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4 Robust defense mechanisms that can complicate your conflicts
Some defense mechanisms are particularly robust, and can cause lots of meaningless suffering. Do any of these sound familiar?
4 Primitive defense mechanisms that can screw up your relationship
We all are defensive from time to time, but what are the most primitive defense mechanisms that can really screw up a relationship?
5 Reasons you have a sexless marriage
It’s been estimated that about 20% of American couples find themselves in the distressing situation of a sexless marriage.
3 things you must know about how friendships impact our nervous system
If you’re picky, and choose your friends wisely, and now there’s some new research indicating that doing so can boost your well-being.
Not just friends…an appreciation…
20 years ago Dr. Shirley Glass researched affairs in the workplace. What have we learned over 2 decades?
Helping Alice tell Steve…
Some things hurt so bad, you hesitate to burden your partner…intimacy is about the hard things too…
The motivational importance of family
This is an emerging cross-cultural fact.
It doesn’t matter who you ask or where you look, long-term enduring family bonds are more important than preserving your health, finding a significant other, achieving status, or even self-preservation…
But why?
The Sound Relationship House Revisited
What is the Gottman Sound Relationship House? It seems that you can’t find a Gottman trained blogger or Gottman “informed” therapist website, that doesn’t rhapsodize about it. They all seem to approach it similarly.
I thought that in this post, I might meander a path to the side door instead of taking the usual six-lane superhighway to the front door of the Sound Relationship House.
7 ways your depressed husband shows up in couples therapy
Here is an interesting idea.
Could it be possible that your depressed husband and your couples therapist, (regardless of gender) are naturally at odds with one another?
Dealing with a self-absorbed parent
A self-absorbed parent is annoyed with the provisioning requirements that a child needs to thrive.
This ultimately results in the range of emotional and psychological difficulties for my now adult clients as they navigate their awareness of a toxic parental legacy :
dubious self-esteem, conflict avoidance, porous boundaries, and emotional guardrails made out of jello…