What happens when the scapegoat leaves their family of origin?
Monday, June 10, 2024
Scapegoating, a term popularized by family therapy pioneer Murray Bowen, is a phenomenon where one family member is unfairly blamed for various issues within the family.
When the scapegoat leaves, whether by choice or circumstance, it can lead to profound changes within the family system.
Understanding Scapegoating Dynamics
Scapegoating serves a purpose within the family system, albeit a destructive one. It allows other family members to avoid dealing with their own issues by projecting them onto the scapegoat. This process can have damaging effects on the scapegoat's self-esteem and mental health. As Bowen stated, "The scapegoat is the one who carries the anxiety of the family."
Effects on Family Members
The departure of the scapegoat can have different effects on family members. Some may feel relief, while others may struggle with feelings of guilt or confusion. Salvador Minuchin, a key figure in structural family therapy, noted that this can be a time of upheaval as the family adjusts to the new dynamic. This adjustment period can lead to a reevaluation of family roles and interactions.
Rebuilding Family Dynamics
Family therapy can play a crucial role in helping families navigate this transition. Virginia Satir emphasized the importance of open communication and building self-esteem in fostering healthier family relationships. Through therapy, families can address underlying issues and develop new, more supportive, and nurturing ways of interacting.
Healing and Growth
While the departure of the scapegoat can initially create turmoil, it also presents an opportunity for healing and growth within the family.
Carl Whitaker believed that therapy should focus on changing the way family members interact with each other rather than assigning blame. By addressing underlying issues and promoting healthy communication, families can move towards a more positive and connected dynamic.
Final thoughts
The departure of the family scapegoat is a significant event that can lead to positive changes within the family system. But if a family can acknowledge the impact of scapegoating and work towards healing, it can emerge from this experience stronger and more connected
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
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REFERENCES:
Bowen, M. (1978). Family Therapy in Clinical Practice. New York: Jason Aronson.
Minuchin, S. (1974). Families and Family Therapy. Cambridge: Harvard University Press.
Satir, V. (1983). Conjoint Family Therapy. Palo Alto: Science and Behavior Books.
Whitaker, C., & Ryan, M. (1988). The Family Crucible: The Intense Experience of Family Therapy. New York: Harper Paperbacks.
