Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist with an international practice.
I write about what happens to desire, attachment, and meaning once the early myths stop working.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I'm glad you've found your way here. I can help with that. I'm accepting new clients, and this blog is for the benefit of all my gentle readers.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what's useful back into your life and relationships.
And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, l'd love to hear from you. Let's explore the scope of work you'd like to do together.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~ Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you're curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that l've been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
What is Emotional Infidelity? a science-based exploration
Emotional infidelity is a concept gaining increasing attention both in scientific circles and popular culture.
While sexual infidelity is often straightforward to define and understand, the boundaries of emotional infidelity are more fluid and subjective.
But what exactly does emotional infidelity entail?
Can Couples Repair After Infidelity
Infidelity is one of the most damaging events that can affect a relationship.
Rebuilding trust after infidelity is 3 part process that requires time, effort, and understanding from both parties.
Let’s explore research on this topic, noticing cultural differences and focusing on effective strategies for restoring trust.
What counts as cheating?
Cheating can be as perplexing as deciding what to wear on a Sunday.
Is it that forbidden text message, or the kiss under the mistletoe at the office party?
Let's explore evolutionary psychology and some solid social science research.
Signs of a cheating wife: What research and experts say
Detecting signs of a cheating wife can be a challenging and emotional experience. However, insights from recent social research and experts in the field can help you better understand what to look for.
In this post, we will explore the most common signs of infidelity and what modern studies say about them.
How to talk to your spouse about money without fighting
Money, they say, makes the world go round. But when it comes to discussing finances with your spouse, it can feel more like you’re spinning in circles—or worse, gearing up for a boxing match.
Fear not, gentle reader, for I, your trusty couples therapist, am here to guide you through the treacherous terrain of marital money talks.
With a pinch of humor and a dollop of research-backed advice, you'll be able to navigate these conversations without turning them into arguments. Let's dive in.
Why female narcissists bully differently than you might expect
Narcissism isn't a one-size-fits-all trait, especially when it comes to gender.
Research reveals that female narcissists tend to be 'vulnerable' while their male counterparts are more often 'grandiose.'
Dr. Claire Hart, co-author of two pivotal studies on gender and narcissism, sheds light on this distinction.
10 Questions to ask your unfaithful spouse
Infidelity can shatter the foundation of a relationship, leaving partners grappling with intense emotions and deep-seated questions.
In this post, we explore ten profound questions to ask your unfaithful spouse, drawing from the wisdom of renowned relationship expert Esther Perel.
These questions are designed to help you understand the betrayal and foster healing, growth, and a renewed connection.
High Functioning Autism in Females
High-functioning autism (HFA), often referred to as Asperger's Syndrome, is characterized by challenges in social interaction, communication, and repetitive behaviors.
While autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is more commonly diagnosed in males, recent research has highlighted that high-functioning autism in females presents unique symptoms that often go unrecognized, leading to underdiagnosis and misdiagnosis.
High-Functioning Autism and Defiance
High-functioning autism (HFA), also known as Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) Level 1, encompasses folks with average to above-average intelligence but who face significant challenges in social interactions, communication, and behavior.
Defiance in folks with HFA is a complex issue, influenced by a variety of factors.
Let’s ponder the intricacies of high-functioning autism and defiance, exploring research findings and practical strategies for managing these behaviors.
High-Functioning Autism and Tics
High-functioning autism, also known as Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), is a neurological developmental disorder characterized by difficulties with social interaction, communication challenges, and repetitive behaviors.
A lesser-explored aspect within high-functioning autism is the occurrence of tics, which can significantly impact the quality of life and daily functioning.
High-Functioning Autism and School Refusal
School refusal is a significant issue that many parents and educators face, especially when it involves children with high-functioning autism.
High-functioning autism, often referred to as Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) without intellectual disability, includes folks who are capable of managing daily life independently but still struggle with social interactions, communication, and behavioral flexibility.
Understanding the intricate relationship between high-functioning autism and school refusal is crucial for developing effective strategies to support these children and their families.
What Are PDAs in Relationships?
Public displays of affection, commonly referred to as PDAs, are physical acts of intimacy shown between partners in public.
These acts can range from holding hands to kissing and hugging.
PDAs are often viewed as a way for couples to express their affection and connection to each other, even when they are in the presence of others.