One of the outstanding contributions of neuroscience and Gottman’s research is the notion of perpetual vs. solvable marital problems.

When a science-based couples therapist is assessing a new couple, it’s crucial to ascertain whether their problems are solvable or perpetual.

Gottman’s research shows that 69% of relationship conflict is about perpetual problems.

Why is conflict (which is inescapable in our most intimate friendships) so inherently fraught with peril?

Why do so many marital fights go so wrong… so fast?

Here’s what we know…

Disagreements and conflicts are natural in any relationship, but when your husband consistently instigates arguments and then shifts blame, it can create a toxic dynamic that erodes trust and intimacy.

Let’s explore the underlying reasons for this behavior and offer a few strategies to address and resolve these conflicts constructively…

When anger and resentment dominate your relationship, it can feel like there's no way out.

The constant fighting leaves you drained and hopeless, with divorce seeming like the only solution.

However, even in the midst of hostility, there is hope. Healing resentment is possible, and it can save your marriage…

We all know that anger and irritability disrupt the positive flow and cause discord between partners.

When a wife tells me, “My husband is always angry,” I’m first thinking about unmet needs…

Fair Fighting in marriage is an essential skill.

In this post, I will explain 8 essential guidelines for approaching marital arguments.

Here are the most essential guidelines for effectively managing marital conflict…

Marital fights are inevitable, but how couples navigate these conflicts can make all the difference.

Understanding how to not devalue each other in a marital fight is crucial for maintaining a healthy and thriving partnership…

A recent study reveals that it’s the accumulation of countless daily negatives that can quietly erode the foundation of love and connection rather than the absence of grand gestures or intense positives.

This notion resonates deeply with the observations made by renowned relationship expert Dr. John Gottman, who introduced the concept of the "golden ratio" of 5:1, suggesting that for every negative interaction, there should be at least five positive ones to maintain a healthy relationship…

Let's tackle this with humor, imagining you and your partner facing the dire consequences of missing trash day!

As a couples therapist, missing trash day can actually be an opportunity for growth and understanding within a relationship.

Here's how you might approach it…

The question "Why is my wife always mad at me?" echoes through the minds of many husbands, a poignant plea for understanding and resolution.

As a seasoned couples therapist, I recognize the gravity of this question and the layers of complexity it unveils within intimate relationships.

Let’s explore the reasons behind a wife's persistent anger and irritation, drawing upon empirical research, renowned thought leaders, and therapeutic methodologies…

As much as we'd like to believe our personal and professional lives exist in separate universes, they're more intertwined than a plate of spaghetti.

When work is smooth sailing but home life resembles a shipwreck, or vice versa, things can get pretty dicey…

Weaponized kindness refers to the strategic and deliberate use of acts of kindness or generosity to achieve certain goals or outcomes, often in situations where one might not expect such tactics to be employed.

It typically involves using benevolent gestures or behaviors to persuade, manipulate, or influence.