Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
How to help someone with a porn addiction
How to Help Someone Recover from Porn Addiction: Leading Thought Leaders weigh in…
Let’s consider the latest research and insights on how to help humans recover from porn addiction.
This post aims to provide a modest overview of effective strategies, interventions, and support systems.
The 7 Strategies for Communication with a Narcissist…
When navigating communication with a narcissist, it's essential to master nuanced strategies to protect your well-being and maintain boundaries.
Let's explore each technique further, drawing insights from thought leaders in psychology and personal development…
“ I carried a watermelon…….”
In the realm of pop culture, certain phrases and scenes embed themselves into our collective consciousness, becoming symbolic markers of larger themes and emotions.
One such instance is the iconic line from the 1987 film "Dirty Dancing…" "I carried a watermelon."
Let’s jump in!
Supplements for HPA Axis Support….
Are you feeling constantly stressed, exhausted, or overwhelmed?
Perhaps you've been experiencing difficulty concentrating, disrupted sleep patterns, or even unexplained weight changes.
These could all be signs of an imbalanced HPA (Hypothalamic-Pituitary-Adrenal) axis, the complex interplay between your brain and adrenal glands responsible for managing stress response.
But fear not! Just as a couple might seek therapy to strengthen their bond, you can support your HPA axis with science-backed supplements…
The Power of learning like a child…
In a groundbreaking study led by Dr. Rachel Wu, older adults discovered the fountain of cognitive youth, achieving mental prowess akin to that of teenagers.
By embracing a childlike approach to learning—immersing themselves in multiple disciplines simultaneously—individuals in their 60’s rewound the clock on their cognitive abilities.
The “how-to” of shifting to a more Secure Attachment Style…
Shifting from an insecure Attachment Style to a Secure one is a profound journey that involves intentional reprogramming of the nervous system and a deep understanding of oneself and relational dynamics.
Boyd's OODA loop, a concept originating from military strategy… but widely applied in various fields, including psychology and decision-making, can serve as a useful framework in this process.
The loop consists of four stages: Observe, Orient, Decide, and Act. Let's map these stages onto the intentional journey of shifting your Attachment Style...
Deciphering Autism vs. ADHD in Couples Therapy…
Most seasoned couples therapists trained in neurodiversity have navigated the intricacies of relationships with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).
Let’s consider the distinctions between these two conditions, explore areas of similarity and difference, and perhaps equip you with a few insights…
Cognitive Errors of each Attachment Style…
In couples therapy, recognizing and addressing cognitive errors associated with each attachment style is paramount for fostering healthy communication and intimacy.
Let's explore the cognitive errors of each attachment style through the lens of a couples therapist, drawing insights from attachment science thought leaders…
10 Solid tips on how to prepare for couples counseling
75% of troubled couples never get good couples therapy, or bad for that matter.
Of the 25% that do seek therapy, it is estimated that as much as a third are “mixed agenda” couples.
Here are 10 tips on preparing for couples therapy…
What is a Covert Narcissist Wife?
Living with a Covert Narcissist Wife can be a challenging and emotionally draining experience.
In recent years, there has been an increasing awareness of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and its impact on relationships.
Let’s consider the notion of Covert Narcissism in wives, drawing insights from both psychological research and thought leaders in the field…
The Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment and Dismissive-Avoidant Relationship...
When partners with Anxious-Preoccupied and Dismissive-Avoidant attachment styles come together in a relationship, a dance of push and pull ensues.
The Anxious-Preoccupied partner's insatiable need for closeness clashes with the Dismissive-Avoidant partner's reluctance to engage emotionally, creating a dynamic fraught with tension and misunderstanding.
10 Signs that you have an Avoidant Attachment Style…
Among the various Attachment Styles identified by researchers, Avoidant Attachment is one of the less discussed yet profoundly impactful styles.
Often misunderstood as mere dismissiveness, Avoidant Attachment entails complex emotional dynamics that influence how humans interact with others.
Let’s explore the 10 signs that may indicate you have Avoidant Attachment…