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Why Do Self-Centered People Use Social Media? New Study Reveals It’s Not About Ego
Scrolling through Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, you might assume that all those meticulously curated selfies and life updates come from a place of ego.
But a new study published in the Canadian Journal of Behavioural Science reveals a twist in this assumption: self-centered folks use social media more out of a fear of missing out (FOMO) than a desire to boost their self-image.
In fact, they are more motivated by a sense of vulnerability than by confidence.
This fresh perspective challenges the stereotype of self-centered social media users as simply seeking attention.
Instead, the research suggests they are actually seeking reassurance—trying to fill an emotional gap rather than flaunting their lives.
The Dark Triad: How Personality Traits Like Narcissism, Machiavellianism, and Psychopathy Impact Mental Health
What if certain “dark” personality traits could actually help us navigate mental health challenges?
According to a recent study in the Journal of Personality, the Dark Triad traits—narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy—don’t just create difficulties for others; they also shape how we cope with mental health issues like depression, anxiety, and stress.
The Dark Triad has always been associated with social abrasiveness and manipulative behavior, but this study suggests that these traits’ influence on mental health is more complex.
The findings challenge the conventional view of these traits as purely destructive, revealing that each has a unique relationship with mental health, with narcissism even offering some surprising emotional resilience.
The Rise of Premarital Counseling: Building Strong Foundations for Modern Relationships
Once upon a time, premarital counseling was mostly for couples in crisis or for those who belonged to certain religious traditions. But these days, therapy before marriage is the trend.
Generation after generation, people have begun seeing premarital counseling not as a red flag, but as a “relationship tune-up,” a toolkit to build foundations for the modern marriage.
So, how did the attitude shift from “don’t air your dirty laundry” to “let’s talk it out before we hit turbulence”? Today, millennials and Gen Z aren’t just warming to premarital counseling—they’re embracing it as a vital step toward long-lasting, happy marriages.
Why Premarital Counseling? Why Now?
The Autism Creature: Exploring a Meme that Speaks to the Neurodiverse Experience
The internet has given rise to countless memes, many of which resonate deeply with specific communities.
One recent example is the "Autism Creature" meme—also known as the "TBH Creature" or simply "Yippee."
This quirky, four-legged character, often depicted with a neutral expression and white, blob-like form, has become a symbol of connection, humor, and identity within the autistic community.
For many, the Autism Creature brings a sense of lightheartedness to an experience that can often feel challenging or misunderstood.
Let’s explore the origins of this meme, why it resonates with the neurodiverse community, and what its popularity says about self-expression in the digital age.
Safe Mode vs. Flexible Mode in Autism
Understanding the different states that autistic people navigate—often called "safe mode" and "flexible mode"—can be a transformative approach for caregivers, educators, and friends alike.
These states aren’t rigid; they represent adaptive ways that autistic people respond to the world, based on their environment, sensory input, and sense of safety.
Identity Reconstruction and the “Late Autism Diagnosis Effect”
A later-in-life autism diagnosis can prompt a significant identity shift.
Research highlights that adults diagnosed with autism often engage in “retrospective re-evaluation,” where they revisit and reinterpret past experiences through an autism lens (Leedham et al., 2020).
This can lead to a cascade of emotions: relief at finally understanding oneself, grief for past misunderstandings, and often a period of disorientation as they reconstruct their identity with this new knowledge.
Studies show that folks with a late autism diagnosis may experience a form of “identity crisis” as they come to terms with the ways autism has shaped their interactions, experiences, and self-concept (Tan, 2018).
This re-evaluation can be empowering but also mentally exhausting as it often means questioning years or decades of one’s life narrative.
Neurodiverse Queer Memes: Finding Joy, Humor, and Connection at the Intersection of Queer and Neurodivergent Identities
In the wonderful world of internet culture, memes bring people together in relatable, sometimes hilariously specific ways. And if you’re someone who identifies as both neurodivergent and queer, you know that these intersections come with their own set of quirks, challenges, and joys. Enter the “gay neurodiverse meme”—a growing corner of the meme universe where being both queer and neurodivergent is not only celebrated but downright hilarious. These memes capture the nuances of LGBTQ+ neurodivergent life, where sensory overload, literal thinking, and the quest for social belonging all play out in technicolor, with equal parts humor and heart.
Omega-3 and Cognitive Health: Reflections on 24 Years of Taking This Brain Booster
I have a little confession: I’ve been faithfully on a heavy omega-3 supplementation regime for over 20 years.
It started as a simple habit, but over time, I began to see the benefits—not only in my physical health but also in how sharp and clear my mind felt.
So when I came across new research that links omega-3 intake with better cognitive health in older adults, I felt a wave of validation (and a bit of pride!) that my long-standing commitment to omega-3s might actually be doing my brain some good.
This recent study, published in The International Journal of Psychiatry in Medicine, looked at data from a nationwide health survey to explore how omega-3s might influence cognitive abilities in older adults. And the results?
Encouraging.
Those with higher omega-3 intake performed better on cognitive tests, which suggests that omega-3-rich foods—like fish, flaxseeds, and walnuts—could have a positive effect on our minds as we age.
The Coke Bottle Effect: Understanding Emotional Build-Up in Neurodiverse Folks
The "Coke bottle effect" is a powerful analogy that resonates within the neurodiverse community, particularly among those with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and ADHD.
This term captures a common experience: the build-up of emotions, sensory reactions, and unexpressed thoughts, much like a shaken soda bottle that’s ready to explode.
When internal pressure from perpetual masking becomes too intense, it often leads to an emotional outburst, sometimes unexpectedly.
By exploring this effect, we can gain a deeper understanding of the unique challenges neurodiverse folks face—and learn ways to support healthy emotional release.
This post will delve into why the Coke bottle effect is especially common in the neurodiverse community, its manifestations, and research-backed strategies to manage this buildup.
By embracing the metaphor of the Coke bottle effect, we can all work toward creating environments that foster empathy and provide safe outlets for emotional expression.
7 Traits of Folks Who Have Suffered Too Much
Life’s most profound hardships are often those that leave invisible marks.
People who have endured extensive suffering often emerge with distinct personality traits and psychological insights that reflect both resilience and the challenges of coping with prolonged adversity.
Psychologists studying post-traumatic growth (PTG)—a concept exploring positive transformations following trauma—have identified ways in which suffering can permanently shape one’s character.
Here, we delve deeply into seven traits often seen in those who have endured significant hardship, exploring not only the ways these traits develop but also the science behind them.
5 Signs You Are Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Healing from narcissistic abuse can feel like untangling from invisible chains that have held you back emotionally, psychologically, and even physically.
This form of abuse, which often involves manipulation, gaslighting, and an erosion of self-worth, can leave deep and lasting scars.
But with time, support, and self-compassion, you can begin to see signs of healing. These signs reflect not only personal growth but a powerful reclaiming of autonomy and self-trust.
In this post, we’ll explore five nuanced, research-backed indicators that reveal you’re healing from the complex trauma of narcissistic abuse.
White Knights vs. Black Knights: Understanding Pro-Social and Anti-Social Narcissism in Relationships
As a marriage and family therapist, I’m constantly exploring narcissistic personality traits within the context of relationships.
While narcissism is often seen as a challenge, it’s surprisingly varied.
To understand these distinctions, narcissistic adaptations as characterized as either pro-social (our “White Knights”) or anti-social (our “Black Knights”).
This model, inspired by classic archetypes, helps us consider how narcissists might influence relationships—some for good, others with more destructive tendencies.