Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
How to love someone with Avoidant Attachment…
Avoidant Attachment is a prevalent attachment style, especially among American men.
This attachment style presents unique challenges due to its inclination towards emotional distance and reluctance to engage in intimacy.
Let’s jump in…
Anxious Attachment and Protest Behavior…
When those among us with Anxious Attachment sense emotional distance or feel insecure within their relationship, they may exhibit what is known as protest behavior… and that can be a real problem…
Grief therapy goals…
Robert A. Neimeyer is a prominent figure in grief therapy, known for his innovative ideas and approaches to helping individuals cope with loss…
Here are His Essential Grief Therapy Goals for Managing Grief and Loss…
What is Differentiation in Relationships?
Differentiation and attachment are critical concepts in couples therapy, each offering a distinct perspective on how relationships function and evolve.
Let's delve into each idea and its implications in the context of couples therapy, drawing on insights from prominent theorists like John Gottman, Ellyn Bader, and Sue Johnson.
How to nudge a narcissist toward empathy…
If we encourage narcissists to consider the situation from their life-partner’s point of view, are they are likely to respond in a much more considerate or sympathetic way?
Yup… Research suggests that narcissists just need a nudge…
Gimme a break…
How much solitude is too much?
The relationship between being alone and feeling lonely is quite complicated.
This study emphasizes that your mileage may definitely vary. Solitude does not reliably provoke loneliness.
Let’s dish on Avoidant Attachment…
Adults with an Avoidant Attachment Style fear rejection… and attempt to deactivate the attachment system by limiting closeness.
Avoidant humans experience an ongoing struggle between deep attachment needs… and deep attachment defenses…
7 Rules for personal happiness that may also save our planet… Taylor’s Version…
My bones tell me that 2024 is going to be one hell of a ride.
And I want to be right and ready for my family, clients, friends, and colleagues in the research community, and the community of clinical practice.
What Game of Thrones is teaching us about loneliness…
Fascinating new research explains how Game of Throne fans have a form of cinema verite running their nervous systems…
You’re so sweet! How the sexy notion of Embodied Cognition is changing neuroscience…
Are you annoyed yet by the idea that humans with a sweet tooth have a bubbly, helpful soul?
A better question is why is the notion of Embodied Cognition so alluring to neuroscience?
The way out of meaningless suffering is not easy…
When I was 17, I went to prison… and I came out differently 6 hours later…
Why is AI still dumb as a rock when it comes to understanding human motivation?
AI is a wonderful source of pattern recognition computing power, but how did AI do in a face to face contest with an 11 month old infant to understand human motivation?
Let’s say the researchers were underwhelmed…