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Do I Have Childhood Trauma Quiz
Understanding your past can be a crucial step in healing and personal growth. This quiz is designed to help you explore potential childhood trauma.
Inspired by the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) study, this quiz will guide you through a series of questions to evaluate your experiences.
Remember, this quiz is not a substitute for professional advice but can be a starting point for understanding your history.
Why female narcissists bully differently than you might expect
Narcissism isn't a one-size-fits-all trait, especially when it comes to gender.
Research reveals that female narcissists tend to be 'vulnerable' while their male counterparts are more often 'grandiose.'
Dr. Claire Hart, co-author of two pivotal studies on gender and narcissism, sheds light on this distinction.
Life is hard, get a helmet: navigating modern relationship challenges
Relationships today are a lot like riding a roller coaster blindfolded, in a hailstorm, with a dubious safety harness.
In other words, life is tough, get a helmet!
Modern couples face an array of challenges that can make even the most stable relationship feel like it's teetering on the edge of a cliff.
From financial woes and work stress to digital distractions and societal pressures, the path to a happy, healthy partnership can be as tricky as navigating a minefield on a pogo stick.
Behavior that is Passive-Aggressive and Narcissism
Understanding the interplay between passive-aggressive behavior and narcissism is essential in navigating the complex dynamics that often arise in intimate relationships.
Both behaviors can significantly impact the quality of relationships, leading to misunderstandings, conflict, and emotional distress.
Let’s explore the characteristics, underlying mechanisms, and strategies for addressing these behaviors in a therapeutic context.
"The Mask of Sanity" by Hervey Cleckley
As a couples therapist, delving into Hervey Cleckley's 1941 seminal work, "The Mask of Sanity," offers profound and enduring insights into the enigmatic world of psychopathy.
Cleckley's detailed exploration provides a framework that remains relevant today, shedding light on how psychopathic traits can manifest within intimate relationships.
Additionally, the book's themes resonate deeply with the contemporary concept of Cultural Narcissism.
The psychological impact of working with Artificial Intelligence Systems
As artificial intelligence (AI) systems become increasingly integrated into workplaces, understanding their psychological effects on employees is crucial.
Research indicates that folks working extensively with AI are more likely to experience loneliness, which can lead to mental health issues such as increased alcohol consumption after work and insomnia.
Geez…
Does the conscious mind hinder our ability to detect a lie?
Discerning truth from lies often feels like navigating a minefield blindfolded.
Surprisingly, it's not just an impression—studies consistently reveal how challenging it is for human beings to detect deception.
Dr. Leanne ten Brinke, who has delved into this perplexing arena, points out:
"Our research was prompted by the puzzling but consistent finding that humans are very poor lie detectors, performing at only about 54% accuracy in traditional lie detection tasks."
Given that a coin toss gives you a 50% chance, our lie-detection skills seem barely better than chance. But why is this the case, and what can we do about it?
The whispers of safety and the roar of freedom
In the year 2624, the ancient city of Boston was a beacon of technological marvels, towering skyscrapers kissed by the clouds, and streets humming with the rhythm of progress.
Yet beneath this glittering surface, an unseen force dictated the lives of its inhabitants: the Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP). Originally developed to promote well-being, the SSP had become an omnipresent whisper in the ears of every citizen, a tool for control rather than healing.
Gaslighting in America
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation that can have devastating effects on a person's mental health and sense of reality.
As a couples therapist, I sometimes encounter folks who struggle to understand and identify this insidious form of abuse.
This guide aims to provide a comprehensive overview of gaslighting, including its signs, effects, and, in particular, strategies for recognizing and addressing it.
Why narcissists struggle to keep friends (Hint: it’s not just about ego)
Narcissists often make friends quickly, but keeping them? That's a different story. They often lack emotional intelligence, a critical quality for long-term friendship.
But why don’t these positive first impressions become lasting bonds?
At first glance, narcissists are incredibly attractive to others.
Their self-assurance and showmanship draw people in like moths to a flame.
But sustaining those friendships becomes a challenge once the initial charm wears off. But Why?
Because emotional intelligence, not just charisma, is key to long-lasting relationships.
Why fun activities often leave us craving more: the distraction trap
During activities meant to bring pleasure, distractions like phones, anxious thoughts, or simple mind wandering can divert our focus.
This lack of attention means we don't derive the expected pleasure from these experiences, leaving us craving more.
This cycle can lead to behaviors like overeating, excessive gaming, or endless traveling without truly enjoying the moments.
5 ways to spot a Christian narcissist: When piety and ego collide
In a world where virtues like humility and love are extolled, it seems paradoxical that narcissism could find a foothold within Christianity.
Yet, the phenomenon of Christian narcissism exists, blending self-righteousness with an inflated sense of importance.
Here’s a field guide to spotting a Christian narcissist, all while keeping your sense of humor intact.