Somewhere out there, a couple is toasting over tacos because “Today is the one-year anniversary of the first time we both pretended to enjoy kale.”

Welcome to the era of arbitrary-versaries—the chaotic-good, semi-ironic, deeply sincere relationship meme where couples celebrate weird, off-brand milestones like:

• “The day we both cried watching the same TikTok.”

• “First shared dental floss.”

• “Anniversary of our joint hatred of your mother’s gluten-free stuffing.”

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t’s romantic. It’s ridiculous. It’s quietly radical.

Because in a world where everything is content and nothing feels sacred, these micro-milestones are a rebellion against the hyper-scripted, commodified rituals of love.

And, shockingly, they might actually be better for your relationship than the traditional anniversary dinner you booked on OpenTable and silently resented the entire time.

Why Go Non-Stimulant?

Let’s start here: stimulant medications like Adderall and Ritalin work. For many people with ADHD, they turn static into signal. Tasks get done. Interruptions decrease. That “blender-in-the-brain” feeling quiets down.

But they don’t work for everyone.

Roughly 25% of people with ADHD don’t respond well to stimulant medications (Faraone et al., 2021).

Others experience unpleasant side effects—insomnia, appetite loss, irritability—or worry about dependence or misuse.

Some have a personal or family history of substance use and want to avoid controlled substances entirely.

And for many women, neurodivergent adults, and people with co-occurring conditions (like anxiety or trauma), stimulant meds are either overkill or off-target.

Amlodipine for ADHD? The Pill That Nobody Invited to the Party

Imagine your medicine cabinet throwing a reunion, and a humble blood pressure pill crashes the event wearing a nametag that says, “Hi, I treat ADHD now.”

That’s essentially what just happened with amlodipine.

A new study in Neuropsychopharmacology suggests this calcium channel blocker—previously best known for preventing strokes in suburban dads—might also help quiet the minds of people with ADHD.

And it didn’t just show up uninvited. It brought behavioral data from rats, zebrafish, and humans—and asked, very politely, to be taken seriously.

We live in the age of curated perception. Instagram filters, clickbait headlines, “vibes.”

It’s all illusion, and we’re all falling for it.

So here’s the question: if you can train your brain to unsee an optical illusion—can you train it to unsee the culture that raised you to fall for it?

Science now says: sort of (PsyPost, 2024).

Let’s start with a bang—except, apparently, for some women with ADHD, the bang doesn’t always come.

A new study published in The Journal of Sex Research (Jensen-Fogt & Pedersen, 2024) offers compelling evidence that ADHD symptom subtypes—particularly inattentive traits—may be quietly undermining women’s orgasmic consistency during partnered sex.

This is not about libido, trauma, technique, or even partner compatibility.

It’s more about the brain’s tricky wiring when it comes to attention.

And it turns out that the wandering mind, a classic marker of inattentive ADHD, may be the real third wheel in the bedroom.

You’re sipping coffee, thinking about an old friend, and the phone rings—it's them.

You dream about a place you’ve never been and then end up there a year later. You feel someone watching you before you turn around—and you're right.

Coincidence? Imagination? Or something more baked into our wiring?

According to new research published in Psychology of Consciousness: Theory, Research, and Practice (Palsson, 2025), these so-called anomalous experiences—premonitions, déjà vu, out-of-body events—aren’t fringe occurrences.

They’re part of being human, especially for people with a curious trait: subconscious connectedness.

Imagine you’re living in a body wired like a pinball machine—flashing lights, relentless motion, reactive tilt sensors.

That’s ADHD for many adults: a combination of emotional speed, impulsivity, and executive dysfunction. Now add alcohol. For some, it’s used as a numbing agent, a social lubricant, or a momentary off-switch for a brain that never quite powers down.

But a new French study published in the Journal of Psychiatric Research (Luquiens et al., 2025) suggests that this combination—ADHD and alcohol—doesn’t merely fail to soothe. It amplifies suffering.

Alcohol, already notorious for wreaking havoc on mood and cognition, exacts an even steeper toll on quality of life for those with ADHD, particularly those stuck in patterns of emotional suppression and impulsive regulation.

Let’s explore why this interaction is especially toxic, what clinicians can learn from it, and how we might support neurodivergent clients in more adaptive emotion regulation.

What Happens When Autistic Adults Let ChatGPT Sit Inside Their Inner Monologue

Welcome to the Thought Correction Desk

It started innocently enough: a late-night spiral, a familiar intrusive loop, and a casual question typed into a chatbot:
"Why do I always mess things up?"

And lo, the AI responded—not with a snide “well, maybe you do,” but with the gentle cadence of a therapist who’s read Daring Greatly twice and has strong opinions about emotional resilience.

For many neurodivergent folks—especially those who are autistic—this emerging trend has a name: AI-assisted cognitive reappraisal, though most just call it talking to the bot when the brain gets loud.

What the Research Says (And Doesn’t Say)

The classic marriage proposal—public, spontaneous, dramatic—has long been presented as the pinnacle of romantic intimacy.

But for many neurodivergent couples, this model is alienating, overwhelming, and at times, even dysregulating.

The surprise proposal assumes a shared cultural script: one partner plans secretly, the other reacts visibly, and both are judged by how moving the footage turns out on Instagram.

But this ritual relies heavily on emotional spontaneity, sensory tolerance, and social fluency—areas where many neurodivergent partners approach differently.

Ivy and Ben met on Hinge. Or maybe it was Tinder.

Either way, they weren’t looking to dismantle the patriarchy—they were just trying to find someone who wouldn’t ghost after three dates and who had a normal relationship with their mother.

Now five years into marriage, Ivy makes more money, Ben folds the laundry, and they both silently judge couples who use the term “hubby.”

They’re a progressive straight couple. They compost. They communicate. They have a shared Google Calendar called "Us."

But lately, something’s been gnawing at them.

The fights don’t make sense. The chores feel lopsided. The sex is… scheduled. They're not in crisis, just stuck in a version of marriage that feels strangely pre-written.

Ivy jokes that they accidentally bought the deluxe starter pack of heteronormativity at Crate & Barrel.

Enter queer theory—not as a sexual identity, but as a relationship philosophy.

Some couples operate on Greenwich Mean Time. Others on Pacific Standard.

And then there are the ones on Emotional Dial-Up with Seasonal Attachment Drift.

Welcome to chrononormativity collapse—that curious, under-the-radar phenomenon where love doesn’t follow a script. Or a calendar. Or your therapist’s deeply color-coded worksheet.

Chrononormativity, a term coined in queer theory, refers to society’s not-so-subtle pressure to live—and love—on schedule.

Think: date, cohabitate, marry, breed, brunch. It’s the Apple Watch of intimacy: sleek, demanding, and quietly judgmental.

But here in the ruins of pandemic-era solitude, housing market absurdity, and polyamory hangovers, couples are going rogue.

They’re not breaking up—they’re falling off the timeline. And they’re often better for it.

I’d like to discuss why some autistic adults lose speech under stress—and what that silence Is saying

There’s a silence that isn’t peaceful.

It arrives mid-conversation. Mid-meeting. Mid-meltdown.

You reach for words, and they dissolve like sugar in hot water. You know what you mean, but your mouth isn’t returning your calls. You stare. Nod. Maybe write. Maybe blink.

You are not confused.
You are not stupid.

You are nonverbal now—and the world has no idea what to do with that.

Welcome to the under-explored, deeply misunderstood, and surprisingly common phenomenon of preverbal exhaustion in autistic adults.