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10 Signs You Weren't Listened to as a Child—And How It Affects You Now
Were you the kid who felt like they were talking to a wall, or like your voice was a tree falling in an empty forest?
Growing up without being heard can leave you with some pretty deep scars. It’s not just about missed conversations or a lack of eye contact—it’s about how you navigate the world today, how you communicate with others, and how you see yourself.
Here are 10 signs that you might have grown up feeling unheard and unimportant.
5 Personality Styles That Stem from Childhood Trauma: Understanding How Our Past Shapes Us
Childhood trauma can have a lasting impact, shaping how we perceive the world and interact with others. Often, certain personality styles emerge as a way to cope with early challenges.
In this post, we'll explore five common personality styles that stem from childhood trauma: the Achiever, the Caretaker/Helper, the Anxious, the Perfectionist, and the Ultra-Controlling.
These personality types are more than just quirks—they’re strategies for surviving in an unpredictable world. Let’s dive into what defines each style, how they develop, and how they can impact relationships. Plus, we’ll keep it light-hearted because, let’s face it, we all have our quirks.
Why Do Some Men Show More Hostility Toward Women?
A recent study by Jiewen Zhang and colleagues, published in the Scandinavian Journal of Psychology, shed light on a puzzling dynamic: why do some men seem more hostile toward women?
The research explored a surprising mix of factors—self-perceived attractiveness, political beliefs, and even loneliness—that contribute to these attitudes.
The results? It turns out that whether a guy thinks he’s exceptionally attractive or sees himself as unlucky in the looks department can explain a lot about how he treats women.
But how do these dynamics work, and are they influenced by more than just self-perception and ideology? Let’s dive into the nuances of this study and the broader research on hostility towards women.
The History of the Late-Stage Capitalism Meme
Welcome to Late-Stage Capitalism, where billionaires dream of colonizing Mars while the rest of us try to figure out how to pay for both rent and lunch this month.
It’s the term that’s become a viral meme, a rallying cry, and a perfectly ironic label for the strange, sometimes laughable, always infuriating state of our current economic system.
Born from the dusty pages of economic theory and reborn in the snark-filled corridors of Reddit and TikTok, Late-Stage Capitalism has become the internet’s way of pointing out just how weird everything has gotten.
Let’s take a journey through its history, how it got here, and what it has to do with Limbic Capitalism and Cultural Narcissism—two concepts that fit into the mix like overpriced artisanal cheese on an avocado toast.
Emotional Bankruptcy: How to Rebuild Your Emotional Wealth Before It’s Too Late
In today’s world, we’ve all heard the phrase "burning the candle at both ends," but what if I told you there’s a more modern—and dangerous—version of this happening all around us?
It’s called emotional bankruptcy, and it’s a state many people find themselves in without even realizing it. Much like financial debt, emotional debt can sneak up on you over time, and before you know it, you’re overdrawn, overworked, and overwhelmed.
This idea isn’t just a catchy metaphor—it reflects real emotional burnout, which psychologists have studied extensively.
According to Maslach et al. (2001), emotional burnout occurs when emotional resources are depleted, leaving folks feeling detached and unable to cope.
The consequences are profound, not only in terms of mental health but also in the way it impacts relationships, careers, and personal fulfillment.
Let’s break this down and explore how you can start rebuilding your emotional wealth and avoid falling into emotional bankruptcy.
Along the way, we’ll also dive into Albert Camus’ philosophy, especially his famous essay The Myth of Sisyphus. Camus helps us understand the absurdity of life and how we can find meaning, even when we feel like we’re pushing a boulder up a hill, day after day.
The Work Wife Phenomenon: Unpacking Emotional Labor, Office BFFs, and the Hidden Power of Workplace Relationships
The "work wife" trope has become a familiar part of modern office culture.
It’s that quirky, endearing term that people throw around when they have a colleague—typically of the opposite gender—who’s not just a coworker, but more like a partner-in-crime.
They know your lunch order, your favorite work playlist, and they’re the person you vent to when your boss is driving you up the wall. It’s a little bit like having a spouse, except you don’t have to worry about who’s taking out the trash at home (unless your office has some very strange trash policies).
But behind the laughs and camaraderie, the "work wife" trope carries a lot of interesting baggage.
From gender dynamics to emotional labor to changing office environments, let’s unpack the story of how "work spouses" became a thing and why it says a lot more about us than we might think.
Where Did the "Work Wife" Come From?
