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A Modest Guide to Couples Therapy: Strengthening Relationships Through Professional Support
In a world of rising Cultural Narcissism, maintaining a healthy relationship can be challenging.
With the increasing pressures of work, family, and societal expectations, it's no wonder that couples often find themselves struggling to keep their relationships on track.
Couples therapy, often seen as a last resort, is actually a powerful tool that can help partners reconnect, improve communication, and address underlying issues before they become insurmountable.
This modest guide explores the benefits of couples therapy, various therapeutic approaches—including hopeful spouse counseling—and provides practical advice for navigating the complexities of relationship challenges.
How Does Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Differ from Other Forms of Couples Therapy?
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a unique and highly effective approach to couples therapy that focuses on creating secure emotional bonds and strengthening attachment between partners.
Developed by thought leaders Les Greenberg and Sue Johnson in the 1980s, EFT is rooted in the understanding that emotional connection is essential for relationship health.
Unlike Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which primarily targets changing thought patterns and behaviors, EFT delves into the emotional experiences and needs that drive relationship dynamics, aiming to transform negative cycles into positive, secure patterns.
This deep focus on emotions makes EFT especially powerful in helping couples resolve conflicts, rebuild trust, and develop lasting emotional intimacy.
Book Review: Man’s Search for Meaning, a close read by a Marriage and Family Therapist
Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning is more than a memoir of survival; it is a manifesto on the human condition, illuminating how we find meaning amidst suffering.
While traditionally examined through the lenses of existential philosophy or psychology, approaching this text as a marriage and family therapist reveals new layers of insight into the dynamics of relationships and the shared quest for purpose.
How Long Does It Take for Marriage Counseling to Work? (And Will You Still Be Married by Then?)
When it comes to marriage counseling, one of the burning questions couples often have is, “How long does it take for marriage counseling to work before we see some results?”
After all, if you’re diving into the deep waters of therapy, you want to know when you can expect to come up for air and breathe a little easier.
The short answer is that the timeline varies depending on a host of factors, but let’s dig deeper into what the research says.
Spoiler alert: it’s not going to be a quick fix, but the journey is worth it.
How Do You Spell Relief in Your Relationship? The Science of Recognizing Improvement in Couples Therapy
When you think of relief in the context of relationships, it might conjure up images of a sigh after a long argument or the moment when your partner finally admits you were right about where to put the spoons.
But in couples therapy, relief is far more than just a fleeting feeling—it's a powerful indicator that real, substantial progress is being made.
How do you spell relief?
Couples Therapy 2024: Love in the Time of Cultural Chaos
In 2024, couples therapy isn’t just a service; it’s a science-based lifeline.
And believe me, couples need one when the waters of modern culture are as choppy as they’ve ever been.
I say this with the deepest empathy for the people who walk through my door, seeking connection, understanding, and, let’s be honest, a way to survive the madness that is life in 2024.
Buddhist Compassion: Cultivating Kindness in Relationships
Buddhist teachings on compassion and mindfulness offer powerful tools for enhancing relational dynamics.
As a science-based couples therapist, I see how these principles can transform relationships by fostering kindness and empathy.
My work often revolves around alleviating "meaningless suffering" in relationships, and the practices derived from Buddhism provide a profound means to achieve this.
I advise my clients to integrate compassion and mindfulness into their daily interactions. In doing so, couples can create a more nurturing and supportive partnership.
Taoist Harmony: Balancing Yin and Yang in Relationships
Taoism, with its profound emphasis on balance and harmony, provides valuable insights for modern relationships.
As a marriage and family therapist, I've seen how the principles of Yin and Yang can help couples navigate the complexities of relational dynamics.
By understanding and applying these ancient concepts, couples can foster a more harmonious and balanced partnership, enhancing both emotional and physical intimacy.
Indigenous Spirituality: Honoring Connection and Community
Indigenous spirituality offers a wealth of wisdom on the importance of connection and community.
As a science-based marriage and family therapist, I believe that these principles can profoundly impact our relational dynamics.
The emphasis on interconnectedness, respect for nature, and the value of ancestral wisdom provides a holistic approach to fostering healthy and fulfilling relationships.
Stoicism in Relationships: Finding Strength in Adversity
Many have found that the ancient philosophy of Stoicism offers timeless wisdom that can be applied to enhance our relationships.
As a science-based marriage and family therapist, I often see couples struggling with heartbreaking adversity.
Let's explore how Stoic principles can help us build stronger, more resilient relationships, and dive deep into the realm of intimacy.
Ancient Greek Philosophy: Wisdom for Modern Love
Ancient Greek philosophers like Socrates, Plato, and Aristotle provided timeless insights into human behavior and relationships.
As a marriage and family therapist, I find their teachings particularly relevant for modern relational dynamics.
These philosophers explored the nature of love, virtue, and the self, offering profound wisdom that can enhance our understanding and practice of love in today's world.
Balancing Independence and Togetherness in Marriage: a guide to healthy relationships
Marriage is often viewed as the ultimate union of two individuals.
However, the strength of this union depends not on the dissolution of individuality but on the healthy balance between independence and togetherness.
Some of my clients have shown me how maintaining emotional independence in marriage can lead to a more fulfilling and resilient relationship.
In this blog post, we’ll explore how independence in marriage goes beyond mere physical space and encompasses freedom from sleepwalking into reactivity, addiction, and self-absorption in an increasingly anxious age.