Hypersexual Test: Are you more than just a little kinky?
Tuesday, July 16, 2024. This is for MG.
Hypersexuality is a topic often shrouded in mystery, stigma, and misconceptions.
While many might joke about having an insatiable sexual appetite, sex addiction is a serious issue that can wreak havoc on one’s life, much like any other addiction.
With the rise of digital culture and the easy availability of explicit content, understanding and identifying sex addiction has become more critical than ever.
This quiz aims to help you determine whether your sexual behaviors might be veering into addictive territory, while also exploring how Cultural Narcissism plays a role in this modern-day affliction. Are you a hypersexual?
Understanding Hypersexual Disorder
Hypersexual Disorder,(AKA Sex Addiction) is characterized by an obsessive preoccupation with sexual thoughts, fantasies, and behaviors.
It’s not just about having a high libido; it’s about losing control over sexual impulses to the detriment of one’s personal and professional life.
This addiction can manifest through excessive pornography consumption, engaging in risky sexual behaviors, or compulsively seeking out new sexual partners.
One of my clients once asked me “When I lose faith in myself, and can’t give my word, who am I?”
Cultural Narcissism and Sex Addiction
In today’s society, the lines between healthy sexual expression and addiction are increasingly blurred by Cultural Narcissism.
Cultural Narcissism is a societal condition where folks seek constant validation and admiration, often leading to self-centered behaviors and a lack of empathy.
This phenomenon is exacerbated by social media, where people are encouraged to curate their lives for the approval of others.
The need for validation can drive people to seek out sexual conquests as a means of boosting their self-esteem, leading to persisitent addictive patterns of behavior.
The Hypersexual Test
Before diving into the quiz, it's important to note that this is not a diagnostic tool.
If you suspect you or someone you know might have a sex addiction, it’s crucial to seek help from a qualified mental health professional. This quiz is merely a self-exploration.
Let me say it once more. This little quiz is not a diagnostic tool, or a replacement for therapy.
Instructions:
For each statement, choose the option that best describes your experience or feelings over the past 6 months.
I find myself thinking about sex constantly, to the point where it interferes with my daily life.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I use sex or sexual fantasies to cope with stress or difficult emotions.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I feel guilt or shame after engaging in sexual activities.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I have tried to reduce or control my sexual behaviors but have been unsuccessful.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I neglect important responsibilities (work, family, social life) because of my sexual activities.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I engage in risky sexual behaviors, such as unprotected sex or sex with strangers.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I spend a significant amount of time planning or seeking out sexual experiences.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
My sexual activities have caused problems in my relationships.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I feel a constant need for more intense or varied sexual activities to achieve satisfaction.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I have engaged in sexual activities in inappropriate or public places.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I have used money or other resources to obtain sexual services.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I have lied to cover up my sexual behaviors.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I feel anxious or irritable when I am unable to engage in sexual activities.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I have lost interest in activities I used to enjoy because of my focus on sex.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I continue to engage in sexual behaviors despite knowing they are harmful to me.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I have been unable to maintain a long-term relationship because of my sexual behaviors.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I prioritize sexual activities over other important aspects of my life.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I have experienced legal or financial problems due to my sexual activities.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I seek out multiple sexual partners simultaneously.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
I feel a need to engage in sexual activities even when it is inappropriate or dangerous.
a) Never
b) Rarely
c) Sometimes
d) Often
e) Always
Scoring Legend
0-20 points: Your sexual behaviors appear to be within a healthy range. Keep in mind that occasional preoccupation with sex is normal.
21-40 points: You might have some tendencies towards problematic sexual behaviors. It’s worth reflecting on how these behaviors impact your life. Just sayin.’
41-60 points: There might be signs of problematic sexual behaviors that could be a slide into hypersexuality. Consider seeking professional help.
61-80 points: Your sexual behaviors are significantly interfering with your life. Professional intervention is highly recommended.
81-100 points: Wow. You might want to consider that there is a strong likelihood of Hypersexual Disorder. Immediate professional help is often prudent to address this level of hypersexual behaviors.
Resources
If you scored high on this quiz and believe you might be struggling with Hypersexual Disorder, here are some resources that can help:
Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA): A fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other to recover from sex addiction.
The Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH): An organization dedicated to promoting public awareness and understanding of sexual addiction.
American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT): Provides a directory of certified sex therapists who can help address sex addiction.
Remember, this quiz is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment.
If you suspect you have a problem with hypersexual desire, please seek help from a qualified mental health professional.
Final thoughts
Hypersexual Disorder can manifest as a severe condition and significantly impact an individual's life. Understanding and identifying the signs early can lead to effective intervention and treatment.
There’s also a larger question…Are we not men and women? Or have we devolved short of personal integrity because of technology and authoritarianism?
They tell us that
We lost our tails, evolving up
From little snails
I say it's all, just wind in sails
Are we not men?
We are Devo
Are we not men?
D-E-V-O
We're pinheads now
We are not whole
We're pinheads all
Jocko homo
As we navigate a narcissistic culture that often blurs the lines between healthy sexual expression and addiction, it’s crucial to remain mindful of our behaviors and their impact on our lives. If you or someone you know is struggling with hypersexuality, don’t hesitate to reach out for help.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
REFERENCES:
Carnes, P. (2001). Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction. Hazelden Publishing.
Kafka, M. P. (2010). Hypersexual disorder: A proposed diagnosis for DSM-V. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 39(2), 377-400.
Levine, M. P. (2010). Sexual addiction: An exploratory study of problem behavior. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 36(5), 369-385.
Twenge, J. M., & Campbell, W. K. (2009). The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement. Free Press.