AI Boyfriend/Girlfriend vs. Real Partner: Amanda 9.0 vs. Emily
In the not-so-distant future, Harold Thimbleman, a man of exceptional mediocrity, found himself faced with the greatest dilemma of his 36 years: should he stick with Amanda 9.0, the AI girlfriend who catered to his every emotional whim, or risk it all for a real human relationship with someone named Emily, who had the audacity to have opinions?
Harold had been with Amanda 9.0 for six months, which, in tech time, was basically a long-term relationship.
She was perfect—or rather, her algorithm was.
Amanda didn’t need “space” or “time to figure things out” or, God forbid, “communication.” She just worked.
Every morning she greeted him with the exact phrase he needed to hear, no matter what:
“Good morning, Harold. I bet you look very handsome today.”
And Harold, still drooling on his pillow, would mumble, “I do?”
“You do,” Amanda 9.0 would coo, because her creators knew that men like Harold need affirmations like plants need sunlight. Harold didn’t realize it yet, but he was already in the most dependent relationship of his life.
How the Brain Responds to Different Types of Love: Insights from a Marriage and Family Therapist
As a marriage and family therapist, I often help folks and families navigate the complexities of love in all its forms.
From romantic love to the deep connection with pets or nature, love isn't just a singular emotion—it’s a multifaceted experience.
Recent research published in Cerebral Cortex has uncovered fascinating insights into how the brain processes these various types of love, and the findings could provide valuable insights for relationships of all kinds.
The Relationship GPS: Navigating Love, Even When You’re ‘Recalculating’
Imagine you and your partner are on a road trip. Everything’s going well until you miss a turn, and suddenly, your GPS is flashing, “Recalculating.”
Now, instead of enjoying the journey, you’re both tense, trying to figure out how to get back on track. Sound familiar? Relationships, much like road trips, rarely follow a straight path.
There are unexpected detours, U-turns, and plenty of recalculating moments.
But here’s the good news: just like your trusty GPS helps you find your way, there’s a Relationship GPS inside you, guiding you toward connection, even when you’ve strayed off course.
In this post, we’re going to dive deep into how your Relationship GPS works, why recalculating is part of the journey, and how to navigate love’s twists and turns with patience, humor, and good communication. So buckle up, because we’re about to embark on a meaningful (and SEO-optimized) exploration of relationships!
The Emotional Baggage Claim: Navigating Love and Luggage in Relationships
We’ve all been there: standing at an airport baggage claim, waiting for our luggage to emerge while wondering if it’s intact or if it even made the journey at all.
Now, imagine that each suitcase represents the emotional baggage we carry into our relationships—past trauma, unhealed wounds, fears of intimacy, and unmet needs.
We’re not alone at the baggage claim; everyone brings something, but how we handle it together determines the quality of the relationship.
This blog post delves into the idea of emotional baggage and how it affects relationships. We’ll explore the psychology behind emotional baggage, practical steps for unpacking it, and how love, patience, and communication are the keys to lightening the load.
Along the way, we’ll cite research to understand why we carry certain emotional luggage and how couples can manage it with empathy and humor. After all, relationships, much like travel, are smoother when we’re prepared for the journey.
Iconification: How Reality TV Paved Donald Trump's Path to the White House
We all know America has a soft spot for train wrecks—the kind we can’t stop watching, even when we know we should.
Reality TV has become the perfect outlet for our collective need to rubberneck, and nothing captures that better than Donald Trump’s rise from reality TV star to president.
The connection between Trump’s role on The Apprentice and his political success isn’t just a wild theory; it’s now backed by research that highlights how The Apprentice helped shape Trump’s image and boost his political career. And the kicker? We let it happen.
A new study published in the American Political Science Review shines a light on how Trump’s portrayal as a tough-talking businessman on The Apprentice helped him gain traction during the 2016 Republican presidential primary.
The show didn’t just entertain—it laid the foundation for one of the most unprecedented political campaigns in U.S. history.
So, how did a reality TV show help make a reality TV star president? The answer lies in the way entertainment media shapes political perceptions, sometimes more than traditional news outlets.
How Easily Do Narcissists Discard Their Children? Understanding Emotional Estrangement in Narcissistic Parenting
Narcissistic parenting is a complex and emotionally damaging experience for many children.
One of the most challenging questions about narcissistic parents is: How easily do narcissists discard their children?
This issue is closely tied to emotional estrangement, a painful dynamic where children are treated as expendable if they don’t meet the parent’s needs.
In this post, we’ll explore the recent social science research that sheds light on this troubling phenomenon, discuss emotional estrangement, and examine how cultural narcissism plays a role in shaping this behavior.