Welcome to my Blog

Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.

Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.

Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.

Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.

Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel

P.S.

Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.

 

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What are the best couples therapy books?

What are the best couples therapy books?

Many authors have attempted to provide guidance, strategies, and insights into effective couple therapy and better relationships.

Most of these books are derivative, repetitive, and utterly lacking in original thought.

On the other hand, some books have had enormous social and cultural impact. Here they are…

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What is Differentiation in Relationships?

Differentiation and attachment are critical concepts in couples therapy, each offering a distinct perspective on how relationships function and evolve.

Let's delve into each idea and its implications in the context of couples therapy, drawing on insights from prominent theorists like John Gottman, Ellyn Bader, and Sue Johnson.

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What are Hot Wife Couples?

The term Hot Wife Couple typically refers to a sexual fantasy or lifestyle choice wherein a woman in a committed relationship, often married, is sexually desired and pursued by men outside of her primary relationship, with the knowledge and sometimes the encouragement of her partner.

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Gottman Method vs. EFT

Two prominent models of Couples Therapy have garnered significant attention and acclaim: the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT).

As a couples therapist with advanced training in both models, understanding the similarities and differences between these two approaches can provide valuable guidance in tailoring interventions to meet the specific needs of each couple.

… and it may also help you better choose your couples therapist…

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What is High Infidelity?

High infidelity typically refers to a pattern or prevalence of extramarital or extra-partnership affairs within a relationship, marriage, or otherwise sorta committed, sorta monogamous relationship.

What passes for acceptable and unacceptable infidelity for some couples in certain American subcultures is sometimes quirky, and may require an open and curious stance on the part of the couples therapist...

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What to expect in Couples Therapy…

This blog post will delve deep into what to expect in couples therapy, drawing insights from prominent models such as the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy.

By understanding these approaches, you can better prepare for your transformative process.

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What is Weaponized Kindness?

Weaponized kindness refers to the strategic and deliberate use of acts of kindness or generosity to achieve certain goals or outcomes, often in situations where one might not expect such tactics to be employed.

It typically involves using benevolent gestures or behaviors to persuade, manipulate, or influence.

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Twice-exceptional students

Twice-exceptional adults refer to individuals who possess both outstanding intellectual abilities, often in the form of giftedness, and one or more disabilities or challenges, such as ADHD, dyslexia, or autism spectrum disorder.

Research on this population has gained momentum recently, shedding light on their unique strengths, challenges, and needs.

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