Therapists don't typically look for drama, but sometimes it finds us.

Especially when the couple in front of you is David, a scriptwriter who tries to live life in beats and scenes, and Sophie, an autistic attorney whose mind is a courtroom, always looking for evidence.

It’s not your usual story—more of a character study than a blockbuster, with dialogue that could only come from two people who see the world in starkly different shades.

One thing that always stands out is how much childhood ADHD shapes a young person’s development—especially for girls.

We often hear about ADHD in boys, but new research is shining a light on how ADHD affects girls as they grow into teenagers, shaping not just their behavior, but their personality.

This isn’t just about fidgeting in class or being easily distracted—it’s about how ADHD influences the way these girls see themselves, relate to others, and navigate the tricky transition from childhood to adolescence.

A recent study published in Research on Child and Adolescent Psychopathology gives us a clearer picture of this.

Researchers found that girls diagnosed with ADHD in childhood tend to become less conscientious, less agreeable, and more emotionally unstable as they move into their teenage years.

This research not only highlights how ADHD impacts personality but also suggests that the environment—particularly family background—plays a key role in shaping how girls with ADHD see themselves.

A new study, published in Nature Mental Health, reveals intriguing insights into how people with autistic traits learn by observing others.

The findings suggest that those with these traits tend to prefer imitation over trying to understand the motives behind other people’s actions.

Think of it like watching someone use a new gadget—do you copy their actions exactly or try to figure out why they’re doing what they’re doing?

For many on the autism spectrum, imitation seems to be the favored approach, skipping the complex step of asking “why?”

This breakthrough could significantly improve our understanding of autism spectrum disorder (ASD), as well as the broader set of autism-like traits present in the general population.

The results of this study provide fresh insights into how the brain processes social learning, making it an important step forward for both researchers and therapists working with folks on the autism spectrum.

In the world of board games, fun and strategy often take center stage.

But for those with high-functioning autism, these games offer much more than just entertainment—they provide a structured, predictable, and low-pressure way to connect with others.

A series of recent studies highlights how board games, like Dixit and Werewolf, are becoming important tools for helping people on the autism spectrum develop social skills, manage anxiety, and build relationships.

Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is often associated with challenges in social communication and interaction.

Many folks with autism struggle with interpreting social cues, maintaining conversations, and navigating the unpredictability of human relationships.

But board games are emerging as a powerful way to ease these challenges, offering a structured and enjoyable environment for social interaction.

Being twice-exceptional (2E) is like juggling fire while riding a unicycle—you’ve got incredible strengths paired with unique challenges.

If you’re 2E, you already know that life isn’t a straight line, but more of a zig-zag through brilliance, distraction, and the occasional “Where did I put my phone? Oh sh*t , I left it at the Dairy Queen.”

For those who identify as twice-exceptional, the journey of navigating attachment issues and family dynamics while leaving a lasting legacy can feel overwhelming.

But here’s the good news: with the right tools, including family therapy and emotional support, you’re not only capable of thriving—you’re building something extraordinary for the future.

We all know about physical hoarding—the piles of clutter, the inability to let go of things we no longer need. But what happens when that hoarding takes the form of emotions?

Enter emotional hoarding—the accumulation of unresolved feelings, past grievances, and unspoken issues that pile up until they completely block healthy communication within a family.

Emotional hoarding is a sneaky disruptor of family relationships, leading to conflict, distance, and, often, a breakdown of trust and intimacy.

As a couples therapist, I’ve seen it play out many times, including in one family who stepped into my office: the Landers.

In this blog, we’ll unpack the concept of emotional hoarding, using the Landers as our case study to explore its impact on neurodivergent and neurotypical family members alike. Using research-backed insights, we'll also discuss how families can break the cycle and clear out their emotional clutter.

Have you ever heard someone say they’re feeling “extra spicy” today, but they’re not talking about food?

Welcome to the world of neurospicy, a playful term that’s taking over social media platforms like TikTok and Instagram.

If neurodivergent brains were flavors, being neurospicy would mean you’ve got a little more zing—a unique spice that makes life a bit more interesting.

In this blog post, we’re diving into the history of the neurospicy meme, why it’s going viral, and how this quirky term is reshaping the conversation around neurodivergence.

What Does “Neurospicy” Even Mean?

Yes, you read that right—Olympic events! Welcome to the Executive Dysfunction Olympics, where neurodivergent executives battle it out to master the art of “getting through the day.”

Now, let me introduce you to my client Rishi, a highly successful CEO of a thriving tech startup.

From the outside, Rishi seems to have it all together—leading a team, securing investors, and spearheading product launches.

But behind the scenes, Rishi is competing in his own version of the Executive Dysfunction Olympics, where simple tasks can feel like extreme sports.

Have you ever watched a video at double speed?

Everything moves so fast, you struggle to keep up.

Now, imagine living with that sensation every day. Welcome to 2x Speed Brain, where thoughts race ahead, focus is fleeting, and even simple tasks can feel like an overwhelming juggling act.

For neurodivergent folks—especially those with ADHD and autism—this is a familiar reality.

2x Speed Brain is more than just a meme; it’s a way to describe the mental chaos that comes from having a brain wired for rapid-fire thinking. Let’s dive into the science behind 2x Speed Brain, and discover strategies to harness its power.

What is 2x Speed Brain?

You’re at a family dinner. The conversation is loud, there are too many people, and your internal social battery is dropping rapidly.

Suddenly, you feel it: that 1% warning. You might as well see a flashing red light in the corner of your eye screaming, “SOCIAL BATTERY LOW.”

Welcome to the world of the Social Battery Gauge meme, where managing your social energy is just as critical as managing your phone's battery.

What is the Social Battery Concept?

In any relationship, feeling misunderstood or criticized is hard to handle, but for people with ADHD, these feelings can be amplified into something much more intense—rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD).

When rejection sensitivity is present in a relationship, it can cause a cycle of hurt, confusion, and emotional withdrawal, as the partner with ADHD feels overwhelmed by perceived criticism, and their partner struggles to understand why their words hit so hard.

Take Mia and Tom: Mia has ADHD, and despite Tom’s best intentions, she often perceives his casual comments as criticism. One evening, when Tom asks if she remembered to handle an errand, Mia feels instantly flooded with anxiety and hurt, as if Tom were attacking her character. This leaves Tom bewildered, wondering why a simple question caused such an intense reaction.

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Running a household is a team effort, but when one partner has ADHD, things can get a bit more chaotic.

Consider my clients Lily and Jack: Lily, bursting with creative energy, often dives into new projects, leaving half-finished tasks and scattered tools in her wake. Jack, who loves order, finds himself tidying up and organizing, often feeling frustrated by the clutter.

If this sounds familiar, don’t worry—there are ways to make household organization work, even when ADHD is part of the mix.

With a few simple strategies, couples like Lily and Jack can create a system that brings harmony and keeps their home in order. Let’s explore some ADHD-friendly home organization tips that can transform chaos into calm.