Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
What is Borderline Personality Disorder… with Self-Destructive Features?
This Self-Destructive subtype of Borderline Personality disorder is marked by a heightened propensity for engaging in behaviors that pose significant risks to their physical, emotional, and social well-being.
Understanding the volatile nature and velocity of self-destructive behaviors in humans suffering with this subtype of Borderline Personality Disorder is essential for effective diagnosis, treatment, and support.
What is Borderline Personality Disorder with… Impulsive Features?
The impulsive subtype of BPD is characterized by sudden, rash, impulsive actions and decisions.
Humans with this subtype may engage in reckless behaviors without fully considering the consequences, ranging from mundane issues such as tying one on, to reckless driving, and, of course, unsafe sexual practices.
What is Borderline Personality Disorder with… Discouraged Features?
Some humans with Borderline Personality Disorder have the Discouraged features subtype.
These poor souls endure chronic feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt, and pessimism.
The discouraged type of BPD presents distinctive set of challenges as they attempt to navigate their relationships, self-perception, and emotional regulation.
What is Borderline Personality Disorder with… Petulant Features?
Within the spectrum of Borderline Personality Disorder, the Petulant subtype represents a distinct manifestation with its unique set of symptoms and challenges.
I think my first ex-wife could have been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder with the Petulant subtype.
So exploring its clinical features, diagnostic criteria, potential causes, and treatment options, is a walk down memory lane for me…
Irrational Beliefs and the 1950’s focus on Cognition…
Ellis founded REBT in the 1950s as a reaction against prevailing psychoanalytic and behaviorist paradigms.
He was dissatisfied with the slow progress and subjective nature of psychoanalysis, as well as the deterministic and external focus of behaviorism.
Ellis sought to create an approach that emphasized the role of cognition in shaping emotions and behaviors.
He was the first student of stinkin’ thinkin’…
2 Personality traits that will buffer your immune system this winter…
There are 2 personality traits that will stand you in good stead this fine winter.
How can emotional regulation and extroversion make a difference in our lives?
What’s the most plausible way to save face once you blow off your New Year’s resolution?
Some research questions are like an undulating serpent circumambulating the pathetic little circus of petty personal advantage and empty ease…
The strange truth about eye contact…
Mutual eye gaze accounts for as little as 3.5 % of the time when two people are interacting.
The rest of the time people are sometimes looking at each other’s mouths, but mostly they are looking away.
When people do look at each other, though, however briefly, this look conveys important social messages… like what?
What is Low Frustration Tolerance?
Low Frustration Tolerance can be understood as the limited ability of a human to endure and cope with the distress associated with frustration, disappointment, or discomfort.
While frustration is a natural part of life, those with LFT find it challenging to navigate these emotions, often leading to heightened stress levels and maladaptive coping mechanisms.
Which common mental power peaks in your 60’s or 70’s?
Human brains achieve peak performance for different abilities at different phases of life.
But did you know that there is one commonly noticed ability that peaks in later life?
75% of Americans believe this toxic idea about love ...Happy New Year!
As many as three-quarters of Americans believe in the idea of soul mates: that there is someone out there who provides a perfect fit.
Unfortunately, this kind of thinking may be hurting their relationships, according to research.
7 Rules for personal happiness that may also save our planet… Taylor’s Version…
My bones tell me that 2024 is going to be one hell of a ride.
And I want to be right and ready for my family, clients, friends, and colleagues in the research community, and the community of clinical practice.