Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist with an international practice.
I write about what happens to desire, attachment, and meaning once the early myths stop working.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I'm glad you've found your way here. I can help with that. I'm accepting new clients, and this blog is for the benefit of all my gentle readers.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what's useful back into your life and relationships.
And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, l'd love to hear from you. Let's explore the scope of work you'd like to do together.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~ Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you're curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that l've been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
What is ad4k ADHD?
ADHD, or Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder, is a neurodevelopmental condition marked by inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity.
The term "ad4k ADHD" has recently surfaced in a few online communities, hinting at a more intense manifestation of ADHD symptoms, akin to "upgrading" from standard to high-definition.
Let’s discuss what ad4k ADHD entails, its implications, and how it affects folks and their relationships.
Why young men and women are drifting apart
The drift between young men and women is a multifaceted issue, influenced by various social, economic, and cultural factors.
Let’s consider some recent research and the insights of prominent thinkers like Richard Reeves to explore why young men and women are increasingly drifting apart.
By understanding these dynamics, we can better address the challenges and foster healthier relationships between the sexes.
Behavior that is Passive-Aggressive and Narcissism
Understanding the interplay between passive-aggressive behavior and narcissism is essential in navigating the complex dynamics that often arise in intimate relationships.
Both behaviors can significantly impact the quality of relationships, leading to misunderstandings, conflict, and emotional distress.
Let’s explore the characteristics, underlying mechanisms, and strategies for addressing these behaviors in a therapeutic context.
Narcissism and gift-giving
Gift-giving is often perceived as a selfless act, a way to show love, appreciation, or gratitude.
However, when it comes to narcissists, this seemingly altruistic behavior takes on a whole new meaning.
Let's discuss the fascinating world of narcissism and gift-giving.
We will explore how narcissists use gifts as tools for manipulation, control, and ego inflation.
A curated list of books on narcissism and divorce
Divorce is never easy, but throw a narcissist into the mix, and it's like trying to navigate a minefield while blindfolded.
Whether you're contemplating divorce, already in the thick of it, or still reeling from the aftermath, understanding the narcissistic dynamics at play is crucial.
As a science-based couples therapist, I’ve curated a list of must-read books on narcissism and divorce to help you navigate this challenging journey with some humor and a lot of practical advice.
OCD and Narcissism
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are two distinct mental health conditions, each with unique characteristics and symptoms.
However, research has indicated potential overlaps and interactions between these disorders. Understanding the relationship between OCD and narcissism is crucial for clinicians and folks affected by these conditions.
Let’s explore the similarities, differences, and co-occurrence of OCD and NPD, supported by scientific research.
Parental alienation and narcissism
Parental alienation is a complex and emotionally charged issue often seen in high-conflict divorces.
When coupled with narcissism, the dynamics become even more toxic, leading to significant psychological damage to the child involved.
Let’s discuss the causes, effects, and potential interventions for families experiencing these challenges.
"The Mask of Sanity" by Hervey Cleckley
As a couples therapist, delving into Hervey Cleckley's 1941 seminal work, "The Mask of Sanity," offers profound and enduring insights into the enigmatic world of psychopathy.
Cleckley's detailed exploration provides a framework that remains relevant today, shedding light on how psychopathic traits can manifest within intimate relationships.
Additionally, the book's themes resonate deeply with the contemporary concept of Cultural Narcissism.
ADHD and narcissism
Understanding the complex relationship between ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) and narcissism can be like trying to untangle a ball of Christmas lights.
One is an integral part of the broader concept of neurodiversity, which celebrates the variety of ways human brains can function. The other is a clear sign of relational havoc.
Yet, there's a peculiar intersection where the traits of ADHD and narcissism can sometimes mirror each other, leading to misconceptions.
The psychological impact of working with Artificial Intelligence Systems
As artificial intelligence (AI) systems become increasingly integrated into workplaces, understanding their psychological effects on employees is crucial.
Research indicates that folks working extensively with AI are more likely to experience loneliness, which can lead to mental health issues such as increased alcohol consumption after work and insomnia.
Geez…
Is there a link between high intelligence and mental illness?
Recent research has revealed that folks with high IQs are at a significantly higher risk of developing mental health issues.
Studies suggest that those with exceptional intelligence may be up to four times more likely to experience mental illness. But why is this the case?
And why does genetic research say …not so fast?
What is Considered a High IQ?
IQ, or intelligence quotient, is a measure used to assess an individual's intellectual capabilities and potential.
Understanding what constitutes a high IQ and why it matters can provide valuable insights into cognitive abilities and life outcomes.