burning out? Science has some fascinating answers.
Are We In a Meta-Crisis?
Esther Perel’s concept of the metacrisis is an ambitious attempt to describe the convergence of multiple existential challenges—climate instability, political upheaval, economic precarity, and technological alienation—that are reshaping not only society at large but the very fabric of our interpersonal relationships.
It is an idea that acknowledges the deeply intertwined nature of crises rather than treating them as isolated problems.
However, while her framework is thought-provoking, it warrants deeper scrutiny, both in terms of its explanatory power and its limitations.
Psychedelics and the Mystery of Death: How Transcendent Experiences Diminish Fear
For as long as humans have been aware of their mortality, we have sought ways to soften the existential weight of death.
Some turn to religion, others to philosophy, and some—according to recent research—find solace in the transformative power of psychedelics.
A groundbreaking study published in the Journal of Psychoactive Drugs suggests that folks who use psychedelic substances report significantly lower levels of death anxiety, not because of the substances themselves, but because of the profound, transcendent experiences they facilitate.
The Power of Touch: How Supportive Gestures Can Boost Self-Esteem and Reduce Stress
When life throws challenges our way, support from friends and loved ones can make all the difference.
Whether it’s a kind word, a reassuring hug, or a simple pat on the back, these gestures help us navigate difficult moments.
A recent study published in the Journal of Nonverbal Behavior explores the impact of supportive touch and verbal encouragement on self-esteem, self-efficacy, and emotional well-being.
Words of Comfort vs. A Hug: What Works Best?
3 Cognitive Biases That Are Keeping Us Poor and Weak
We like to think we’re rational creatures—masters of our fate, captains of our soul, and all that.
But the truth is, most of our decisions aren’t made through cool, calculated logic.
Instead, we are heavily influenced by cognitive biases—deeply ingrained mental shortcuts that shape our choices without us even realizing it.
Some biases are helpful.
They evolved to keep us alive in a dangerous world where quick decision-making could mean the difference between life and death.
But in our modern environment, a few of these biases are exploited by Limbic Capitalism to work against us, leading us to make impulsive financial choices, avoiding personal growth, and settling for soul-crushing mediocrity.
If you’re feeling stuck, broke, or weak and ineffective, these three cognitive biases might be quietly running the show.
Let’s break them down—and more importantly, learn how to override them for a stronger, wealthier, and more resilient life (btw, I wish I learned this stuff in my profligate youth).
Collaborative Decision-Making for Neurodiverse Couples: Finding Common Ground with Compassion
Navigating relationships is never a one-size-fits-all journey, but for neurodiverse couples, decision-making can feel like a high-stakes puzzle.
Differences in communication styles, sensory needs, and executive functioning can sometimes turn simple choices into stress-inducing dilemmas.
But here’s the good news: with the right approach, collaborative decision-making can become a strength rather than a struggle.
Mona Kay, a leading voice in neurodiverse relationships, emphasizes the importance of structuring decision-making processes that honor both partners’ needs.
Her philosophy isn’t about forcing conformity but about creating an inclusive space where each person’s strengths shine.
Love Like a Flâneur: The Art of Intimate Wandering Through a Relationship with Curiosity and Presence
The flâneur is a figure of leisure, of deep observation, of someone who strolls through life—not aimlessly, but without the anxiety of destination.
Rooted in 19th-century Paris, the flâneur was the observer of the city, taking in its rhythms, its moments of beauty, its contradictions.
The flâneur did not seek to master or control their surroundings but to immerse themselves in the experience of being alive.
What if we loved in the same way?
The Antifragile Marriage: How Struggle Can Make Love Stronger
Most people enter marriage with the unconscious hope that their love will be a safe harbor, a shelter from life’s storms.
And yet, life—being what it is—throws challenges at every couple: financial strain, parenting struggles, personal growth at different speeds, external temptations, illness, and the slow evolution of individual identities over time.
Many marriages are fragile—they crack under pressure.
Some are merely resilient—they endure difficulties but remain unchanged.
But an antifragile marriage? That’s something else entirely.
It’s a marriage that grows stronger because of adversity. Like a muscle that strengthens through resistance, an antifragile relationship thrives on stress, using hardship as fuel for transformation.