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DBT Skills List
Let’s discuss the essential skills of Dialectical Behavior Therapy.
Originally developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan to treat Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), has proven to be an effective antidote to the emotional dysregulation and interpersonal chaos often associated with BPD.
But don't let the clinical jargon scare you off—DBT skills are essentially life skills that can help anyone navigate the choppy waters of their emotional life with greater ease and grace.
Imagine having a toolkit to help you stay calm during a heated argument, communicate your needs without escalating tensions, and even find inner peace amidst life's inevitable ups and downs.
Sounds like magic, right? Well, it’s not magic, but it is incredibly effective.
Understanding the Quiet Borderline Personality
As a couples therapist, I've occassionally encountered folks who struggle with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) in a way that doesn't fit the classic, more observable symptoms.
This subtler presentation is known as "quiet borderline" personality. Unlike their more overt counterparts, those with quiet BPD direct their intense emotions inward rather than outward, making their struggles less visible but equally challenging.
What is a CSA Survivor?
"What is a CSA survivor?" This crucial question addresses the experiences of folks who endured Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA) and its profound impact on their adult lives, especially within intimate relationships.
I've seen firsthand the complexities and challenges that CSA survivors face in their romantic partnerships.
This blog post considers the long-lasting effects of CSA, how these issues manifest in couples therapy, and strategies for fostering healing and intimacy.
Triangulation and Flying Monkeys
Navigating the narcissistic landscape is like stepping into a surreal circus, where the ringmaster isn't just wearing a top hat but wielding a psychological whip of manipulation and control.
Today, we're diving into the curious and confounding realms of "triangulation and flying monkeys," two terms that sound straight out of a whimsical fairy tale but are, unfortunately, all too real in the landscape of narcissistic abuse.
The Greatest Obstacles to Intimacy in 2024… an opinion
Intimacy in 2024. In an era when our phones are smarter than we are and our fridges have Wi-Fi, one might think we've mastered the art of connection.
Alas, no.
I've seen that despite (or perhaps because of) all our technological advances, intimacy remains a delicate dance that many stumble through like toddlers at their first ballet recital.
Here’s my 2 cents on the obstacles to intimacy in 2024.
Repairing after a bi-sexual Affair in a Neurodiverse, Open Marriage
Clarice Babson (not her real name), a dynamic 27-year-old art director, recently found herself entangled in a complex emotional web after a workplace affair with her co-worker, Davida.
Her husband, Barry, a neurodiverse veterinarian with an anxiety disorder, is grappling with the aftermath of this revelation.
As they navigate the intricacies of their relationship, they are also exploring the possibilities of an open marriage and the unique challenges neurodiversity poses.
This transcript of a repair dialogue sheds light on their journey towards healing, interspersed with my commentary on their discussion on bisexuality, open marriage, and neurodiversity.
Discovering Marcia: Navigating Autism at 54 with Grace!
Marcia Pignelli, (not her real name) a vibrant 54-year-old woman with a knack for gardening and a passion for classic literature, recently faced a revelation that has reshaped her understanding of herself.
A retired elementary school teacher, Marcia has always been known for her meticulous attention to detail and her unwavering dedication to her students.
Living with her partner, Lisa, in a cozy rural home, Marcia had long attributed her quirks and sensitivities to just being "a bit different."
However, when she received an autism diagnosis, her world turned upside down.
Join us as we eavesdrop into Marcia’s journey, exploring the challenges and triumphs of navigating a late-life autism diagnosis with humor, grace, and newfound insight.
9 Things you do as an adult if you were abused as a child
Childhood abuse leaves profound and lasting scars, affecting various aspects of one's life well into adulthood.
Here are nine behaviors commonly exhibited by folks who endured abuse as children. Understanding these patterns can offer insights into healing and finding a path toward a healthier emotional life.
What is Flying Monkeys Narcissism?
Flying Monkeys are a concept deeply embedded in the dynamics of narcissistic abuse, as elucidated by thought leaders in the field.
These folks, unwittingly or willingly, become the enforcers of the narcissist's agenda, perpetuating the cycle of abuse.
Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a renowned clinical psychologist and expert in narcissism, describes flying monkeys as "the foot soldiers of the narcissist's army," highlighting their role in carrying out the narcissist's manipulative tactics.
Seeking novelty in marriage? don’t forget self-expansion; 6 things to consider as you shake things up
That lusty, unstoppable, boundless feeling of falling in love has a lot to do with novelty.
It is no surprise that as we become familiar with one another novelty tapers off and perhaps some of that initial “effortless” love wanes as well.
How do we get our mojo back?
How to fall in love with a perfect stranger in 45 minutes
Husband and wife psychologists Arthur and Elaine Aron research how close relationships develop.
Previous research has shown that a history of reciprocally exchanging favors leads to the bestowing of additional favors to their exchange partner, no matter who provided the last favor.
In other words, receiving and bestowing favors builds trust, one of the fundamental building blocks of intimacy. Here’s what you need to know…
How to say goodbye to an estranged child
Navigating the emotional labyrinth of estrangement from a child is a heart-wrenching journey.
When reconciliation seems impossible and you reach the point of saying goodbye, it's crucial to approach the situation with compassion, understanding, and acceptance.
This post explores the steps in saying goodbye to an estranged child, drawing on expert insights and research to provide a thoughtful and compassionate approach.